First, the etiquette of sitting. Ask the guest to sit down first, and then sit down next to the guest who asks the old man to sit down. When seated, you should enter from the left side of the chair. After taking a seat, don't move chopsticks, let alone make any noise, let alone get up and walk. If you have anything to say hello to your host.
Second, when eating. Please let the guests and elders move chopsticks first. Eat less food every time, eat less food far away from you, and don't make any noise when eating or drinking soup. Sip the soup with a spoon. It is not recommended to put the bowl on your mouth. Drink the soup when it is too hot or too cold. Don't blow at the same time. Some people like to chew food when eating, especially crunchy food, making a crisp sound. This is against the etiquette requirements. Especially when dining with others, try to prevent this phenomenon.
Third, don't burp and make other noises when eating. If there are involuntary noises such as sneezing and bowel sounds, you should apologize by saying "I'm sorry", "I'm sorry" and "Please forgive me".
Fourth, if you want to serve food to guests or elders, you'd better use public chopsticks, or you can give them food far away from them. According to our custom in China, the dishes are served one by one. If there are leaders, old people and guests at the same table, whenever a new dish is served, please ask them to move chopsticks first, or try to ask them to move chopsticks first in turn to show their attention.
Fifth, when eating fish heads, fishbones, fishbones and other things, put them on your own plate or on paper prepared in advance.
Sixth, we should take time to chat with people around us in time to reconcile the atmosphere. Don't ignore others with bare head when eating, don't wolf down when eating, and don't drink too much.
Seventh, it is best not to pick your teeth at the dinner table. If you want to pick your teeth, cover your mouth with a napkin or hand.
Eighth, we should make clear the main task of this meal. Make it clear whether to talk about business, contact feelings or eat. If it is the former, when arranging seats, we should pay attention to putting the seats of the main negotiators closer to each other. If it is the latter, just pay attention to common sense etiquette and concentrate on appreciating dishes.
Ninth, when you finally leave the table, you must thank your host or invite your host to your home in return.
Why not eat at the table?
Is it really TV that attracts our family members away? I don't think so. What really keeps our family away from the table is the table itself, or the people on the table made all this.
On the one hand, because of the increasing work pressure of adults, the pressure of children's schoolwork is increasing. It seems that a mouth at the dinner table is saying whether you have studied hard and finished your homework carefully. This topic itself is not a problem, but only exposes the lack of common language between parents and children. Parents feel that they can't talk to their children about work, and children don't want to talk to their parents about study. It seems that there is nothing to talk about except work and study. The most important "fate" of a person is not in the scope of conversation. The dining table has become a place to create stress, and the TV in front of the coffee table can often make the family ignore such indifference.
In addition, due to the busy work and pressure of adults, adults are increasingly inclined to choose frozen products, fast food and now popular food delivery, so more and more foods appearing on the family table are deeply processed foods-not only losing their original color and shape, but also masking their taste because of a lot of salt and sugar. In the process of watching TV, our requirements for food are often more and more full. Simple and rude taste buds are easy to make and clean. As a result, the food on the table no longer has the feeling of "mother's taste", "family tradition" and fresh expectation. A place with pressure, stories, fun and expectations will definitely drive us away.
Finally, the common coffee table dining itself after leaving the table actually has many unpredictable hidden dangers. Scientific research shows that when we watch TV, our food intake will increase obviously, because we are more likely to ignore the feelings of our stomach when watching TV, which leads to overeating. In many families, this kind of overeating happens every day-a diet with high salt, high sugar and high intake occurs at the same time, which increases our risk of various diseases.
When we are used to sitting on the sofa watching TV and brushing our mobile phones to relieve our daily stress, it actually means that we refuse to interact and communicate with our families. The apathy among such members will intensify, the opposition between adolescence and menopause will be more severe, and the generation gap will be more obvious. It is not that children are difficult to manage, but that the relationship between family members is weak.
So it's not that we are attracted by TV, but that we are now driven away by the table culture at home. Therefore, the simplest and most effective way to avoid the above situation is to break the status quo and rebuild our family's dining table culture.
How to get back to the table?
The simplest and most effective way to rebuild the dining table culture is to restart our dining table instead of turning it into a shelf. Turn the dining table into a corner with family culture and fun in the family, so that every time you enjoy it at this dining table, it is full of mutual respect, warmth, sharing and joy. So how do we get back to the negotiating table? Give you a simple three-step method to get our family back to the negotiating table.
first step
"We sat around and enjoyed delicious food happily."
First of all, our family members should sit around the table when eating, and set up a small ceremony to thank the food, which is a bit like "Let's go!" In Japanese dramas. This ceremony can be designed according to the different situations of different families, and it is best to have a guide as the slogan for everyone to start eating together. This not only has a sense of ceremony, but also makes children realize that they must eat together, thank the food, and let them enter the "eating mode", so that they can put down the TV and mobile phone and concentrate on chatting with their families while eating. If you find that children like it very much, you can also design a small ceremony after dinner, which starts and ends, and adults should also be together!
Second step
"We sat around and enjoyed delicious food happily."
In our culture, chatting is the most common thing at the dinner table, but chatting may lead to unpleasant topics. Therefore, when we eat, adults must first make a clear agreement, that is, don't talk about anything that makes anyone unhappy, including small family members. On the other hand, if you encounter unpleasant topics, unhappy people also need to restrain themselves and not let the unpleasant atmosphere appear at the dinner table. Thereby reducing the stress caused by unpleasant experiences at the dinner table.
Third step
"We sat around and enjoyed delicious food happily."
Finally, about food, the most delicious thing is the food itself. Whether there is a family with or without children, I suggest choosing natural ingredients with little processing, and matching different tableware with delicious food.
Less processed natural ingredients will have more natural colors and shapes, and eating a whole food will give the body more balanced nutrition. Moreover, for children, less processed food gives them more taste, taste and flavor of the food itself, while reducing the salty, sweet and spicy taste of the food itself, which can help children build more information to understand the ingredients.
Different tableware with different foods will produce different feelings and artistic effects, thus * * * children's enlightenment to beauty. In addition, unique containers and tools, such as chopsticks and spoons, make it easier for children to establish emotional ties with them, so as to further strengthen children's entry into "eating mode" on the basis of our table ceremony and devote themselves to the eating process more intently and happily. This will also make it easier for children to pay attention to the taste of the ingredients themselves.
Of course, we can also find a children's dining table that is more suitable for children, especially when children invite friends to eat at home, which can further enhance their pride in family culture and share their expectations with others.