Swallow wings in Li Gan in Qing Dynasty.
1. is the order of flying geese.
Uncle Ji is the ranking order between brothers.
As for uncles, we should add the word "father" to distinguish them.
It's wrong for people to just call Jabber and Jia Shu now. There are even people who don't rank direct compliments and are rude to the extreme.
Even uncles among cousins can only be called ranks, not words.
Only those who have made five clothes can add words to this uncle.
The word "student" is a teacher's address to his disciples, elders and younger generations.
Now our village disciples also call themselves teachers and elders. Isn't this madness beyond their duties? So, what do teachers and elders call themselves? If we all call ourselves students, won't we all be peers? In order to be polite to your parents, you should call yourself by your own name or your little nephew, and you should call your students or teachers by their own names.
For the general venerable person, you should claim to be born late; For ordinary old people, they should call themselves younger brothers or younger brothers, and there is no such thing as calling themselves students.
Nowadays, people only say one word and always call people old, which is not only flattering, but also makes the peers and younger generations in our village vague and difficult to distinguish. They are all called by two words, and they are rude.
Appellations such as Weng Lao can be used to address people with prominent status at present, but they can't be used to address new friends.
For the same generation, we should add the word brother, and for the younger generation, we can praise the word directly.
For cousins, add their rankings.
For son-in-law and nephew, it is directly called son-in-law nephew.
In this way, the appellation of grades is orderly.
For children's in-laws, their hometown is always called brother-in-law and uncle, which makes them no different from ordinary neighbors.
For example, children and in-laws in other counties are called in-laws correctly and call each other old in-laws or old fathers-in-law.
I call my parents too in-laws or too in-laws, and my children too in-laws, unlike my hometown.
The apathy of the world has led to more and more confusion and simplification of the ethical appellation of the country ruled by courtesy throughout the ages.
What the author has done is to standardize the appellation of human feelings, which is actually a project to clean up folk culture.
Times have changed, and some titles carefully corrected by the author in those years are outdated and far away today. Although this has not brought much difficulty to people, it is a pity that the folk culture of this nation lacks due respect and protection.
According to the records of ancient national laws and systems, it will decline for three years and Cui Zi for one year.
The national law is determined according to the ancient system. It will take three years to stop the decline, and one year for Cui Zi. Even in September and May, you can't immerse your body in grief.
So you can't do anything illegal.
It is wrong for future generations to sew worn-out clothes.
Although the ancients took off linen, they still dared not change white cloth, so they could not participate in all auspicious things.
Nowadays, people take part in all auspicious activities during mourning and even wear colorful silk clothes.
Others left their parents' coffins to seek official positions, left their parents' funerals to be matchmakers, drank wedding banquets and watched cultural performances.
Three years of mourning, but only in name.
As for mourning clothes such as meritorious service and small service, some people simply don't wear them.
Alas, what are these statutes and manners? I really don't understand.
Northerners put a piece of white cloth around their heads on the top of mourning hats, even if they receive visitors, they don't take it off.
Parents can't wear mourning clothes for three years, but they can't take off mourning clothes before the coffin is buried.
Now, although parents' coffins have not been buried, but the three-year mourning period has passed, they have already taken off their mourning clothes and put them back on when they are buried. Is there such etiquette? The wife's son and many sons mourn for their common mother. According to the national system, they will wear Cui Zi with staff for one year to pay tribute to her and express their condolences for their father.
Now people are not satisfied with mourning, or they don't need sticks when they are full. Is etiquette appropriate?
It is an irresistible historical law that funeral ceremonies change with the times and become increasingly simplified.
The author's attempt to restore the ancient system is just a valuable effort against the times.
Looking at this passage today can only be regarded as a material to understand the intangible cultural heritage of ancient funeral.
3. The worshippers in the Tang Dynasty were called relatives and friends of the United States, offering sacrifices on a large scale.
The ceremony of offering sacrifices to the Tang Dynasty is a large-scale sacrificial activity, which has concentrated the share of many relatives and friends.
