Event coordinates Beijing.

It was the weekend and I finished all the work. I'm going to the shopping center to buy some new clothes for myself after the season.

In Beijing, even on Saturday and weekend, there are very few people who really have leisure.

I picked it all afternoon and I haven't been idle for a moment. It's time for dinner, so I just want to go to the bathroom. On the way to the toilet, I met some girls doing market research in a photo shop. A girl in her early twenties noticed me and came to me.

"Hello, can I delay your time doing market research?"

This girl wears delicate makeup and a tall ponytail, which shows that she is very energetic and polite in everything she says and does. It's hard for me to refuse such a girl.

"ok." After I promised to come down, I pointed to the direction of the toilet and added, "I'll go in and come out for you later."

The girl's eyes flashed a trace of disappointment, but then she smiled at me and nodded politely. Although her smile is bright, there is no temperature.

Of course I know what she is thinking. In this fast-paced city, rest time is very rare, and a few people will be idle to fill out a questionnaire that is not good for them and waste time.

And I happen to be the one who is idle and can't waste time. I walked out of the bathroom and went back to her place of work. With her back to me, her back shows her abundant energy. She is politely asking a gentleman in a suit and tie if he can fill out a market survey.

I went straight behind her and patted her on the shoulder from behind.

"Hello, where can I fill out the form?" I asked her with a smile.

When the girl recognized me as the passer-by who said she would come back later to fill out the form, the surprise on her face was hard to hide. She happily led me to the sofa next to her and handed me a market survey with both hands.

"I didn't expect you to come back." She put her chin in her hands, smiled and her face was full of satisfaction.

I smiled at her and bowed my head and continued to fill out the form.

If my actions can warm a girl who works hard and lives hard, there is no doubt that I will be proud of it.

2. Lonely enough that anyone can talk to them.

This sentence doesn't mean anything to belittle.

Or the girl up there.

"How old are you this year?" She asked.

"I just filled 19 yesterday." I said.

She opened her eyes wide and looked at me strangely and said, "Are you still a student?"

I nodded and said, "I'm a freshman now."

"Then add a happy birthday! I thought you were my age. You feel like a young girl working in Beijing. " She remained frank and made no secret of her surprise.

"Thank you. I have been engaged in self-media writing for one year, and I have been exposed to people who are engaged in self-media work, which will definitely be rendered by the working atmosphere. " I explained.

I filled out the form and handed her the pen. After she took the pen, I got dressed and prepared to leave.

When she saw this, she quickly said to me, "If you are not busy, can I talk to you?"

This is the first time that a stranger has asked me such a request. At first, I froze for a few seconds, and then I sat down after a while.

I know I didn't listen and understand in Beijing. So how lonely you will be, and you will be eager to be heard by a stranger.

After I sat down, I didn't say a word. I stared at her and listened patiently to her story.

If loneliness can be defeated by listening, if friendliness is the only comfort at this moment, I am willing to be her confidante.

I noticed a long time ago that young people in big cities are more likely to become friends. At first, I just thought it was because their emotional intelligence was higher and their horizons were broader. Later, I learned that besides their emotional intelligence and knowledge, there was also loneliness from the heart and their resistance to loneliness.

3. There is a group called "Empty Nest Youth in Beishangguang"

A friend who is engaged in photography once mentioned a concept to me, called "Empty Nest Youth in Beishangguang". "Empty nesters" refer to young people who work hard in big cities. They are far away from their hometown and relatives, living alone, lacking emotional sustenance and family life. "Empty nesters in Beishangguang" refer to young people who work hard in first-tier cities like Beishangguang, where the pace of life is extremely fast and their living conditions are more lonely than other cities.

They are obviously individuals, but they have to play the role of the whole family.

They go to the supermarket alone, go to work alone, cook alone, go to the hospital alone, travel alone ... Obviously, in the most prosperous city, they live the most lonely life.

A few years ago, "fleeing north and south" became the slogan of young people at that time. First-tier cities use the word "escape" to describe young people's attitude towards Beishangguang. How much pressure is there?

Didi Big Data once conducted a survey: among the investigators working in Beijing, the number of people who can go home for dinner after 8 pm accounts for 80% of the total number of people surveyed; The average commuting distance is19.2km; The average one-way working time is as high as 52 minutes, which is close to 1 hour. According to these data, it can be assumed that if the commuting time in the morning and evening is 1 hour, then from work to retirement (that is, from the age of 22 to 55), 24,090 hours, that is, about three years, will be spent on the way to work.

What is even more frightening is that Beijing International Trade Center, Shanghai Lujiazui, Shenzhen Shennan Avenue and other places have even been selected as "blood-sucking overtime buildings".

However, the slogan of "escape from the north to Guangzhou" did not last long, and no one responded. From the first day I went to college, almost every teacher and every senior in the advertising industry advocated going to Beishangguang to work hard after graduation. After all, Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen are the cities with the best resources in this country.

Therefore, as long as you live in this love-hate relationship, every young person can't live without their masks. They have to wear masks all the time to cover up their fatigue and depression, dedicate their glory to the world and leave their emotions to themselves.

Beishangguang is indeed cold and lonely: they not only took away our youth, but also let us go back to our long-lost hometown with that light and heavy luggage after the ups and downs, where we started a passionate but stable life. But going north to Guangzhou is also full of enthusiasm. They teach different people different things: they teach some people to change their destiny, while others accept themselves.