Yuan
(School of Politics and Law, Huanggang Normal University, Huanggang, Hubei 438000)
[Abstract] General Secretary Hu Jintao pointed out in the report of the 17th National Congress that Chinese culture is an inexhaustible motive force for the Chinese nation to forge ahead in unity. We should fully understand the traditional culture of the motherland, take its essence and discard its dross, so as to adapt it to contemporary society, coordinate with modern civilization, maintain its nationality and reflect the times. Strengthen the education of Chinese excellent cultural traditions. However, as an important part of college students' ideological and moral education, gratitude education is very weak at present. The lack of college students' gratitude consciousness has aroused widespread concern from all walks of life in recent years. Today, in building a harmonious socialist society, gratitude education is particularly important. The author believes that gratitude education should be the focus of college students' ideological and political education, help them learn how to know and do, know gratitude, be grateful, repay kindness, and guide them to be good children at home, students, good citizens in society and good employees in the unit, win glory for their parents, their alma mater, and their motherland.
Keywords:: Thanksgiving education, ideological and political work in colleges and universities
First, the significance of strengthening gratitude education for college students
1 is conducive to carrying forward the fine traditions of the nation and strengthening the construction of socialist spiritual civilization.
Gratitude is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation, a basic moral character of a person and a spiritual virtue of all mankind. The Chinese nation is the most grateful nation, and there are countless records in our culture, such as "loyalty and filial piety", "looking at the clouds and thinking about the relatives", "writing to save the father", "wearing colorful clothes to help the relatives", "crying bamboo shoots", "fighting the tiger to save the father", "returning to the mother in the cage" and "deer milk caring for the relatives" (Guo Twenty-four filial pictures). The Book of Filial Piety, which has been circulated since the Han Dynasty, reflects the filial piety culture in ancient China and plays an important role in the family moral construction in China. Left a touching poem "How much love there is only an inch of long grass, and enjoy three rays of spring" (Meng Jiao's "Wanderer"); It is widely circulated that "kindness wants to report, resentment wants to forget; The classic saying of "reporting good news but not worrying" (Disciples' Rules) embodies the ancient people's recognition and admiration for "reporting good news but not worrying". Gratitude is not only the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, but also a philosophy of life, which is a person's correct understanding of himself, others and social relations. Gratitude is also a responsibility. It is not only an emotion, but also a reflection of the realm of life. "The grace of dripping water should be reported by the spring", and this gentleman also; "Return evil for kindness, ingratitude", this villain also. Gratitude is a realm of life, a mental outlook, a work style and an attitude towards life. Only by repaying others' help with gratitude can we make our society more harmonious.
2. It is conducive to further strengthening and reforming the ideological and political education of college students.
Let students know how to thank those who have helped them, and then take the initiative to help others, which is the concrete expression of "close to life, close to reality and close to students" in ideological and political education for college students, and it is also an important content of ideological and political education for college students. Gratitude is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, but in the basic education stage, both parents and teachers attach importance to students' intellectual development, and students' virtue education has become a rather weak link. Learn to be grateful for life and all those who have helped you, so as to enhance college students' sense of responsibility for themselves, their parents and society, and further promote the harmony between people, society and nature. At present, the mainstream of college students' thoughts is positive, healthy and progressive. However, due to many factors, some college students lack the sense of gratitude, forget those who have helped, illuminated, cared for themselves, and even hurt themselves, and need to make up the lesson of "gratitude" urgently.
3. It helps college students to establish a socialist concept of honor and disgrace and build a harmonious society.
The socialist concept of honor and disgrace with "eight honors and eight disgraces" as its main content embodies the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation and the requirements of the times, and defines the most basic value orientation and code of conduct in contemporary China. As a high-knowledge group, college students should not only become the intellectual elite of society, but also become the moral elite of society. Marx thought: "A person lives not only for himself, but also for others, because he has some complicated feelings." . One of the feelings is kindness. Because of kindness, you can't just think for yourself. "Kindness is a good bond between people, and it is also a bond between countries, regions, families and people, thus supporting a society. Therefore, everyone in society should be grateful. " As the basic moral value orientation of a harmonious society, gratitude is the source of moral value and the foundation of family and social harmony. Therefore, "gratitude education" is also a key link to help college students establish a socialist concept of honor and disgrace, build a harmonious society and cultivate modern citizens. Therefore, it is necessary to carry out gratitude education. Through gratitude education, let college students be proud of "learning to be grateful and learning to repay". Take "ingratitude" as a shame, help them start from now on, start from small things, and consciously set an example in carrying forward the socialist concept of honor and disgrace.