For most people in my hometown, it is too easy to worship and leave.
The three ceremonies in the county are to let relatives and friends enter the sacrifice in different categories, and then line up in turn, which may reflect the atmosphere of the memorial service.
In addition, when reading the message, please ask a particularly talented student to read aloud and pause sentence by sentence so that people can understand.
Unlike teenagers in my hometown who read greetings, their voices are vague in their throats and people can't hear them clearly.
Sacrificial parties and banquets are also ceremonial.
For example, let relatives and friends in the county hold a meeting to discuss it themselves, set a clear date, take turns to do it and post it.
For example, seeing off guests and doing all kinds of things in the hall don't bother to sacrifice to the Lord, and the seats won't be too nominal.
My hometown only chooses two or three humble young people to see them off, and the closest relatives and friends come, and no one cares.
There are guests sitting in the nearby hall. Everyone seems to have come to eat and drink, which makes a gentleman feel ashamed to serve.
What's the use of wasting money mourning people? As for all the clansmen who came together, they never did anything to pay homage and help cook. They just sat deeply in the back room and just ate and drank, which made people feel very bored. There are people talking and laughing on the spot, which is even more wrong.
As for the richness of the funeral, it is necessary to measure the financial resources of the family, which is neither enough nor too much.
Family style, family precepts, family rules, famous sayings
1, frugality and honesty.
2. Help the country with your body.
3. Don't be a wealth fan.
4. Zhu Dexiao is the first.
5, a clear conscience, why worry about rats.
6. Proud and frustrated.
7. Shame is progress.
8. The volume must be loud and the mood must be wide.
9. Direct complaint, righteous revenge.
10, lazy and complacent, family background is difficult.
1 1, the heart is one, and the son is innocent.
12, promise one thing, a thousand dollars will never change.
13, people without faith, everything is empty.
14, Zhang lost his life, and shame is the most important thing.
15, don't forget your manners.
16, quirks are natural and there will be many regrets.
17, get up at dawn and sweep the field.
18, time flies, the sun and the moon fly like a shuttle.
19, once spoken, it's too late to recall.
20. People are happy, not jealous.
2 1, the diet is fine, and the garden dishes are more delicious.
22. Young people will be sad if they don't work hard.
23, a hundred acres of fertile land, it is better to carry it.
24. An extra penny for everything adds up to a penny.
25, should know the ideal, mostly for the world.
26. Mo Daojun left early and there were many early pedestrians.
27. Be tolerant of others and be worldly.
28. When the motherland is in trouble, you should be a striker.
29, reading must be intentional, in a word.
30. From frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality.
3 1, hiding grievances with arrows at the back, delaying future generations.
32. Managing the family is frugal, and nothing needs to be done.
33. The utensils are clean.
34. A casual thought is more than a bad family.
35. After a hundred years, youth will never come again.
36, sincere implementation, all unprofitable work.
37. You should know that learning is difficult and care about every bit.
38, from fat to mourning, the heart is indifferent.
39. Don't be happy when people have disasters.
40. Cutting is inseparable from the neighborhood.
4 1, money is like dirt, righteousness is like gold.
42. Don't make elders suspicious, and don't make parents angry.
43. If you don't bully the lonely for a thousand miles, one tree won't make a forest.
44. I would rather be negative than negative.
45. Respect teachers and be kind to others.
46, the wife is virtuous and the husband is less disaster, and the son is virtuous and the father is wide.
47. Leave room for everything and be proud of it.
48. Reading more books to understand the past and the present can save you from troubles.
49. Those who are very lonely and can read must try to be compassionate.
50, heavy wealth, thin parents, not the son of man.
5 1, in a rich place, we should pity the suffering of the poor.
52. greedy for unexpected wealth, drink too much.
53. You should plan ahead and don't dig wells when you are thirsty.
54, Yu Heng must not be arrogant, but also self-study to prevent slander.
