You ask the children, they are numb, how many? Rebellion? Some teenagers strongly resist, and most students have no problem with such high-intensity and high-density learning. They go to cram school as usual as they go to school. Ask your parents again, they are wronged but reasonable: don't let my children lose at the starting line? .
This slogan is like a curse, a stimulant. Parents pin their hopes of cultivating their children on foreign interest classes. Their children learn one subject less than others, and they study a few months later, as if their children had suffered a big loss and immediately fell behind others.
However, it is precisely because of parents' general psychology that their enthusiasm for interest classes and extra-curricular study cram schools has caused a strange phenomenon: as a result, when everyone regards interest classes as a shortcut to exams, the market is rising, while children who study for extra points or exams are not rewarded in this respect.
It is understood that in a primary school in Hangzhou, the class teacher once asked the children to fill in their hobbies. There are 50 children in a class, and 35 children are learning piano. The teacher has to announce that playing the piano is not a specialty, because? Too many people will attend? .
It is understood that a middle school enrolled students in 20 17, and there were 300 to 400 students who signed up in the name of special students, including more than 60 piano students with Grade 10. According to the enrollment plan of the school, only one or two piano special students were recruited. The problem is that after such a tragic killing, many artistic talents who enter private middle schools will give up their artistic expertise under the severe academic pressure of junior high schools. Parents seem to have a disease, collective anxiety.
This disease is a reflection of the anxiety of our whole society. Parents are anxious about houses, cars, children, unit anxiety benefits, provincial and municipal GDP. On the contrary, parents will take cultivating their children into successful people as the main way to dispel this anxiety. They think that once children learn well and have many specialties, they can live a better life in this society. Are parents at fault? Are parents bad to their children?
No, they just want to catch that faint light in complex and anxious emotions, just like people walking in the fog. They can only say that this is the only thing they can do.
In this era, parents' anxiety cannot be completely avoided, but when anxiety becomes a social group disease and spreads irrationally to each other, then the most vulnerable people in this group will definitely have irrational behavior. And the recipients of these behaviors are their own children.
What we're talking about today is not stopping children? Run? What's more, it's not direct Give up the game? Only pay attention to the so-called happy education, I don't think many parents will let their children come here.
So what do parents do?
Don't let the child run in the wrong direction.
Let children study ahead of time and avoid it? Lose at the starting line? However, learning against the rules will eventually bring not only the problem of fast and slow games, but also the problem of going astray or going backwards.
Children have their own growth rules. For example, when they were 3 years old, they thought intuitively, and when they were 5 years old, they thought in images. Children in large classes begin to sprout logical thinking, and 8- 12 years old is the best memory period. Let imaginative and creative children memorize Chinese characters and recite the addition within 100. Although he doesn't understand, he can do it. What are the consequences? The imaginary space is full of solidified knowledge.
A study shows that preschool children who know more Chinese characters will be ahead of other children in the first grade, but by the second grade, their level will be the same as other children.
Taking painting as an example, only 8-year-old children can observe copying from the perspective of adults. Before that, children's painting was only the self-expression of intuitive thinking. Let children learn painting skills, tell them that the sun should be round and the clouds should be white, and it is at least a waste of time to restrain their imagination.
Art education suffers greatly from the pre-test education in society. 8 strokes of apples, a few strokes of colors, the purpose is to test. The direct consequence is that students have strong recruiting ability and weak expression ability, and of course they can't become masters.
Now many children begin to learn roller skating at the age of three. In fact, the child's bones are not well developed, and roller skating will hurt the body. The same is true of learning ballet too early, which is a challenge to children's periosteum and so on. ? Don't let children lose at the starting line, which is a slogan invented by smart businessmen. Lin Yue said, how? Parents can be forgiven for being kidnapped by the college entrance examination, but it is too unqualified to be influenced by advertisements. ?
The mission of the interest class is to send children to famous schools. Children are versatile, but they don't like their hobbies. ? Many piano 10 children vowed never to touch the piano again. They don't think music is a lifelong companion, because music takes away their play time. ? A teacher who specializes in teaching piano said helplessly.
Sometimes parents kill their children's interest simply because they are too early and in a hurry. ? When the children came to sign up, they asked me if your school wanted to learn Olympic Mathematics. I saidno. She clapped her hands and said, Great, I feel sick when I listen to Olympic Mathematics. In junior high school, the teacher discovered her talent in mathematics and began to expose her to Olympic mathematics. Finally, the child was fascinated by the Olympic Mathematics and won the grand prize. ?
Children who are also studying Olympic Mathematics, a group of children from Zhejiang participated in the international Olympic Mathematics Competition and won the first prize. When they returned with honor, the deputy director of the Education Department in charge of basic education asked the children to talk about their feelings. A child said, I will never touch the Olympiad again in my life. ?
The educational circles have realized the serious consequences of advanced education and intensive education. Recently, the Ministry of Education issued the Guide to Learning and Development for Children Aged 3-6 for public consultation. The guide specifically lists the learning and development goals of children of all ages. For example, preschool children aged 5-6 only need it? You can add or subtract within 10 by physical operation or other methods. It doesn't say that children of this age must study, only that? Interested in writing symbols in reading and living situations, knowing that words are meaningful? .
Parents change their ideas: children are not parents' pets, nor are they tools to make up for the shortcomings of life.
No matter parents, teachers, education departments, or even all institutions related to children in society, as long as the child is considered to be a complete, independent and unique person, his behavior will be completely different. Under this concept, a child can treat others as human beings only after entering the society.
If we can take this as a basis, children are complete individuals with independent thoughts, independent personalities and their own feelings, then our teachers must put their positions in order. Teachers are not engineers of human souls, but gardeners at best. The gardener's duty is to care for water and help it grow, not to predict the future and grow for children. So are parents. In recent years, many parents have explicitly told her not to tell me my child's grades because I don't want to know.
A well-known education expert, her daughter can't find confidence in top public primary schools and loses the fun of learning. Finally, she transferred her daughter to an ordinary school. Now she is just engaged in a very ordinary career she likes, but she is filial to her parents, cheerful and generous, which makes me very proud. ?
As long as children are recognized as human beings, many problems in education will be solved. We can do many things for our children. For example, children make mistakes. Since you are human, you will make mistakes. Children grow up by constantly making mistakes. When children make mistakes, it is an opportunity for us to educate.
The starting line is the result of educational alienation. In fact, education does not need to compete with winning or losing. Education is the essence of cultivating, developing and perfecting people. So there is no question of winning or losing, and there is no question of whether you are good or bad. If you see this clearly, why do parents have to rush? Not good for children.