"People are not so much the product of culture as the product of status. Perhaps 79 yuan's eyebrow pencil has never changed, and it has changed with the improvement of status, which has become human nature. " Find your own reasons ",what is reflected behind this sentence is that people are quietly changing their positions and initial intentions. "
1, find the reason yourself.
When bringing an eyebrow pencil for China's live broadcast, some netizens questioned that "China's eyebrow pencil is getting more and more expensive". The subtext of consumers is that "the value of Huaxi Zi can't keep up with the rising price", and I believe that Li Jiaqi has reached this step first. So he retorted positively: Don't talk nonsense, the eyebrow pencil has been in 79 yuan, and it is difficult to make domestic products. Sometimes I find my own reasons, whether my salary has risen or not for so many years, and whether I have worked hard.
There is nothing wrong with the first half. The eyebrow pencil of flowers has not increased in price, and domestic products, especially cosmetics, are struggling in the face of "encirclement and suppression" in Europe, Japan and South Korea. There are external reasons, but there must be internal reasons, such as product quality and so on.
However, the second half of the sentence criticizes consumers on the moral high ground, which is a taboo in the service industry, transcends the fragile sense of boundaries of adults, and directly carries out a comprehensive "nuclear strike" on self-esteem. First of all, everyone will resent themselves, because in this complicated world, you can't get a raise if you work hard, and it doesn't mean that you have a serious job.
After all, the vast majority of ordinary people, especially women, are relatively weak groups in society. This sentence stung everyone's heart and made everyone want to ask, "Is it really my fault not to raise my salary?" . In particular, a head anchor with an annual income of 10 million or even over 100 million will make people feel the injustice of the world more intuitively. You may even make people think that your annual income is hundreds of millions, so you think 79 yuan is not expensive, so "are you condescending to show off to me?" "hallucination"
Secondly, whether you work hard or not has nothing to do with whether you raise your salary, because most customers' denial of product value must be based on "experience", especially the old customers in China. There is a saying in the service industry that "the customer is God", and this goddess said this sentence in order to let China "find its own reasons". Now it's good that you let God find out why she is "incompetent".
God just wants to kill you right now. If it doesn't get out, I won't watch your live broadcast or buy flowers, okay? So at this moment, Hua is the most aggrieved victim, and the user has broken his heart, so the brand and himself have suffered losses. This is a lose-lose situation, so who should "find their own reasons"?
2, the opposition caused by the position
If Li Jiaqi is just an anchor, his first thought must be how to solve the problem without damaging the brand image of the gold owner and taking care of users' emotions. There are about three ways to solve this problem:
The first is to skip directly without attracting everyone's attention. After all, he can control the rhythm of the live broadcast; The second is to skillfully answer or even avoid this question with fluent words; The third is to ask the reason politely and solve the problem with just the right words. But he chose the most unwise and aggressive way to fight back. This just reflects his deepest attitude, that is, the arrogance of "why not eat minced meat" and the "course" divorced from the consumer's position.
On September 1 1, 2023, Li Jiaqi issued an apology, saying that she used to be an ordinary dresser, knowing the hardships of ordinary people, and apologizing to everyone and this lady. This may be the waterloo of his career. Maybe he can still get the favor of high-net-worth customers, but this has caused a crisis of trust between him and the general public, which may make him lose the opportunity to expand the sinking market.
Because the original intention of most users watching his live broadcast is that he can describe the product from the standpoint of users and stimulate the desire to buy by arousing emotions. From the perspective of human nature, it is a very normal thing. Even if he doesn't say this sentence today, he may say something similar one day. Because you can hardly expect a hard pebble on the shore to feel the tenderness of a river, even if that pebble was once one of thousands of stones that sank at the bottom of the water, even if the water pushed it to the warm shore.
Just like you can hardly expect your boss to understand your desire to go home from work, because in his view, home is yours, company is his, and you are the company. These are all natural conceptual oppositions. Therefore, what Chairman Mao said: "Come from the masses, go to the masses" is indeed a truth, which deserves our study and reflection.