Second, the main manifestations of college students' lack of gratitude
1. Lost the kindness of parents.
Filial piety is the foundation of one's morality. However, some college students can't understand, honor and repay their parents. Some people don't appreciate their parents, and when they have conflicts with their parents, they will commit suicide or even kill their parents. According to the statistics of Zhejiang Provincial Office for Ageing, from 1996 to 200 1 the end of the year, people's courts at all levels in the province accepted more than 10,000 cases involving the elderly, including more than 7,000 cases of support, accounting for 64%. The biological son abused his parents for 18 years, and his parents couldn't bear to report to the police angrily. On April 65, 438+07, an old woman in a village in JOE Town, Rushan City, Shandong Province reported to the public security organ of Rushan City that her son abused her in 18, demanding to break away from her parents and even beating them. On April 17, Xu took some things from his parents' home while they were away. On the way, Xu met his mother, who said a few words to him. Xu Dang abused and beat him in the street. His mother couldn't stand Xu's abuse and finally walked into the police station after 18. In addition, some college students don't respect their parents, don't obey their parents' demands, blindly idolize, and are obsessed with video games, which leads their parents to commit suicide. It is reported that in the first half of this year, idolize, the daughter of a family in Xinyang, Lanzhou, Gansu, was chased for more than ten years. Her parents also came to Hong Kong with her. After arriving in Hong Kong, her father committed suicide by jumping into the sea in Hong Kong. In this case, three people came and two people went home. She was shamelessly interviewed by the media all the way, and she was not ashamed to be interviewed by the media. Southeast University once conducted a questionnaire survey on more than 0/00 college students in the whole school. The contents of the survey include the number of times students talk to their parents every week, the topics they talk about, the frequency of writing letters, and whether they remember their parents' birthdays. Statistics show that 82% of students contact their parents by telephone, and the main motivation is to ask for money. Only 8% students keep the habit of communicating with their parents, only 8% students contact their parents once a week, only 9% students can remember their parents' birthdays every year, and 74% students admit that they sometimes lie to their fathers. "How can a college student who is increasingly ignoring his parents be grateful to others and even the whole society?" There are also college graduates who have no jobs and become "old people", hurting their parents' hearts.
2. The teacher's teaching manner has been diluted.
The school teacher has worked hard for the students to grow up. It can really be said that "do your best and die." However, there are still some college students who don't understand the teacher's good intentions, but they are disgusted and bored with the teacher's well-intentioned teaching. Not only do they disrespect teachers' work, but some people also insult them. According to reports, a young female teacher in Wuxi was stabbed several times on May 18, and then the police found out that the murderer was actually the teacher's student. Soon, it was revealed on the Internet that students of Beijing Haidian Art Vocational School abused Mr. Xin, whose hair was gray. On June 9th, He Xiaorong, a teacher in Fuling Vocational Education Center, was so angry with the students ... Within less than a month, three incidents of teacher abuse occurred in succession, forcing us to educate people to reflect on the living conditions of today's teachers. The survey shows that many students with diseases or psychological problems regard teachers as the object of hatred, and once they are violated by the outside world, they will take revenge. I completely forgot what the teacher taught me. Some college students attribute their success entirely to personal factors and cannot make an objective and fair evaluation of the work of school teachers. Some college students maliciously default on tuition fees. After graduation, they can't win glory for their alma mater with practical actions, forgetting that "I am proud of my alma mater today. My alma mater will be proud of me tomorrow.
3. The goodness of society is ignored.
Man is a gregarious animal. Everyone lives in the care of others and should move forward with a grateful heart. However, individual college students are indifferent, selfish and sophisticated, and their sense of social responsibility and awareness of reporting are weakened when dealing with interpersonal relationships. On April 2, 2006, Xinmin Evening News reported that "ingratitude is chilling". For more than ten years, the staff of the Youth Protection Office in a certain district have helped more than 3,000 orphans and children from poor families to obtain financial support from all walks of life, most of whom have graduated from universities. Few of these recipients thought of saying thank you to those who helped them. Some people not only don't express any gratitude to those who have helped him, but also unreasonably ask others for free help. For example, on June 5438+February 1 2006, Yangcheng Evening News reported that Zhang Haiqing, who had been sponsored by Sun Li for many years, stopped funding because his requirements were too high after he was admitted to the university, so Zhang Haiqing wrote to reporters and attacked Sun Li with insulting language. In mid-August, 2007, in a student aid activity jointly organized by Xiangfan City Federation of Trade Unions and the Municipal Association of Women Entrepreneurs, the organizer announced that five poor college students were disqualified from continuing to receive financial aid. The reason for this is that he didn't take the initiative to call and write a letter to the sponsor for more than a year, let alone say a word of thanks. The apathy of the five aided college students in Xiangfan, Hubei, made the sponsors gradually chilling.
Third, the main reasons for college students' lack of gratitude.
1, there are misunderstandings in family education.