55. Blame yourself and others for loving the heart of the person you love.
56. A distant mountain can't put out a near fire, but a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor.
57. Sit still, think about yourself and talk about people.
58. Don't complain if you regret it, and don't count if you are ashamed.
59. People should never follow, and people should not be happy.
60. The evil is not big, and the bad heart is to get into trouble.
6 1, you don't have to rely on yourself to show your talents, but you are lucky to try.
62. When you are young, you must be aware of the bitterness of aging.
63. Self-help must be frugal, and banquets must linger.
64. Forgiving people is not an idiot, and idiots don't forgive people.
65. Indulging in love is a sea of pain, and lust is a pit of fire.
66. In front of the official, you can only respect him, but not one by one.
If you don't frown all your life, there should be no gnashing of teeth in the world.
68. The back waves in the river push the front waves, and the newcomers in the world chase the old ones.
69. Don't make something out of nothing, and don't be short-sighted and far-sighted.
70. You will think about it one day, so don't wait to think about it all the time.
7 1, a year's plan lies in spring, and a day's plan lies in morning.
72. Fortunately, the name without virtue is not a good omen. Money is a curse in troubled times.
73. A white hair will rush, and two thousand gold will not be bought back.
74, beauty is not beautiful, rural water; Kiss or not, fellow villager.
75. I have been willing to support you for a long time, and the sunset is not long.
76. Hard villages and towns live in harmony, and husband and wife live in harmony.
77. Never keep pace with the times or strive for perfection.
78. Father and son live in harmony, and the family is invincible, and brothers live in harmony, regardless of family.
79. I am afraid of the old scenery, so I can teach people to spend the spring.
80. Dead trees will reappear in spring, and people will no longer be young.
8 1, wealth is a heartless thing. The more you value him, the more he hurts you.
82. If the liver and intestines are warm in the spring breeze, although the bag is short of money, it is still pitiful.
83. The soul is as clear as autumn water, and the family is surrounded by walls, and it is finally proud of the princes.
84. Don't be selfish and hurt the overall situation, and don't use public opinion to engage in ambiguity.
85. Don't fight alone because of group questioning, and don't let others speak for themselves.
86. Don't lack your own strengths, and don't be silly to avoid others' abilities.
87. Do not bully widows by force or kill birds by greed.
88. It is not really good to want to be known for doing good, but it is a great evil to be afraid of being known.
89. If you study less, you will have leisure; Leisure is evil; If there is evil, there will be trouble.
90. Do not use the transaction with Shoujian; When you see poor neighbors, you must be warm-hearted.
9 1, bully, bully me; Dogs chase in poor lanes and bite in poor lanes.
92. It is the most shameful to flatter at the sight of wealth. Nothing is more arrogant than meeting poverty.
93, a porridge and a meal, when thinking hard; It's hard to keep thinking about things.
94. Filial piety should be to do one's best, not to preserve health. Crows have filial piety to feed back, and sheep know the grace of kneeling and nursing.
95, know the person, don't know the person, smell the person, this pot is also. Therefore, selfish ideas are shoveled in the bud, and flatterers refuse when they arrive.
96. The career will be destroyed with you, and the spirit will be immortal; Fame and fortune are passed down from generation to generation, and integrity is thousand years.
97. Listen to the speech lightly, be aware of unreasonable complaints, and think twice patiently; Arguing about something. If you don't know what's wrong with me, you need to think calmly
Cloud "Xunzi Shuzheng Tong" Family Style Family Instructions _ Famous Sentences
Cloud "Xunzi Shuzheng Tong" Family Style Family Instructions _ Famous Sentences
Ji Yun's Xun Zi Shu Er Tong in Qing Dynasty.
1. I'm afraid I will accumulate happiness from generation to generation. I will vent my anger until I finish.
My TOEFL, thanks to my ancestors' accumulated virtues, can have the grand occasion of a generation of officials, but my salary is the highest.
