Love at first glance, the best and purest, often occurs in a period of material wealth without experiencing life polishing. I don't lack bread, but I lack a partner who can accompany me to write swords and enjoy Jianghu. Ignore the world, and wish to have one person, never leaving the white head.
But back to real life, how many people can leave and open the door of seven things-money, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, just to spend money, such love basically does not exist. Don't blindly criticize other people's views on the economy, but consider it from the perspective of human nature. Try to think about it, if one day, your economy is difficult to sustain itself, can you still or willing to give your life-saving money to others? If one day, you are working, your husband or boyfriend has no income, the man's family is sick, and your own parents are sick, who will you choose to save with your savings? If one day, even the child's training fee can't be paid, but the man goes home to buy his father a birthday present, what would you think? If one day, children are ignored and bullied because "we don't work hard", will you hate yourself for not working hard?
I believe some people have already encountered the above problems. At that time, you may hate your own incompetence and the selfishness of others. Objectively speaking, we can't blame others for being selfish. From a biological point of view, the ultimate mission of each species is to reproduce and pass on its own genes. Therefore, people's instinct is to give priority to protecting people who are related or close to themselves. When we choose comfort, we live like the chosen one. If we have been struggling, we may be the one who chooses to protect, and the initiative is in our hands. Fight while you are young. When you start fighting, the world will be kind to you.
I once saw a friend say that "her boyfriend gave her a" CL505 ",and I was particularly envious at that time. But then I saw my friend buy Bosideng's down jacket through his own efforts. I changed my Apple phone, looked at the house, and put on delicate makeup on my face. I said I would go skiing. I bought my boyfriend a favorite gift with my salary, and I also brought my wallet when I went out on a date. Her boyfriend is also very kind to her and will ask her for advice when buying a car. In love, they are neck and neck. She is working hard, and so is he. There are many boys chasing her, but she never gives up her job and pursuit. As long as there is a work arrangement, she will pick up the box and leave. At 5 o'clock in the morning in Beijing and late at night in Shandong, she has her back. With the development of economy and the improvement of women's status, it is very difficult for many ordinary families to support their families only by men. Economy is the most basic material foundation. Without this premise, love is difficult to be harmonious. If we really have expectations and fantasies about love, then we will strive to improve ourselves. In today's difficult times, we will struggle together. From the previous slogan "XX, you fight" to the current slogan "XX, let's fight together".
Then I believe that we will finally gain mutual respect and understanding in love and walk through a dull but sweet life hand in hand.
Everyone in this world wants to live a little easier, but suffering is the only way for us.
Beauvoir said in The Second Sex:
A person's great luck lies in that whether he is an adult or a child, he has to embark on an extremely difficult road. Women's misfortune lies in being surrounded by almost irresistible temptations; Don't ask her to make progress, just encourage her to slide down and have fun. When she found herself fooled by a mirage, it was too late, and her strength had been exhausted in failure. Never give up the struggle at any time. When you choose palm up and have no financial resources, your fate has been caught by others, and it is difficult to breathe, let alone a smooth life. Woman! Money is the bottom line and beauty is the bottom line.
What you think is poetic pastoral is actually entering a barren land!
What you think is sweet talk is actually eating bone poison!
What you think of tolerance and concession is actually cowardice and humbleness!