In fact, boys are not all playboys, which can't be summarized in one sentence! The development of feminist movement has created many new good men, just like Chow Yun Fat, who are single-minded, family-oriented and emotional. However, this kind of new good man is very popular, which is exactly what the extremes meet, and has created some new bad men now. Some men feel that the new good man has ruined all men's faces and made men seem to be tamed by women. Men's natural impulse to pursue excitement and interest in new things have been obliterated by castrated new good men. As a result, these men began to stand out. They can't extinguish their passion or obliterate their personality. Although they may already have a woman he loves in their hearts, in order to show the difference between them and the new good man, they have done something unconventional, shouting slogans such as "I am cool, so I am here" and "no one can stop me from indulging my emotions", indulging their emotions and chasing women's sexiness. Thus, the new bad guys corresponding to the new good guys appeared. It seems to be an open secret that men are philandering. Of course, not all men are philandering. Is it true that men are naturally more playboy than women? Many experts and scholars have studied this question, but it is difficult to find the exact answer. In a psychological research test in the United States, when asked, "How many lovers do you expect to have in your life?" At that time, men answered an average of 189, while women answered 45. Obviously, men are more interested in "fraternity" than women. What is the reason? Studying the evolution of human behavior from a biological point of view, scientists believe that one of the purposes of "sex" is to reproduce and spread genes widely, so the sexual behavior of animals (people also belong to animals) will be influenced by innate instinct to achieve its mission of continuing the race. It seems that some men's fancy is due to the animal instinct of some ancient men in their genes. Therefore, in the development and evolution, ancient men evolved the concepts of "more success" and "wide planting and wide harvest", hoping to improve the survival rate of the next generation by expanding their gene placement. Therefore, there is a saying that "many children are more blessed." As for women, they are also affected by the same biological mechanism. It's just because women are weak and need someone to take care of them during pregnancy in October. Therefore, in order to ensure adequate food and clothing, and give birth smoothly, women adopt the communication strategy of "less trouble". If there is only one man in this woman, then this man will not leave with the above questions. This man will think that in order to ensure the continuation of his incense, he should stay with this woman and take care of the next generation. In this sense, men are also selfish. Therefore, men's philandering and loyalty to women is not only to ensure the successful continuation of life, but also a kind of psychological satisfaction. Although the behavior is different, the fundamental intention is the same. However, with the development of contraceptive technology and the improvement of women's socio-economic ability, I think this explanation from the perspective of traditional biology is likely to fade gradually. The word "flower heart" can be understood in this way. Keep different flowers, that is, different women, in your heart and let yourself enjoy them alone. Love the new and hate the old is the evidence of some men's playboy; I saw the couple laughing, but the old love broke down in tears, which was a woman's accusation against the man playboy; And white roses, red roses, and blue enchantresses, the reasons why these men are playboys, are always seeking new experiences; Men like the spirit of adventure and pursue the enjoyment of excitement, which is probably the motivation of men's playboy. Driven by motivation, men are willing to put different flowers in their hearts. This kind of man's playboy, we might as well understand it as the indulgence of psychological behavior, which can better explain the man's playboy. Because indulgence is an action when moral constraints are lost and physical impulses are generated. This is because they are particularly sensitive to new things, so many inventions are written by men. As for the opposite sex, as I said before, men are animals, and the rest of the animal nature includes unlimited satisfaction of their own desires. The physiological structure of human beings makes them need (or realize) the satisfaction of their desires at any time. So many men have to make themselves strong to resist this animal instinct. In ancient times, for a man, a woman was far from meeting his requirements of spreading genes. In ancient times, when aristocratic women got married, some would take their own women or sisters to the man's house. These women who are married with them are concubines. The purpose of their companionship is to appear as a substitute when the married aristocratic woman can't accept and satisfy his desires, so that the man can be satisfied. There is the title of escort maid in A Dream of Red Mansions. They are personal maids. They serve the ladies before following your wife to the man's house. When they marry the man, they become his concubines, such as Pinger around Feng. As for xiren, Qingwen and