Have you found your next of kin? Life, especially old age, is indispensable for success or failure. Whether we have found a "loved one" for ourselves, let go of our aging and weak heart and trust him or her to take care of it is often overlooked. In the long years, have you found yourself and saved your loved ones the day after tomorrow? This is very important, which is related to the quality of life for the rest of your life and the spiritual comfort after middle age. The acquired relatives are indispensable members of the spiritual home. Life is really different without them. The concept of acquired relatives is of course relative to natural relatives. Innate relatives are essentially non-selective, and we have been passively structured since the day we came to this world. Although there is an old saying that "blood is thicker than water", the word "imperceptible" is full of advice and reminders, warning us not to forget the basis of blood whenever there is any problem, but the reality is that with the change of ecology and the class gap, there has been an embarrassment that the innate closeness is gradually drifting away from values to cognition. "The nearest you are the farthest distance for me" means not only love, but also all the feelings that go hand in hand but can't find the vibration point.

In today's society, the alienation of family ties is a great helplessness that cannot be avoided. Fortunately, everyone can choose their relatives the day after tomorrow according to their own destiny and good E Lai. Many times, they are more reliable than their natural relatives, and it is easier to realize seamless connection of communication systems. Finding them takes time and sincerity. With this storage and backup, you have the capital to fight against years and difficulties, and you have the interest in a happy life. The search for acquired relatives is generally completed before middle age, not as simple as friends. The day after tomorrow, relatives are more focused and richer than friends. In addition to picking up a conversation, you can say it smoothly, join hands with others in various hobbies, and entrust your heart, wishes and even things behind you. Especially after death, it is most important to check the texture visibility of acquired relatives. Anita Mui disposed of her inheritance like this before her death: she gave two properties to her friend Liu Peiji, and set up a trust fund for the rest. She resolutely refused to give the inheritance to her mother and family, resulting in a lawsuit lasting for nine years. Her family also proved Anita Mui's foresight with bitter struggle. Columnist Han Songluo lamented: "Her life's efforts and will are actually a choice. She tried to make a choice in front of people and things she couldn't choose. Since blood relatives have no choice, she chooses recognized relatives for herself. " Some people interpret Anita Mui's entrustment as desolation. In fact, isn't that also a kind of happiness? After all, for 40 years, she found her relatives the day after tomorrow by her own efforts. It was an unintentional search from youth: 19 years old met Liu Peiji, 1983 accepted his image transformation, entered the heyday of "ever-changing girl", and got rid of the imitation show of "Paula Tsui II" in one fell swoop. In the following 2 1 year, on the basis of friends and partners, they developed into acquired relatives who could have a heart-to-heart relationship or even die. In 2003, Anita Mui's last concert and wedding dress was made by Liu Peiji. When her will caused controversy, as the center of the whirlpool, he hid and made the last shroud for Anita Mui. This kind of maintenance has left her without a spouse and children, because some people really regret it and walk with warmth and dignity. In this 2 1 year, he accompanied her to blossom, wither and wither, more than his family. Xu Fan is luckier than Anita Mui, because the home she found for herself the day after tomorrow is her husband. Since it is a sexual relative, it is definitely another kind of relationship between husband and wife, which is enough to surpass the sexual problems that plague ordinary families. For example, two years ago, Xu Fan faced the scandal of Xiaogang Feng, especially like the mother of a son studying abroad who was entangled with a girl. She said grandly, "People are born to go up, don't you think?" People are as desperate as daring to kill the island. How to do this ... later, I felt that our family was all men anyway, and it was not us who suffered. "I think this is too common and' protecting calves', so I chose to be interviewed by Chai Jing and do a metaphysical anatomy. I shouted from my heart, "Xiaogang Feng gave his life to be kind to me. In this life, I can't tell anyone but tell him that I am like an abandoned baby and that he has adopted my heart. "The sincerity of this summary is unparalleled, which makes people feel sour in their eyes and hot in their hearts. No less than holding each other's hands and saying with tears at the end of life: "I haven't had enough in this life, and I will wait for you at the old place in the next life." "

Liu Xiaoqing has at least two relatives, Zheng Mingming and Jiang Wen, who kept her artistic life from ending in imprisonment.

When Liu Xiaoqing's boyfriend, Afeng Zaza, started to shout the useless slogan "Wait for you to come back" firmly and hollowly, Jiang Wen silently helped his ex-girlfriend in prison to donate money. After Liu Xiaoqing was released from prison, she did not hesitate to look for performance opportunities for her; Zheng Mingming, a good friend, also helped her, using her connections to open up the situation for her, so that Liu Xiaoqing paid off huge debts in such a short time and became a near-re-embodiment person. "Just walk your life", Xu Fan's realm is too high, but "what you can't say to others all your life can only be said to you" type of spiritual adoption, and relatives can understand each other the day after tomorrow. With this relationship, no matter how difficult the road is, no matter how painful the moment is, you can face it proudly, because you know that you are not fighting alone! The day after tomorrow, your relatives didn't wait for you, but you paid a reciprocal sincerity, the so-called mutual benefit. They lay in ambush on the young road. When our physical and mental abilities are relatively abundant, they rely on enthusiasm and attract each other with interest. In the selfless companionship and communication again and again, the affectionate clockwork is getting tighter and tighter until it is firm. Middle age is the age when reason overwhelms sensibility. Everyone is busy shouldering the burden at home and abroad, and it is difficult to have a childlike heart like when I was a child, which contains no impurities and asks for nothing in return. Therefore, it is extremely difficult to make friends with the acquired relatives who adopt the heart. In the first half of your hurry, your heart is full of desires, but in the first half of your life, the seeds you sow at will may bear fruit in the second half of your life. Therefore, when people reach middle age, they should learn to examine their own ecological environment, especially to strengthen contact with former classmates, former lovers, former partners and other groups. When people reach middle age, when they are lucky enough to meet, they put their arms around their knees and deliberately capture "that person." Because of familiarity, so dear, so beyond utility. Nowadays, the class reunion, tea party and cocktail party, which are constantly heating up and renovating, are not also searching and exploring again and again? In this community, relatively speaking, there may always be a real and pure silence waiting there.