No one denies that material factors play an important role in a happy marriage, but material life is not everything in marriage life, which must be a well-known truth. However, when family conditions, income, having a house and a car are regarded as the dead bars and minimum standards for "getting married well", when too much attention is paid to the visible material indicators, whether the personality is suitable or not, and whether they get along well, these more critical indicators will obviously affect whether they can get married well. Maybe love is like this, only value each other's material. Even if we are together, we will only vent our desires after serving the bear, but we don't know how to choose our future. However, under such a "hurry to get married" mentality, it is very likely that the marriage of a rich man who thinks he is "well married" will eventually become a "unmarried" marriage tragedy. In addition, once the material life begins to be rich, should we continue to work hard in the workplace to win the envy of the world, or return to our families and live a leisurely life with our husbands and children? How should they choose between the dilemma of fish and bear's paw? Experts prescribe "four prescriptions" for female college graduates: "Know yourself-accurate positioning is the premise; Docking the club-shaping yourself is the key; Challenge tradition-break through the cage and expand the space; Don't wait-the road to demand is wide. "

The deeper reason is that the channel from the bottom to the top of society is becoming narrower and narrower, and it is becoming more and more difficult for young people, especially young women, to change their own destiny by knowledge. Some people say that the practice of "marrying people in a hurry" is a return to traditional ideas and a choice of lifestyle, which is understandable. However, some sociologists point out that the spreading trend of "fast marriage" reflects the impetuous and utilitarian mentality of contemporary college students. Lei Yu, a reporter from China Youth Daily, quipped: "Junior college students are little dragon girls, undergraduates are Huang Rong, master students are Li Mochou, and doctoral students are extinct teachers. Will no one want to study too much? " Are female scientists just weird monsters? "At the high-level forum for women scientists at the annual meeting of China Association for Science and Technology, when many fashion elements were concentrated on female academicians and ten outstanding female scientists, it attracted bursts of applause and amazement. In the face of hundreds of female college students, a group of female scientists refuted their statement: women can do well and marry well! Similarly, Wu, a member of the Standing Committee of the National People's Congress and former vice minister of the Ministry of Education, believes that "female college students are doing as misleading as marrying well. " ; " If you don't live well and marry well, it will be very sad. "The key is to balance family and career, fly with me.