First, practice internally and actively change yourself.

Second, external training, take the initiative to change reality.

These two stages need strong willpower to escort. What is willpower?

In the book "Willpower Dividend", the author defines it like this:

Willpower, that is, the active control of behavior by psychology, comes from our practical experience of successfully challenging ourselves and reality again and again!

To strengthen willpower, rational study alone is definitely not enough. We must really resist temptation, overcome difficulties and setbacks, and stick to it in practice.

Therefore, we should know our willpower level through a specific goal or plan in specific daily affairs, and practice willpower purposefully, so as to really improve our willpower effectively.

Consciously setting goals and making plans can only achieve 20%~30% of the goals, and the remaining 70%~80% are related to implementation.

Easier said than done is our common fault. The fundamental reason for the continuous establishment of flags is:

It is relatively easy to set goals and make plans, and our brains are good at optimism, fantasy and self-deception. After writing down our goals and plans, we think that we have achieved them, regard our fantasies as reality, and fall into the illusory sense of accomplishment of self-satisfaction.

For example, buying books, hoarding books, signing up for classes and skipping classes. Therefore, how to resolutely implement the goal has always been a concern of everyone. Although there are many good methods, 80% people will still stay on the sidelines or know that they can't take the first step.

It often happens that if you take a step, you will immediately take two steps back when you encounter a little obstacle.

Therefore, in the book "Willpower Dividend", the author Gao Taiye told us that to improve willpower, we need to have the following five abilities:

1, the ability to maintain consciousness;

Practice measuring and evaluating your willpower level from the perspective of a third party, and understand your willpower limit, so as to better adapt and adjust.

2. The ability to resist temptation;

When you find that your willpower is being "challenged" by external temptation, you should learn to stop in time, analyze the hidden trap behind the temptation and say "no" to it firmly.

3. Ability to overcome difficulties;

Looking at difficulties from another angle, treating every setback as an opportunity for growth, accepting, resisting and avoiding them frankly, the difficulties will be reduced by more than half.

4. Ability to cope with setbacks;

Dare to face setbacks, regard setbacks as a good opportunity to hone willpower, make full use of setbacks and regard setbacks as a springboard to a higher realm of life.

5, the ability to adhere to the implementation!

Plan in small steps, keep a diary of success, build up self-confidence bit by bit, and motivate yourself to keep acting with positive feedback, thus forming a positive cycle.

How to do it specifically?

In Willpower Dividend, the author Gao Taiye also pointed out that we need to take life as the carrier. Strengthen willpower, not just shouting slogans on paper.

For example, we should first hone our willpower through small challenges in daily life, such as getting up early, reading, writing and exercising. Just like exercising muscles, we can gradually strengthen our willpower by practicing day after day.

The improvement of any kind of ability is the same, for example, the improvement of reading ability can not be improved by holding a book every day and diving into the sea of books.

Instead, we can combine the knowledge learned from books with the problems encountered in real life, apply what we have learned, truly understand the author's intention to write a book, and learn to solve specific problems.

Reading a book can solve a problem, and reading 100 books can solve 100 problems, which is the best proof of improving reading ability. If you can only read, but you can't even solve the basic problems of life, then your reading ability obviously needs to be improved.

Therefore, willpower is reflected in a person's attitude towards daily life. Anyone who can persist in doing even one thing well in work and life and has only one good habit has stronger willpower than others.

But just form a good habit and do a little thing well, and a series of chain reactions will occur in life, bringing more unexpected surprises.

Just as I consciously develop the habit of getting up early, yoga and meditation because of my reading habits, my life has become more and more orderly, with a sense of purpose and control, and I am full of hope and vitality every day.

Therefore, from our daily behavior habits, we can find the best breakthrough point to improve our willpower, take what we are willing to do every day except eating and sleeping as the carrier, train our willpower muscles, strive for perfection, and strive to achieve the ultimate.

Willpower will be unconsciously integrated into our bodies, forming our attitude and style of treating people and shaping what we like.

If you are also interested in reading, start reading every day to improve your willpower bit by bit. If you persist for at least 3 months, you will find unexpected surprises.

I am a practitioner of safe and efficient reading and compound interest growth, and one of the partners of Jingjie's dream reading club.

Committed to creating wealth with knowledge, reading in a light entrepreneurial way, teaching while learning, teaching while using, truly achieving efficient reading, turning knowledge into wealth, and realizing a double harvest of spirit and material.