1, divorced women's psychological state Due to the breakdown of marriage, many times after divorce, women often have a sense of psychological frustration and feel that they are a failed person and their lives are incomplete. And many times they will deal with other things in life with this bad negative psychology. This is actually very bad. Marriage failure is only a part of personal life, not everything. 2. Emotional fluctuations of divorced women If they are women who cannot divorce their ex-husbands peacefully, they will often have feelings of inferiority and anger. They will feel as if the whole world owes them, and a little thing can trigger their anger. In other words, divorced women may be immersed in a kind of compassion and depression, as if they are not interested in doing anything, and life has no other color because of a failed marriage. 3. The surrounding environment faced by divorced women Generally speaking, divorced women are usually criticized a little more than divorced men. Once people know that this is a divorced woman, they often look at them with a bad eye. Especially in remote and backward areas, gossip among neighbors will bother them, and they often have to move out of their original residence or go far away. 4. Advice to divorced women In fact, marriage is not the whole of life. Many times, if love is not satisfactory, women can also devote their time and energy to other aspects of life. Such as work, such as personal hobbies. You really don't have to suffer for a fruitless relationship. As a result, it is yourself who suffers. The most attractive news about the meaning of marriage is the psychological hotline of "sunshine divorce" in some big cities. Everyone consciously or unconsciously advocates a positive and sunny divorce attitude. In today's increasingly frequent divorces and increasing pressure of survival, such measures are inevitable and should be taken. In the past two years, the number of unmarried people has increased day by day after divorce, and the mantra of "no longer trusting men" and "completely disappointed with marriage" is often hung on the lips of some divorced women. This requires that women must learn to be independent after divorce and learn to be independent of men. Over the years, "sequela of divorce" has been the biggest problem for divorced women, and it is also a problem that sociologists have been trying to guide and solve. In this context, we really need a character like the protagonist in the text. In my opinion, she should not be a case, but a specimen for divorced women to get rid of the shadow and establish a new image. The devaluation of "divorced women" is an undeniable reality, no matter how obliquely we avoid talking about such topics. Needless to say, this reality still exists in our traditional country and even in many open-minded western countries. But let's think about it, why does it depreciate? In addition to the concept caused by social and cultural factors, there is also an inevitable factor-the inferiority complex of divorced women. Such inferiority complex will lead to various negative attitudes, such as marriage, condescending, muddling along and so on. Think about it, how can a woman with inferiority talk about beauty? Talk about charm? Let a woman's charm begin with divorce. I really hope that after this sentence is published in the newspaper, everyone will not regard it as an empty slogan, but as an initiative, an awakening and a strength. In fact, many men like divorced women very much. Not only married men, but also some unmarried men pay more attention to divorced women, at least not belittling or disrespecting them. Because, any man full of goodwill knows that the changes and encounters in life are only the process of experience for a person's life, and it has no reason to be the handle and excuse for that person to be belittled and disrespected; On the contrary, it is because of her pain and all kinds of sublimation and awakening after the pain that she can become a more attractive woman. Psychological problems of divorced women who have been single for a long time II. You find that all men have problems. Another bad effect of being single for a long time is that you are too picky. You can find faults in every man around you, but in fact most of your criticisms have no realistic basis. Even in a man with excellent character, you can find fault: you have no taste in clothes, big pores, don't like watching entertainment news, and save money ... Maybe you have the illusion that you are a senior critic. More likely, you are afraid of pursuing the opposite sex, so you use these artificial' picky' excuses. Shy in front of the opposite sex. Why not associate with the opposite sex? The best explanation is that you don't know how to be yourself in front of them When you look at them and they find your eyes, you feel that you are not pleasing them, but rejecting them. When you have just been with a heterosexual for a while, you end the relationship in some outrageous ways, such as asking him to give you tight underwear on the third date (so you forget the normal steps of relationship development). If this is not outrageous enough, you start to treat your opposite sex harshly. In front of your friends, you tell them what to do just to prove to others that you can control your boyfriend. If you do this again and again, real despair will come to you. Always