Reflect on your lack of progress in learning, your lack of efforts in virtue, and fear that the accumulated blessings of the previous generation will vent to the extreme, and it will be over here!
Therefore, when I was in a humble position, I was wild and loose; Now that my official position is constantly improving, my worries are getting deeper and deeper.
As the saying goes, the higher you rise, the deeper you sink.
I am very cautious at home at ordinary times, and I enjoy the principle of frugality day by day.
It's not that guests don't eat seafood, it's not out of the need of sacrifice, and they never kill anything.
I am over 50 years old, ranking the highest in history, with good fortune and long life. I don't have to kill and cultivate goodness, but I just want to leave some room for my children and grandchildren.
I often see families who have enjoyed official positions for generations. When they were prominent, their officials were powerful, and they killed people for food and did whatever they wanted. Of course, they are heroes of an era.
When they didn't fall behind, their children and grandchildren gambled and whored from the beginning and finally lay in the grass as beggars. Where is the honor and glory of their parents? I don't mean to be alarmist. The Qianjia old house I bought a few years ago has now been converted into my ancestral hall. I heard about the Qian family recently.
His son has become a beggar. Didn't his father used to be a prominent official?
Seeing this, we should learn from it.
Don't be arrogant, don't worship luxury, help the poor and work hard.
I bought 100 mu of rice fields specially and wanted to hire people to farm them. I also want you to learn to grow crops at any time, and you can be a well-behaved farmer and my good son in the future.
The ancestral spirits of Ji's family would not be sacrificed without food!
Don't think that the calloused hands and feet were all done by lowly people when plowing summer sowing in spring. Do you know that farmers are above the four people and scholars are below the four people? Farmers fly in Dai Yue and try their best to feed the whole world. If there were no farmers in the world, everyone would starve to death. How can you look down on farmers? Be sure to take a warning.
As a powerful court official, Ji Xiaolan did not use his power to get an official position for his son, but directly encouraged his son to learn how to grow crops and become a callused farmer. This is not a lack of love for his son, but a clear distinction between public rights and private affairs. At the same time, it is also a wise decision to read the vicissitudes of life and realize life; While serving the country in the DPRK, he still did not forget to add fields and land for his son, ranking as a minister, and resolutely forbidding killing and cultivating goodness to pray for his son. How sincere, just and bright his love for his son is.
This shows the vision and mind of a generation of talents.
2. Although princes are not proud of being in a coma, they are not ashamed of creating a professional version.
Some contemporary children of bureaucrats always bully others with arrogance, hoping that others will respect him; Call it self-esteem.
I don't know if it's important or not. Look at your own cultivation.
As long as he is morally worthy of the sage, even the prince who sweeps the floor for me will not feel honored, even if he is engaged in the lowest level of labor, he will not feel ashamed.
The decisive force that can make me noble is myself, and all kinds of external reactions are irrelevant.
If my weight is determined by the evaluation of others, I will feel honored if others respect me, and I will feel ashamed if others don't respect me. Then, handmaiden and others can manipulate my honor and disgrace. Is this too light for themselves? Chen Boya, a former teacher, once wrote a couplet in the book: people are always satisfied with things, and people are just without desire.
This is really a statement that can reveal the root of the matter.
You should write it down as a motto and practice it all your life. This is a good son.
People can only pursue their own moral perfection and career progress, and don't have to care too much about other people's public opinion and evaluation.
If you leave all your honor and disgrace to others to manipulate, you will fundamentally lose your moral center of gravity and direction in life.
Only by entering the realm of contentment and inaction can the mind be peaceful, free and lively, transcend the secular status and the oppression of others' evaluation, and have enough time and good mood to engage in the cause that one loves.
Bao Zheng Family Style Family Instructions Essence _ Famous Sentences
Bao Zheng Family Style Family Instructions Essence _ Famous Sentences _
Bao Zheng's Family Instructions in Song Dynasty.
It's not my will. Not from my children.
Descendants were appointed as court officials. If they commit the crime of corruption and abuse power for personal gain, they can't return to their families before they die, and their bones can't be buried in their ancestral graves after they die.
