When I was a child, I often listened to my grandfather talk about their childhood and eventful years at the dinner table. Grandpa was born in the fifties, and his brothers and sisters add up to five. How can a poor family with no money and no food afford to raise so many children? After this question was raised, grandpa smiled and stocked it. Grandpa said that our family is still good, only five children were born, and what's more, seven or eight children were born. Indeed, under the slogan that many people make things easier, the state advocates more births.

However, with the population explosion and the rapid development of scientific and technological civilization, most people only want to have one child. In the 1980s, a two-income family had only one child, so it was absolutely impossible to have a second child. Until now, the family planning policy has changed again, and the second child is fully open!

However, by the second child, young couples are not as happy as they thought, and they don't want to have more children so much. That's what my sister does at home. After seven years of marriage, she has only one daughter. Parents are advising that it is better to have a second child. The result was rejected by my sister and brother-in-law, because I can't support myself! Grandpa said after listening that he used to be able to raise six children, but now young people actually say that they can't raise a second child. Why?

Why don't you want to have a second child

I believe that most people will like children very much. Soft and lovely baby frolicking in front of you, can you not be happy, can you not feel happy? However, the risk of having a second child is too great for the following reasons.

1, it is difficult to balance work and family.

Since the full opening of the second child policy, there have been many pregnant women around Beibei for some time. She even spoke in a circle of friends. A second child is like a game. Everyone is pregnant. Faster than anyone else? Beibei was also asked about the idea of having a second child. But Beibei shook her head very firmly. She doesn't want to be in a dilemma between work and family.

Because Beibei didn't bring her first child, she gave it to her in-laws after weaning at the age of one. Now that she has finally gained a firm foothold in the company, and her children were taken back to kindergarten a few months ago, there is no need to repeat the same mistakes. Women must work and take care of their families. Killing two birds with one stone is really difficult.

2. The economic foundation is not solid.

After most couples get married, they are urged to have children by their in-laws and parents in the first year. Whether you have money or not, you have to have children. But how much does it cost to raise a child? Someone once launched a similar topic on Weibo, and netizens listed a detailed list of funds needed by a child from birth to adulthood, which added up to more than 300,000.

This figure is still put forward in the most common way. If the economic foundation is not solid, where can we afford a second child? There are too many places to spend money on rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea. Children are born responsible and cannot be treated casually. Therefore, for the second child, couples must carefully consider it!

3. Old people don't want to bring it.

According to the traditional thinking of China people, it is an unshirkable responsibility for grandparents to take care of their grandchildren. After all, it is a family pleasure for generations to have grandchildren under one roof. However, this traditional thinking is not suitable for everyone. Because a few people pursue the lifestyle of western countries, they think they have the responsibility to raise their children and have no obligation to raise their grandchildren.

Actually, it's right to think about it. The older generation finally retired and had enough time and space. I have a pension every month. I can eat whatever I want and play wherever I want. Why should we tie the freedom of old age to our grandchildren? It's too painful. So what should couples do if no elderly people are willing to bring a second child?

4. Why do women bother to embarrass themselves twice?

Finally, I brought up my first child and worked hard to get through the most uncomfortable time, and finally ushered in the dawn of relative freedom. Having a second child now is like restarting a computer. Why do women embarrass themselves twice?

From pregnancy to labor, to confinement, and then to taking care of the baby. This mental journey has been experienced once, and many people are unwilling to repeat it. Everyone exists in the world and is an independent individual. It is impossible to be attached to others all one's life.

Only by considering these conditions can we have the courage to have a second child.

Some people decide not to have a second child, while others decide to have a second child. Children are a small life, and as adults, we must be responsible for them. Therefore, before deciding to have a second child, we might as well consider some practical problems. Only by considering these conditions can we have the courage to have a second child.

1, who brought it? This is the most important point, whether there are in-laws to solve it. Or if conditions permit, please ask a nanny to help with the baby.

2. Is there room for the second baby in this area of the house?

Is the deposit enough for a family of four? There must be funds for raising two babies in at least five years.

4. The husband is unreliable and can help you take on the responsibility of parenting.

In short, whether to have a second child is an important matter, and we must discuss it with the whole family before deciding. I hope the husband can fully support his wife. No matter what others say, what needs to be considered is the wife's mood and worry.