Relationship, hate, but want to have it?

When I was a child, I always heard adults say that XXX has something to do, XXX has something to do, XXX has something to do, XXX has something to do, and XXX has something to do. Isn't it a relationship? If you have the ability, rely on it. What does it matter? "

Until later, I slowly discovered that sometimes, relationships are really better than skills.

I first understood the power of relationships when I was faced with distribution after graduation. Although after graduation, everyone shouted "Go to the frontier, go to the grassroots, go to the place where army building is most needed", in fact, when graduation distribution really reached a critical moment, the slogan shouted when blood was boiling had long been forgotten, and everyone hoped to be assigned to the unit they wanted to go after weighing the pros and cons. Some people want to be close to home, some people want to be close to big cities, some people want to go to relaxing places, some people want to go to combat troops, and many people want to go to non-combat troops. Of course, some comrades yearn for the frontier and hard areas, but most of them can't avoid customs. Although most people don't want to be assigned to places like Xinjiang and Tibet, many people still want to go. Everyone wants to go to the unit near the city, but in the end only a few people can go. The most exaggerated thing is that some people can stay in school, which is the result that many people dream of and even dare not think about. As for how to stay, in fact, everyone knows that it is shameful to say hello to a high level of leadership. At that time, there seemed to be no standard for dividing who, and it didn't matter. At that moment, the gap was highlighted.

Later, when I got to work, the relationship was like a shadow, always around. Of course, that's someone else's relationship. I heard that someone was transferred and wanted to find XXX relationships; I heard that a person with average qualifications was promoted, and it is said that XXX greeted him. I heard that a leader came, and the legend is that the relationship is XXX. I was really unbalanced at that time. I only hate my poor birth. Why doesn't it matter? That year, the unit had a superior leader to check. He is about our age, but he is several positions higher than us. He was arrogant in his speech. Of course, some people say it's also XXX. At that time, three relationships were popular: young master, son-in-law and master. Destiny is a young master, and some people doubt whether they can be a son-in-law. As for the master, the average person can't really be a master without some real skills.

At that time, although I cursed this relationship in my heart, I also expected to have a relationship of my own. After staying in the company for several years, due to the remoteness of the residence, the interviewee broke up and the introduction object was hopeless. Seeing that the distance standard with older youth is getting closer and closer, I also began to look for relationships to see if I could transfer. This transfer plan has been conceived for many years, implemented for many years and operated for many years. I watched the other people in the unit transfer schools in a blink of an eye, but there was no news of my own transfer. For many years, until I left the army, I didn't wait for that passionate call. Facing the cold reality, we have to admit that it is really better to have a relationship.

In fact, I was "angry" for a while because of the relationship. Curse the society, curse these people who have relationships to seize resources and opportunities, but then suddenly think, if we have any relationships, can we really abandon them? Maybe someone can do it, but it is absolutely rare. At least I have to admit that I will use it if necessary. It's just that there is no such relationship in reality, and it doesn't matter how you say it.

With the growth of experience, I slowly expressed my understanding and acceptance of the so-called relationship. After all, China is a human society, but in the United States and other western countries, relations are inevitable, not to mention us. It matters where there are people. There are also imperfections and loopholes in the re-standardization of the system, which need people to implement. As long as someone participates, it will definitely bring people's emotions. Where emotions are needed, there must be relationships. If you want an irrelevant society, you can only say that this idea is too tender. I thought that when I took the post of battalion leader, I told myself to be as fair and just as possible, but in fact, some personal feelings and preferences were inevitably involved behind it. The idea of absolute fairness and transparency is just the naive illusion of children who have not grown up.

However, slowly, we will find that some people who have nothing to do with each other will eventually have their own relationships through hard work. They get the appreciation of a superior through personal efforts, and some directly take up very important positions. For example, the secretaries of senior leaders, although some people envy and hate their important positions, have to admit that most of them are very capable and quality people, and they are appreciated by the leaders and have a good relationship, which is not the result of their efforts and display. However, the fate of these few people cannot make those who have nothing to do feel balanced. After all, such a turning point is a small probability event.

However, will we give up our efforts and pursuit because it has nothing to do with it? If you blame fate when you see something wrong with others, you will give up trying. This is the greatest sorrow. In fact, if you count carefully, it is indeed a very small number of people who matter. Most people, like you and me, are children of ordinary families. Others also have relations, which is the fate. You and I have nothing to do, and it doesn't mean being abandoned by fate. In recent years, a large number of people who used to have relationships have also fallen, and those who have gone up on their own have also been moving forward. While acknowledging the existence of the relationship, we have to admit that we can still find our own way with our own abilities and qualities. Maybe we will take a tortuous road, but at least we will take an open and down-to-earth road. Moreover, ability and quality are also the capital of having a relationship. Many people who have relationships actually have nothing to do at first, but they gradually have relationships through continuous efforts.

We hate the phenomenon of seizing resources or even violating regulations by virtue of relationships, but it can only be a naive idea to let children put an end to relationships. We accept relationships that exist in society. Of course, in the current environment, it is definitely not dare to violate the rules by relationship, but it is inevitable to obtain and occupy certain resource advantages. Although we have no relationship, we will not stop working hard and will not give up the pursuit of a better life.

Maybe one day, through hard work, we will become the relationship in the eyes of others. At this time, what should we do if someone wants to take advantage of our relationship? Maybe we will be upright and upright, maybe we will be cursed. Who knows? After all, we have nothing to do now, and it is more reliable to work hard honestly. If you have been hurt by a relationship, learning to let go may be more important than indulging in complaining.