Those who don't follow my ambition are not my descendants.
I earnestly hope that this sentence can be carved on the stone by craftsmen and erected on the east wall of the main hall for future generations to see.
Bao Zheng is a typical representative of an upright official in ancient China.
He regarded the rule of law as the supreme master beyond imperial power and consanguinity, and created the highest peak of the spirit of rule of law in ancient China with his honest and selfless political career.
From his ban on corrupt officials who risked their lives and were buried in the future generations, we can see that he not only adhered to the selfless spirit of law enforcement until the last moment of his life, but also hoped that future generations would continue to carry forward and benefit the world behind him.
This is an ancient official who fought to the end with his life and corruption. His image has aroused the lasting respect and love of Chinese descendants, and constituted a monument to the law enforcement spirit of ancient officials in China.
The monument still maintains an insurmountable height.
Ding Jiaxun recorded family style and family instructions _ famous sentences
Ding Jiaxun recorded family style and family instructions _ famous sentences
Records of Song Family Training.
But the word "diligence" is accessible to everyone.
The first item: at home, filial piety and brotherhood should be the primary task.
Usually educating children and grandchildren to read and study is precisely to achieve this goal.
The admonitions left by the predecessors, there is one for each descendant, Sima Wengong's "Family Instructions"; You can copy everything, read it from time to time, it is worth emulating, and you don't have to wait for me to explain it one by one.
Article 2: Any official must be honest and diligent.
People's talents and temperament have their own advantages and disadvantages, so it is difficult to keep consistent.
But the word "honest and diligent" can be achieved by everyone.
Ask yourself to be honest and diligent, and treat people with the principle of harmony; Only by being in harmony with others can we live in peace and stay away from evil.
The third item: the oldest person in the family should be in charge of household chores and tax revenue and expenditure.
If you want the person you like to be responsible from the beginning, you should also listen to everyone's opinions and agree.
Item 4: If children and grandchildren misbehave and corrupt the family style, they should rely on the person in charge of family affairs to summon all their children, admonish and punish them in front of the court, and urge them to correct their mistakes. Those who act excessively should be admonished in court in the hall dedicated to the deities and ancestors' memorial tablets, and if they commit another crime, they should be admonished in court.
Fifth, the person in charge of housework should lead the children to arrange and handle various sacrificial activities within one year, which must meet the requirements of the sacrificial ceremony, and the remaining sacrifices must be shared by the whole family.
Sixth: on the first and fifteenth day of each month, we should take out wine and food for sacrifice. Like the usual sacrifice, the whole family should get together and not slack off and neglect.
Seventh: On the anniversary of the relatives of the deceased, monks should be invited and supported to recite scriptures, and the whole family should be vegetarian.
Item 8: All family property, children and grandchildren are inseparable.
In addition, there are express provisions that must be strictly observed in accordance with the prescribed constraints.
Item 9: The rent collected each year is distributed according to the population, and everyone, big or small, has a share.
Over five years old, give one third; Over ten years old, give half; 15 years old or older; Only for their own flesh and blood; Married women who haven't become monks are treated as sons-in-law and nephews.
Other slaves are not included in the distribution.
Item 10: inventory, rent, tax, income and expenditure, etc. At home, you should make detailed records and show your certificates, which should be signed by the head of the household and the eldest son of each room.
Other matters that increase or decrease substantially can only be decided after consultation.
This is the first ten of the 30 family laws formulated by Zhao Ding, from which we can get a glimpse of the ancient family system in China.
From the above ten specific family rules, it is not difficult to see that the ancient family system in China has at least the following characteristics: First, the moral goal of family management is filial piety, diligence, learning, kindness and nobility, which is beyond reproach.
Second, in the family model, although the longest person is required to be the head of the family in principle, if there is a suitable person, we should also listen to what everyone is discussing; Users mainly strictly establish accounts and make their finances public; Important expenses must also be discussed.