Sheyue around Master Bao were all concubines of Master Bao unless the Jia family collapsed, because they were all maids who waited on Master Bao's daily life and even gave him a bath and wiped his ass. This naked intimacy will naturally change from an ordinary room to an ordinary room. The matchmaker in The West Chamber tried to fix Yingying and Zhang Sheng, probably because she also fell in love with Zhang Sheng. If Yingying can marry Zhang Sheng, it means that she also married Zhang Sheng. It can be seen that concubines were very popular in ancient times People have long known that indulgence is the nature of men in that era, and the ethical concept of "there are three unfilial sons, and many children are blessed" makes people have to let go of men's playboys. With the development of human civilization, concubines under monogamy have long ceased to exist. However, the excessive reproduction of human beings has drastically reduced the earth's resources. In order to survive, we must control men and reduce the spread of genes to control population growth. But the desire that has been formed for a long time is still inherent, and it is manifested in some men at a certain time or on a certain occasion. This is what is usually called a man's playboy. Another reason for men's indulgence is that they are required to behave correctly from an early age. Facing women, I also want to try my best to be perfect. This is one of the heavy pressures that every man has to face, sometimes so heavy that he loses real fun. Once a woman becomes a mother, her role will change, and a large part of her time and energy will be spent on her children. At this time, women will turn their original attachment to men into hope for their children, while men are prone to psychological imbalance during this period. Because in men's minds, the role of mother is sacred, but what they want now is "pornography". At the same time, the fast pace of modern society also encourages the demand for men to be released. The pressure of work and the competition for survival make men feel that love is a luxury more and more. It's hard to love someone. In a society where time is money, men really have little time left to wander around. In the era when efficiency produces benefits, men really don't have much energy to interpret romantic stories; In modern times when capital accumulation can expand, men have no extra money to pay for love consumption, so money is hard to earn. The great pressure made some men unbearable, so they began to vent their depressed emotions and lost psychology by indulging themselves. This phenomenon further illustrates a problem. Indulge men are actually very empty inside, because they have no clear goals in their careers and dare not have beautiful fantasies about love. So the indulgence at this time has become an instinctive catharsis and struggle. In essence, all indulgent men have emotional loneliness and panic, as well as career confusion and confusion. Some men have lost the ability to think about love, romance and love under the pressure of fast pace. Indulgence is a stage in the growth of some men, but it is ambiguous. Many men who used to indulge may become the most honest men once they end their indulgence. Those who have never indulged and those who are indulging are more troublesome. They may suddenly wake up in indulgence, or they may gradually sink or die in indulgence. Just like those who say dirty jokes on the wine table, some just want to have a happy mouth, while those who watch may be playing dirty abacus in their minds. But when men indulge, what really worries women is that they hate condoms. As mentioned earlier, the ancients called sex "Dunlun" to fulfill human relations, and its purpose was to spread genes. They believe that all sexual behaviors conducive to the effective spread of genes are allowed and conform to the moral category. If it is only for sexual pleasure, it is against ethics and excluded. For example, masturbation, until now, masturbation is still considered as an unhealthy thought and behavior, and has been criticized. The reason for doing this is actually very simple. According to the traditional consciousness of Confucianism, sexual behavior is to spread genes and sublimate feelings. It is shameful to be unable to spread genes. They believe that human beings cover their private parts with clothes because they know shame, and it is a last resort to expose their private parts in order to spread genes. If they can't effectively spread genes and expose their private parts, what can they be but shame? However, in modern times, under the social requirements of controlling population and maintaining living environment, in the economic environment where it is difficult to successfully raise a child because of the increasingly difficult money, men have to wear condoms to reduce the effective spread of genes. However, the thoughts and deep-rooted sexual concepts that have been deposited for thousands of years are not easy to change, which makes men feel very uncomfortable about condoms. The image embodiment of this idea is that some men think that wearing condoms to make love is like "washing feet with socks." After all, those understandings have existed for thousands of years and are deeply rooted in men's hearts, which is not only related to the influence they have received since childhood, but also related to their inherited genes.