As far as the generation gap is concerned, it is because of inequality, incomprehension and disrespect. Although the old concept that the monarch is the minister and the father is the son has long been denied, it is still deeply rooted in the hearts of parents. Zhang Ailing once said: "Children are not as confused as adults, and most parents don't understand the characteristics of children and young people, so they forget, which makes us forget the psychology of childhood." Zhang ailing's words show that parents don't understand their children's psychology. Parents are the makers of that generation gap, which distorts the greatest love in the world and makes the most selfless love wander in the generation gap. Our parents were born in the fifties and sixties and grew up in the seventies and eighties. Their world was formed in a completely different era from ours. Marxism teaches us to look at problems from the perspective of development, so how can we look at today's problems from the perspective of yesterday? When parents talk to their children and teach them, the attitude of absolute leadership and absolute rule is obvious. This makes the relationship between parents and children form a master-slave relationship. The development of this master-slave relationship will inevitably lead to a generation gap.

The world of children is completely different from that of adults. If it is not controlled, it will seriously affect the development of children-Lu Xun

More understanding and tolerance between parents and children is a kind of affection. Parents want their children to grow up healthily and have a bright future, and children also hope to get a brilliant life through their own efforts. However, if parents do not handle the problem properly, it may lead to children's rebellious mentality, leading to major differences between the two generations on the issue of * * * *, which is really inappropriate. If some parents expect too much from their children, sometimes their children's academic performance can't meet their parents' requirements, and they often show anxious expressions and dissatisfied words and deeds in front of their children. This is not conducive to the improvement of children's academic performance, and can only have a negative impact on children's mentality.

Take the initiative to find parents and children who speak the same language, because they are at different stages of life and have very different hobbies. However, parents should also keep pace with the times, understand and study young people's hobbies, and get in touch with some new things. In this way, there will be more * * * languages between the two generations, and family relations will be more harmonious.

As parents, our values will definitely be different from those of the next generation, but we should realize that this difference is inevitable because the living environment and growth process of the two generations are different. So we don't need to force our children to maintain the same values as us, but we should seek common ground while reserving differences and try our best to understand them. At the same time, although teenagers in senior high school have initially acquired certain values, they are still not very stable and have strong plasticity, so parents' values will still have a certain impact on their children. Parents' excellent personality charm and outlook on life can set an example for their children. Therefore, as parents, we should set an example and help children to establish a positive attitude, respect and understand their children. Everyone wants to be respected and understood, and so do teenagers. This is also a distinctive psychological feature of teenagers and their common aspiration. Parents should put down their authority and communicate frankly with their children instead of keeping a straight face all day. Research shows that the parent-child relationship in democratic families is much more harmonious than that in authoritative families. Second, let children have their own space. Another feature of adolescence is atresia. During this period, most children become unwilling to talk to their parents, preferring to stay alone in the room rather than tell their parents what troubles and worries they have, but pour them out in their diaries. Therefore, parents should realize that this is a normal phenomenon in the development of teenagers, do not closely monitor all children's behaviors, and must get to the bottom of their children's personal privacy, and do not get to the bottom of it. Third, encourage and praise children. Teenagers have a sensitive and fragile self-esteem, such as necessities, but they need the approval and support of their parents more. Therefore, proper praise, even a small thing, will enhance children's self-confidence, stimulate their sense of accomplishment, make children feel that their parents are connected with themselves, respect their parents more, and strive to do better. Responsible attitude towards children and the concept of strict education for children. Without strict requirements, children's problems in the process of growing up can't be corrected, and their shortcomings can't be overcome, which is very unfavorable to their growth. But strict requirements do not mean beating and cursing, let alone insulting. Don't pay too much attention to the rigor of form, while the attitude and methods are too simple and rude, lacking warm education and convincing reasoning. Parents love children for the same reason. However, due to the different means and methods of education, the results are quite different. Children need constant encouragement as they grow up. Parents' trust, understanding and respect, excessive demands and strict discipline, not only can not make their psychological development normal, but will make them in a depressed psychological state for a long time, and over time they will become tired, weak, depressed and even rebellious. Moreover, stick education will make children indifferent and even hostile to their parents and society. It is very harmful to strictly discipline children blindly, hoping for quick success and instant benefit, but ignoring their psychological needs and the psychological process of personality development. Children are afraid of being severely and passively disciplined when they are young, but with the growth of age and the enhancement of self-awareness, they will naturally show resistance and resistance. To love and teach children, the premise is to understand and master the characteristics of children's psychological development and give encouragement and heuristic education. Strict requirements should be strict and disciplined, that is, within reasonable requirements, within physical and psychological endurance, we should follow the law of development of things and should not rush for success. Children will fly into a rage when they make mistakes, hate iron and not produce, and scold them if they don't fight. Discipline is strictly required. Usually, we should put forward requirements and specify regulations for their behavior, and then standardize children's words and deeds according to the requirements and regulations to guide their growth. If you only rely on your own right and wrong ideas or emotional likes and dislikes to educate, you will only be at a loss. After a mistake is punished, you don't know how to avoid making similar mistakes again, and you will be dissatisfied with your punishment. In addition, strict discipline must be taught without punishment, that is to say, after making a mistake, it is forbidden to beat him regardless of the willy-nilly, and then do not explain the reason for hitting him or point out the mistake. The premise of strict requirements is education. We should stick to education and gradually let children know which behaviors are wrong through education. If the same mistake is repeatedly taught and knowingly committed, it can only be a warning and punishment. It is inevitable that children often make mistakes. Let's not be disappointed in him easily, let alone rush into it. Being kind to children and treating them as yourself will save a lot of trouble. Let the two generations get along happily, and then communicate equally as friends to solve the existing problems and differences together. I hope you can take your child on a journey with sincere love and proper teaching methods, and send him on his long life path. Frankly speaking, I have no experience in educating children. Being a father and a mother is the first time. Inevitably, there will be inappropriate ways to gain children's understanding and explore the road to growth. Parents are not raising children, but growing up with them.