Most parents in our country like to do everything when educating their children, but they give selflessly and ask for nothing in return. Many parents pin their unfulfilled ideals and ambitions on their children and try to compensate them with material conditions that their children do not enjoy. As long as the children are obedient, they are willing to scrimp and save. Family education has become a tool for doting on and wishing children success. Parents not only create pampered living conditions for their children, but also provide them with a living atmosphere of stars holding the moon. As long as the children live well, parents are willing to work hard and get tired again, and there is no return at all, which makes the emotion that should be a two-way interaction between parents and children become a "unilateral action" of parents' selfless care for their children. Under the background that the strong wish of dragon girl needs to be realized through games, parents' greatest hope for their children is excellent academic performance. As long as the children get good grades, it seems that they can "cover up all the ugliness with a handsome boy". Parents' care for their children is more on the material level, and rarely involves the spiritual field, especially the lack of cultivation and education of children's gratitude consciousness. The overindulgence of parents has numbed many children's love for their elders; Children are too dependent on their parents, which makes them lose the ability to live independently. Nowadays, many children don't understand their parents' hard work, squander their parents' hard-earned money and form a bad habit of exclusion and arrogance. Parents' doting makes them become an "indifferent generation" who don't know how to appreciate, don't want to appreciate and won't be moved. In today's socialist harmonious society, parents should not only educate their children to accept love, but also educate them to know how to give back and return love. Cultivating children to have a "grateful" heart from an early age is an essential part of family education. It is not only a kind of etiquette, but also a healthy mentality, and it is also the embodiment of social progress and modern civilization. It is the unprincipled doting of parents that "creates" a group of children who are self-centered and have poor sense of independence. They blindly accept love but don't know how to give it. In this regard, Professor Tan Zhenya of Nanjing University of Aeronautics and Astronautics pointed out: "To cultivate children's gratitude, we must first make them feel grateful to their parents, which is the most primitive and instinctive emotion, and then' old people, old people' will extend this emotion to people around them and to the whole society." Tan Zhenya emphasized: For today's teenagers, gratitude consciousness is not only a reward for parents' upbringing, but also a manifestation of responsibility, self-reliance, self-esteem and sound personality. It is urgent to strengthen children's gratitude education.
2. School education tends to be one-sided.
School education has become a tool for further study and employment. Over the years, our education has paid more attention to the enrollment rate and employment rate, and teaching achievement has become the only pursuit of the school, even dominating its survival and development. Under the influence of this value orientation, educating people becomes more insignificant, and it is difficult for gratitude education to enter the teaching category of higher education substantially. Some colleges and universities pay too much attention to the utility of education and ignore the educational function of education. Students are selfish, lack of self-cultivation and apathetic, which is related to the inadequate implementation of moral education in colleges and universities, especially the neglect of gratitude education. Thanksgiving education should be an important part of school moral education, but it is generally ignored or even forgotten in middle schools and universities, which is extremely unfavorable to the healthy growth and all-round development of students. Since gratitude education in middle schools has not been implemented, moral education in colleges and universities will make up this lesson. Higher education must take students' "adults" as the starting point, let students "grow first and then become talents", and strive to cultivate successors with both ability and political integrity. This is the focus of moral education in colleges and universities, and it is also an important reason for strengthening gratitude education. Some school leaders and teachers think that "moral education is a soft indicator and intellectual education is a hard indicator", and there is a phenomenon that "speaking is important, doing is secondary and being busy is unnecessary". Under the baton of further education and employment, many schools regard culture as the only thing, and moral education has become an empty slogan, which has caused loopholes in children's emotional education. Colleges and universities regard academic qualifications and professional titles as important criteria for evaluating teachers. Moral education teachers are not only few in number, but also not given due attention, which leads some college students to enter the desert of emotional counseling.
3. There are deviations in social education.
Social education has become a tool of desire and utility. Nowadays, with the increase of various negative influences in society and the deterioration of social atmosphere, people who have made contributions to society can't get due respect and return, which has brought many negative influences to college students in the initial stage of life. Gratitude is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation and an important content of socialist moral education. The whole society should set off an upsurge of gratitude education, advocate and carry forward gratitude culture, create a good atmosphere of gratitude, and let people move towards harmony in the atmosphere of gratitude. Only when everyone is grateful everywhere, the distance between people will be closer, the world will be more sunny and less indifferent, and our education for the younger generation will be more effective. China people's traditional concept of parenting leads to poor independent consciousness of college students. In western countries, rich and poor children are ashamed to ask their parents for money when they are 18 years old, but our school and society do not provide enough opportunities for college students to support themselves, which makes college students take it for granted to reach out to their parents and have no way to be grateful. At present, some people in the society are ignorant of honor and disgrace, regardless of beauty and ugliness, unfilial to their parents, and don't speak the letter of the city, which has a negative impact on college students.
