Another amazing phenomenon is that in the tide of closing stores in recent years, more and more pet shops and pharmacies are going upstream.
The White Paper on Pet Industry in China in 20 17 released by a website shows that pet consumers tend to be younger and more feminine, and 75% of the owners of cats and dogs are mainly the younger generation born after 1990s.
It is not difficult to see that young people, as the main force of fertility, are increasingly reluctant to have children, but more and more like keeping pets.
What are the inevitable difficulties and relationships behind this?
First, it subverts the traditional concepts of "there are three unfilial, no heirs are the greatest" and "more children are more blessed".
Confucianism has been nagging for thousands of years that "there are three unfilial things and no great future."
Money is unnecessary, but children must be born. This "child" refers to a "boy". Girls grow up like splashing water, reluctant to part with the fragrance of their ancestors.
What is incense? It is the dark, kneeling soul and body during the Chinese New Year.
Therefore, in a patriarchal society, "childlessness" is one of the "seven deadly sins", and a woman without a son will be divorced; A man without a son will be stabbed in the spine. A childless man, even if he is a high official and generous, will be regarded as "unfilial" by Confucianism.
On the basis of having a son, there will be more children.
Before the rise of modern medicine, the infant mortality rate was very high, even if you were rich and arrogant, it would be useless.
The living conditions and medical resources of the royal family are the best. Even so, nine of Song Renzong's 13 daughters died, and three sons didn't live to be three years old, which made Song Renzong lose face in front of ministers.
Poor courtier Zhang said, "You are old, and there are few children in your family, which is also very pitiful. If you need anything, just ask and I'll help you. "
Zhang's words made the emperor deeply grieved: "I am not poor." I have a wife and a son. You don't even have a son except the harem concubines. Poor you! "
The emperor was stung and went back to the palace to cry with Queen Cao! An emperor without a son is the biggest unfilial son in the world!
Until his death, Song Renzong had no son to survive, and the throne had to be passed on to his cousin's son.
Therefore, in a male-dominated society, it is necessary not only to have sons, but also to have "many children", so that more insurance can ensure that the fireworks of the family are vigorous and endless.
The sound of the "Revolution of 1911" has shaken the foundation of a patriarchal society. The May 4th Movement and the New Culture Movement are vigorous, and the movement to overthrow Kongjiadian is getting higher and higher. The Confucian concepts of "many children are blessed" and "three unfilial, and no posterity is great" have been trampled to ashes in the new era.
Today in history, the concept of "spreading incense" and "many children and many blessings" still exists in small towns, but in more developed and inclusive large and medium-sized cities, this concept is too weak to be seen.
From this point of view, today's young people no longer bear the heavy burden of childbirth, and having a daughter or child is a gift from heaven; Whether to have children or not is a personal choice, and there is no moral and ethical condemnation.
Second, the concept of raising children has changed from "extensive" to "high quality".
People in the 1950s and 1960s were familiar with the family model of the last century: mom and dad, a bunch of brothers and sisters.
In those days, raising a baby was an extremely simple matter. One more bowl of water in the rice cooker and one more pair of chopsticks on the dining table can feed one more child.
Adults uphold the "extensive" parenting style, and it doesn't matter if the child falls and hits, and the skin is thick and solid. The boss also acts as a nanny, taking care of his younger brothers and sisters for his parents and letting them put their time into work or farm work;
As for the material conditions, it is even simpler.
Every child wears a dress once; A pair of shoes, the big one wears the small one; There is no colorful snack supplement, and eating is based on "not hungry".
As for education, almost all of it is entrusted to schools. Except for a few families that can cultivate children's talents, most families do not have this condition.
To sum up, the cost of raising children is low and there is no comparison.
You are poor and I am poor. Your child can't play the piano, and neither can mine. Everyone is the same, it doesn't matter. I won't have so many thoughts before having a baby.
Nowadays, more and more young people choose not to have children. One of the main reasons is that the cost of raising children has soared, which has exceeded their economic ability.
Don't say that there are tens of millions of school districts in Beishangguang, even if you have money in your hand, you may not be able to grab it. School district housing means high-quality educational resources and a bright future.
It is not too difficult for other people's children to go to the primary school attached to Tsinghua, the middle school attached to the National People's Congress and the 985 University after graduating from high school.
Parents don't have a good school district, and the starting line is different when children are born. How do they compete with others? The location of the house determines the future of the child in the belly, and there is nothing more cruel than this.
As a young man in the reproductive stage, he is ahead of the times. Instead of letting your child lose at the starting line, it is better not to bring him or her into this world.
Moreover, the cost of parenting is superimposed, and the money paid outside compulsory education is even more unbearable.
The slogan of "moral, intellectual, physical and beautiful work" has been shouted for decades, but exam-oriented education has encroached on the development of children's other abilities.
Art and sports, which were neglected in the past, have also been mentioned to an unprecedented extent with the improvement of social affluence.
Training courses for all kinds of talents have blossomed everywhere, and sports activities have been carried out vividly. And this kind of quality education outside the "school" is supported by economic ability.
The "householder" has emptied six wallets and raised a golden retriever. It really needs careful planning, careful planning. "Renters" don't have their own nests, and the daily expenses of rent, water and electricity have accounted for most of them. Why do they want another child to make things worse?
Do you know what the "new poor" means?
A new generation of young people who graduated from college have high academic qualifications and low ability, and their income level is similar to that of blue-collar workers. These people are glamorous, shopping, fashion, sports, various consumption patterns, and the spirit of "early adopters" will last forever.