It can be seen that although this management system is regarded as paternalism by later generations, there are actually many democratic factors.
Third, everyone is equal economically.
In the distribution of property, the whole family, regardless of age, is the first class. Even the distribution of wine and food left over from the sacrifice is a broken plate for the family.
4. Sacrifice is the most common and grand folk activity in ancient families in China. Modern people regard it as feudal superstition. In fact, it is a folk religion different from western Christianity. It is a real local religion in China, which has been passed down from the history of China civilization and aims at respecting heaven and ancestors.
Fifth, the management of the ancient family system was very strict, and the unscrupulous descendants were trained in class, court and court.
This is a powerful and important means to educate children to change their ways besides school education and social education.
Traditional virtues are established and passed down in this way.
Hu Shi's Family Style Family Instructions and Introduction _ Famous Sentences
Hu Shi's Family Style Family Instructions and Introduction _ Famous Sentences _
The essence of Hu Shi's family style and family instructions;
Be the best person in life.
To be a man, be the best person. This is an ambitious child. But ambition should be in your heart, in your kung fu, never in your mouth, never in your eyelids. No matter how ambitious you are, don't be proud of others Hu Shi's letter to his son Hu Sizu.
brief introduction
Hu Shi (189 1- 1962), with clear pronunciation and mellow voice, and his pen names are Tianfeng and Canghui. People from Jixi, Anhui Province. Modern famous scholars, poets, historians, writers and philosophers. He used to be Professor Peking University, Ambassador of the Republic of China to the United States, President of National Peking University, and President of Taiwan Academia Sinica.
Hu Shi, one of the leaders of the New Culture Movement who advocated literary improvement, was the first scholar who advocated vernacular Chinese and new poetry, which had a far-reaching influence on the modern history of China.
Hu Shi advocated liberalism, skepticism, democracy and science to save the country all his life, and advocated bold assumptions and careful verification.
Hu Shi was deeply influenced by British philosopher Huxley and American philosopher Dewey, claiming that Huxley taught him how to doubt and Dewey taught him how to think. These influences also went deep into his family education thought.
After becoming a father, Hu Shi, who has a strong Chinese and western cultural background, consciously undertook the historical mission of cultural maintenance, and also tried to practice the family training of towel country style with western modern educational concepts.
Traditional family precepts attach great importance to teaching children to be human beings, and Hu Shi also attaches great importance to educating children to be human beings, even in the first place. After the birth of the eldest son's fourth ancestor, Hu Shi wrote a famous poem "My Son": Since you have come, I can't help raising you and teaching you. That's my duty to mankind, not to you.
When you grow up in the future, this is my expectation for you: I want you to be an upright person, not my dutiful son.
In Hu Shi's view, being an upright person is more important than being a dutiful son.
In the traditional old China, where filial piety is the first priority, it is tantamount to an empty step. When the four ancestors left their parents to study in Suzhou, how to let their children learn to live in harmony with others and how to deal with interpersonal relationships was an important issue that Hu Shi considered.
He admired Dewey's thought and habit of * * * moving together, so he put forward a sense of sociability and warned the four ancestors to learn to get along with others and think about how to get along with them.
You should do your own thing, but don't interfere with others; Try to help others, but you can't help others do bad things. There is a basic rule of gregarious, that is, always think of others and what I should do if I do him. I can't take it anymore. Can he stand it? I don't want to. Will he? If you can think like this, you are a good boy.
No matter how good your grades are, you should always be humble and be kind to others. The more people respect and love you, the more proud you are, and the more people hate and despise you. The towel he gave his son was ambitious and showed how to be honest, while modesty showed how to get along with others.
No matter how to behave and get along with others, its core value and purpose are to guide children to become independent adults and independent people who think, observe and judge independently.
As a warning sentence, I hope that the above family style and family training content _ Li Qinggan's famous sentence "Swallow Wing" will help you. If you want to get more famous sentences, you can click on the topic of famous sentences.