Fourth, the main methods to enhance college students' sense of gratitude
(a) the use of the environment for publicity and education.
Use the environment for publicity and education, so that the campus is full of deep gratitude. First, colleges and universities should be good at combining traditional festivals and major events to carry out distinctive and attractive theme education activities. We should make full use of radio stations to broadcast grateful poems and essays, and announcers should tell grateful stories and broadcast grateful songs. Hanging and posting placards and banners with the theme of gratitude; Post poems, essays, stories and other materials with the theme of gratitude on the publicity column; Publish wall newspapers and school newspapers with the theme of gratitude to guide college students to know and love the school. Second, colleges and universities should infect and influence college students with the excellent moral character and exemplary behavior of advanced figures by discovering and setting an example of gratitude. We can carry out selection activities such as "moral model of college students" and "model of spiritual civilization construction of college students" to guide college students to learn to be grateful as the core content of changing their outlook on life and values. In such a campus environment, college students will always feel grateful, and feel the rich emotional atmosphere and gratitude conveyed by the campus environment.
(2) Organize various educational activities.
With activities as the carrier, through various activities, guide students to start by thanking people and things around them, parents for their upbringing and teaching, teachers for their navigation and training, and society for their care and guidance. First, colleges and universities should be good at creating certain educational scenes to stimulate college students' strong gratitude. For example, visit martyrs' cemeteries, orphanages and nursing homes, visit poor households, students' party member swearing-in meeting, opening ceremony, graduation ceremony, scholarship awarding meeting, and pay New Year greetings to poor college students staying in winter vacation. By carrying out these activities from near to far, from shallow to deep, from inside to outside, from point to surface, we will further educate college students to be grateful to others, to society, and to all those who have devoted their efforts and sweat to their healthy growth and provided services and help. Second, colleges and universities should organize colorful second-class activities and vigorously promote the culture of gratitude. In view of the lack of experience and social experience of young college students, we should organize them to go deep into life, practice and the masses, and cultivate college students' sense of gratitude through social investigation, work-study program and voluntary labor. For example, many colleges and universities carry out "calculating a gratitude account", "writing a thank-you letter", "holding a gratitude speech" and "doing a gratitude homework". In different periods, the whole school organizes educational activities with the theme of "gratitude" every month, such as youth volunteer activities, social welfare activities and caring activities. Departments and classes can hold a variety of educational activities according to their own characteristics. Every class will hold a class meeting or life meeting with the theme of "Thanksgiving Education" every semester.
(3) The subject permeates gratitude education.
Each subject can also combine the characteristics of the subject and carry out gratitude education in the classroom. First, colleges and universities should seize the main channel of "two courses" teaching, carry out gratitude education, improve college students' gratitude consciousness, and make the teaching content closer to life. For example, in the course of Ideological and Moral Cultivation, gratitude education can be carried out in combination with the teaching content of the course, so that everyone can realize that gratitude, as a basic moral norm that everyone should have, is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation and an indispensable knowledge component for the all-round growth of college students. Therefore, the cultivation of gratitude consciousness should become an indispensable part of the basic moral education of college citizens. Therefore, based on the basic moral norms, targeted gratitude education should be carried out in the teaching process. Organize the on-site proposition composition contest of College Chinese course; Music class teaches singing "Only Mom is Good in the World", "Mother's Kiss" and "Grateful Heart", so that the songs of gratitude can ring in students' hearts; Organize students to conduct a questionnaire survey on family education for students and parents in social investigation classes, and make statistical analysis by mathematical methods; Carry out psychological education activities entitled "Embracing the Family" in psychology classes; Ask students to write an investigation report on "family income and expenditure" in political class; The comprehensive practice class organizes students to make "love cards" for parents and teachers. This makes the mutual infiltration between moral education and subject teaching more effective. In the process of implementation, we should adhere to the full participation, step by step, scientific and reasonable way, give full play to the exemplary role of teachers, let students not forget gratitude in intense study, remember to repay kindness in growth and progress, educate students how to know, know and give kindness, become talents in the new era who inherit Chinese culture and remember to repay kindness, enhance mutual understanding among students, and promote harmonious interpersonal relationships and campus atmosphere. Second, colleges and universities should take gratitude education as the breakthrough point and strengthen ideological and political education for college students. Students can be organized to watch the "report meeting on advanced deeds of moral pacesetters" and hold lectures on gratitude knowledge, alumni forums, debate competitions, etc. Help college students to know what gratitude is, why and how to be grateful. Third, strengthen the construction of campus culture and cultivate college students' sense of gratitude. Through various photo exhibitions, cartoon competitions, photo competitions, essay competitions, mock trials, etc. Can help college students form relatively stable moral feelings.