think too much. Unfortunately, you live in the fantasy that all men love you. Every ordinary interaction with the opposite sex is given a special meaning by you. The waiter in the drive-in restaurant handed you hamburgers and French fries and said, "Have a good time." What you hear is: "I want you now." When the man in the elevator takes one more look at the rice residue on your lips, you think it is a warm gaze of soul communication, and immediately begin to fantasize about the erotic scene of the two in the closet. Every friendly gesture and polite nod will make you feel love. It seems that you are sure to win every round. However, look at your trump card, that is, a little J. People think you are gay. You never stay around men and show no interest in them, so people think you have other sexual orientations. You probably found that your good friend started going out with her gay cousin, and people always left you two alone. Don't fly into a rage, don't try to beg for anything. Since you spend all your time with friends instead of dating men, what do you expect others to think? Hoping on technology, you gave up the idea of finding a real man as a partner, hoping that the developed technology in the world can bring you one. You are interested in every development in bioengineering. In fact, have you ever drawn many blueprints yourself on a napkin? You may be aware of this hidden desire, but it is usually hidden in the subconscious. You must change this concept, indulge in romantic soap operas and admit that their greatest entertainment is that romantic soap operas are unhealthy. Fantasize that you are the first and have a perfect love ending. It's time to adjust your preferences. When deceptive entertainment erodes all your leisure time, its influence is very dangerous. Men, women and strong women will become more and more independent and become strong women after being single for a long time. All the details of life should be blocked by yourself. Over time, you began to be as careless as a man and became a man. This is enough to make any opposite sex flinch from you. Despair and loneliness are not good, and despair is even worse. There are signs that despair is like a giant mutant octopus, entrenched in your mind. Wanting an email mail-order boyfriend is an extreme example. No matter what you think, it's not romantic at all. Of course, there are other potential signs. It is undoubtedly one of them to take inflatable dolls as companions. You should clearly realize that you can't live without the opposite sex. Not only do you have no date, you don't associate with the opposite sex at ordinary times, and you don't have any friends of the opposite sex. Male colleagues even avoid you, and friends no longer talk about men with you. They are either embarrassed or think that you will not contribute to this topic. If your only contact with the opposite sex is your father, then your current situation really needs to change. The most obvious thing is that the date abandoned you because you can't even remember when Valentine's Day is. February 14, you have no idea what happened at that time, and you don't know why red roses suddenly flooded the streets. Valentine's Day is an accurate yardstick to verify single status, because we need men most on this day. If you wore a second-class strappy skirt last Valentine's Day, you really need to brush your romantic skills. Your single years are really too long. Another sign of being abandoned by dating is to use old romantic comedies as your dating inspiration. If people are laughing when you use those tricks, it also means you have a problem. Divorced women have been single for a long time. 3. Women who have been single for too long after divorce are prone to these problems both physically and psychologically. A woman who has been single for too long after divorce will age faster because she may have been together for several years. In recent years, she has been accompanied by men and nourished by love. At that time, women were very happy and beautiful. Without this nourishment, she will look older than when she was nourished, because after a woman's divorce, without her partner's love and care, her whole spirit looks not very good. Compared with her high-spirited appearance, she looks much older after divorce. Psychological and emotional needs Both men and women are psychologically fragile after divorce and have certain psychological needs. If a woman is single for too long, her psychological changes may be too great and her emotional needs cannot be met, then she may become grumpy and even resent these emotional needs, because women are used to being alone and resist all the concerns of the opposite sex. Let a woman become cynical. When a woman has experienced a failed marriage, it may make her become cynical. Because the failed marriage has brought her extremely negative influence, even indelible, so women have no hope for marriage physically, or think that a person is really good, and would rather live alone than get married twice. Life is relatively simple. Women don't divorce, and men give her better financial security. When divorced, women lead a relatively simple life because of their poor financial ability. Compared with the economic security that men give her, her economic ability is much weaker, so a woman's goal in life may be to make money, so that she can invest in herself.