A cup of milk tea is thirty or forty, a pair of Nike is six or seven hundred, and a concert ticket is seven or eight hundred.
The final result is monthly income 18000, and consumption exceeds income, making ends meet. Needless to say, which comes first, the accident or tomorrow?
Young people with insecurity and life insecurity are less and less fond of having children.
They don't want to tie their lives with their children and spend their life savings to cultivate a child, thus sacrificing their lives.
Third, feelings change too fast, and a new generation of young people are increasingly reluctant to enter marriage, let alone have children.
This is the best time, this is the worst time.
With the rapid development of economy and the progress of science and technology, people today enjoy a better life. Material affluence has reached an unprecedented level.
Mu Xin said: "In the past, the sun changed slowly, and the mail was slow. I could only love one person in my life." Today, this seems to be a joke.
Planes can fly from one continent to another in a few hours; High-speed rail can send a person from the north to the south in a few hours; Someone once talked about boyfriends and girlfriends while waiting in line to board the plane, traveled outside and broke up on the plane back home. Do you think this feeling is fast or not?
In the era of consumption, falling in love is like eating fast food. Although fast food is delicious, it is not worthwhile to eat indigestion if the surface is shiny and the heart is unbearable.
Some young people on the Internet summed up their fear of emotional marriage in this way: he (she) is heartless and acceptable. What can I do if he (she) bites me back?
Fast-food love, consumption era, everything has become too fast, there is no time to fall in love.
Needless to say, the bride price and the house are two mountains.
More young people choose not to love or marry, how can they give birth to the crystallization of love? The main force of fertility has been waiting to see, or has given up, and it is strange that the baby birth rate does not drop.
But if they have no children, what does it have to do with keeping pets?
This is too important.
Four generations of young people put their feelings into their pets to get warmth and companionship.
People are social animals and need companionship and warmth. A turbulent heart also needs to be placed, especially young people who are full of energy and vigor. They are easy to be lonely, sensitive, afraid of being hurt and eager for love.
It's good to have a pet without a child under your knee.
The favorite animals are cats and dogs, followed by turtles, rabbits, parrots, hamsters, fish and insects, and so on.
Although they are unwilling to raise children for various reasons, they treat their cats and dogs like children.
How to show love? The first is willing to spend money. How to spend money is meaningful? Invest in education.
Dog schools in big cities are getting more and more prosperous. There are a variety of training courses to meet all your expectations for dogs: basic training, behavior correction, scene training, and family protection; What is even more amazing is the training of talents. Does it feel familiar?
In the talent course, dogs learn talent skills such as bowing, holding baskets, holding balloons, skipping rope and skateboarding to please their owners and bring them happiness and comfort. The host expressed his love with more devotion.
Like raising children, "extensive" is no longer suitable for cats and dogs. Consumption upgrades also apply to dogs and cats.
Food, clothing, housing and transportation are a set of material support. Dogs and cats should also be beautifully dressed. Beauty cards are necessary, two or three hundred at a time. It's normal to go to a pet hospital for one or two thousand yuan. Recreational activities are even more indispensable, and sports are also necessary. Toys, cat racks, these are all matching.
Young owners love their pets as if they were their own children. The reward is the constant companionship and warmth of cats and dogs. In the process of urbanization, there are many reinforced concrete buildings, which are not only separated by distance, but also by people's hearts.
After working hard outside for a day after 80s and 90s, I went home to see cats and dogs, and the feeling of loneliness and wandering was instantly cured.
In an indifferent society, father and son turn against each other and mother and daughter have a bad relationship. Betrayal between relatives, friends and lovers is not surprising.
Some parents scold their children that "it is better to raise a dog than to raise you". I really don't know if this sentence is a belittle to people or a compliment to dogs.
In random street interviews, when girls were asked "boyfriend is more important or dog is more important", the answer was "boyfriend can always find another one, so the dog is more important".
In the minds of the younger generation, pets have transcended the feelings between human beings.
There are too many reasons, but the true feelings of cats and dogs to their owners are moving, which makes the new generation who are lonely, sensitive and afraid of being hurt by feelings feel surprised and moved.
Perhaps it is in this kind of dedication and touching that they form the deepest feelings for each other. Until the moment of death, cats and dogs will say "goodbye" to their owners, which truly shows the feeling of "exchanging lives for lives".
Ending:
In a sense, more young people are unwilling to get married and have children, some are forced, some are helpless, and more are self-choice. They choose not to reproduce, but to love their pets, cats and dogs, and enjoy it.
It is impossible to judge whether the new generation of young people are selfish. It can only be said that they combined their abilities, respected their hearts, chose their favorite life choices, got emotional compensation from their pets, and made the best choice for themselves.
From another point of view, these young people give up childbearing, and the beneficiaries are others.
Now, in an ordinary primary school class, forty or fifty students are normal, and there are not many educational resources per capita. Not having children means giving up this part of rights and giving it to others. Is this not good?
As for being addicted to pets, it indirectly provides more jobs for others. In just 20 18 a year, the consumption scale of the pet industry reached an astonishing170.8 billion yuan, among which the younger generation contributed greatly.
The only problem is that when you get old, you have to face the problem of providing for the aged. While you are young, make plans early, plan your retirement life well, and let yourself look back and be carefree.
After all, with children, there are children and grandchildren around, but there is no enjoyment of flying freely. It is impossible to use a unified standard to measure quality, as long as they are good.
You have your Jianghu drunkenness, and I have my bright moon to return to.