3. Yang Xiu's "chicken ribs"
Celebrities who can't keep their mouths shut and end up miserable are everywhere in history. The most classic is Yang Xiu, the "chicken rib brother" who was killed by Cao Cao. The famous saying that "it is tasteless to eat, but it is a pity to abandon it" has almost become his epitaph. His arrogant personality is the root of life tragedy. He is brilliant, quick-thinking, good at speculating other people's thoughts and intentions, and highly valued by Cao Cao.
So he challenged Cao Cao's bottom line again and again, but arrogantly thought that he had absolute prediction and control over the development of things. However, his natural resources were eventually defeated by the variability of human nature and his own arrogance, and he was finally beheaded. If we look at it from another angle, aren't many people in our lives "Yang Xiu"?
When you think you are gifted, you run amok and think you can control your destiny and manipulate others at will. In the end, you will find yourself just a boat in the sea. Finally, you are smarter than yourself. Therefore, maintaining a humble attitude at all times is the "heart-protecting pill" to ensure the smooth and stable life.
4. Bad words hurt people in June.
"Know more about your own reasons" is a true, familiar and disgusting sentence! It's not bad words, but it's better than bad words, because this kind of straightforward questioning is the most fatal blow to the trust relationship. When studying, if your grades are not good, the teacher will tell you, "Find your own reasons, why can others?" He won't care about the real reason for your poor grades.
Whether it is influenced by disharmony in family relations, prejudice against teachers, or falling in love. When urging marriage, if you can't find a partner, your parents will tell you, "Find your own reasons and don't set your sights too high." They don't know or try to understand the real reason why you can't find the right partner. Life is not satisfactory, or the people you meet don't agree with your understanding of the ideal life, or you are just a simple psychological problem (such as social fear).
When the company is in a meeting, if you can't achieve the set goals, the boss will tell you, "Look for your own reasons, as long as I don't explain the results", and he won't care about the reasons why you can't complete the task. Is there a villain in the company, or is there a sudden drastic change in the market, or is there something wrong with the boss himself (such as strategic mistakes or uneven distribution of resources)?
When chatting, if a friend doesn't understand you, he will say to you, "Find your own reason, maybe the other person didn't mean it." He can't put himself in each other's shoes, so he can't talk to you. These are the reasons for the position. Whether teachers, parents, bosses or friends who don't understand you, when they say this sentence, they all stand on their own position and "judge" you from the perspective of an outsider's god.
They said this sentence, in essence, did not promote you to a completely equal position with them. Many times, this is not malicious, just a position.
5. The art of language
One of the important reasons why mankind can have a prosperous civilization is the creation and application of a complex language system, which is the foundation of the pagoda of human civilization. It can be said that the application of language is the most grounded artistic creation in life, and language and writing are also one of the most powerful tools for human beings. Used well, it is the "lubricant" of all social relations, and used badly, it is the "dichlorvos" of all social relations.
The desire to express is a subsidiary product of people's exploration of the world, and people are eager to gain recognition from the outside world through communication and find their own social value.
Blindly reasoning is the lowest form of communication, because at this time you will fall into a strange circle, only hoping that the other party will accept your point of view, but not willing to understand the other party's ideas. Because the dialogue between two people can be called communication, one person's expression can only be called soliloquy, and reasoning is often self-righteous soliloquy. Because adults have complex and fragile "self-esteem", this is a conscious self-protection mechanism, which is what we often call "sense of boundary".
Therefore, people don't like others' denial of themselves in essence. On the bright side, the main line of reasoning is "I want to help you". On the dark side, the subtext is: "I am right, I know more than you, so you have to listen to me". Therefore, blindly reasoning is an infinite denial to the listener. The listener's first reaction is definitely "What makes you say I'm wrong", which leads to emotional confrontation.
In the case of emotional confrontation, even if your truth is extremely correct, it will not cause the other party to sing and think, but will only become the fuse of the dispute. Therefore, communication is a process of emotional guidance, and people who are good at emotional guidance often occupy an absolute theme in interpersonal relationships. They are either "heroes" with friends all over the world, or gentle "gentlemen", or understanding and clapping their hands, or traffickers waiting for him in the dark corner of Myanmar.