But if there is no such goal, or the goal is too low, you will find that he has no motivation and energy. Only after setting a goal, in fact, our subconscious will help us create many conditions. My goal is to jump and pick apples. This goal is meaningless if you can pick it at will. So I told my children that successful people have goals first and then conditions. In fact, they look at conditions first. For example, what is the ranking in the school, and then determine the goal according to the existing conditions. How to establish this goal? First of all, analyze a few questions with the child, that is, what is her ideal score. That is her inner voice. Don't listen to her verbal voice. That's not important. What is the ideal life she wants? Use these standards to activate her inner strength. So going to the high school campus with her will make her standards more practical. Then, this goal should be concrete, measurable and achievable. My child's grades are not very satisfactory, so it is meaningless to let her go to Hanger II and Gaohang. Be reasonable. My children have studied, loved and specialized in art since childhood. After communicating with her, I decided to apply for the art special class in Hangzhou No.7 Middle School. In fact, this high school is also a good school. When I'm with her during this time, I want to help her do this plan well. The ultimate goal is how much math, English, Chinese and science are tested. Design a rough score, what is the gap from this score, and what needs to be added, and then go to the pre-test training class of Hangzhou No.7 Middle School Art Class to improve the art level and gradually succeed. So sometimes I find that you can give your child a radish to make her do something happily, or you can take part in the evaluation and hit her with a stick, saying that you must move forward. What is good for children? In fact, it is to let her know the positive value and let her really dig out her own motives, not her parents'. If we want to tap her inner motivation and let her know what benefits it will bring to her to study in this high school, then she must be willing to study. When she has entered the goal, she will naturally find some conditions to achieve it. Voluntary reporting seems relatively simple, because both teachers and students and parents mainly look at the admission scores of each high school, which can be arranged from high to low. But the actual operation is really not that simple. At the consultation meeting, many parents got lost in the self-promotion of senior high school, and the new forms of recruitment, promotion and quota allocation accounted for an increasing share, which gave students and parents more choices, but at the same time the difficulty of grasping them was also increasing. In addition to the school's popularity and enrollment rate, candidates and parents may wish to pay more attention to some "details" when choosing high school volunteers. Look at the faculty. Don't indulge in the number of special-grade teachers and district-level backbone teachers advertised by some schools. Some special-grade teachers, as school leaders, rarely attend classes, and their influence is not in the school. In some areas, the proportional distribution of the title of "backbone teacher" to schools is not enough to prove the quality of schools. Students and parents should pay more attention to the strength and reputation of front-line teachers. Therefore, parents may wish to ask more questions: "How many young teachers have special-grade teachers taught in several classes? How many front-line teachers with characteristics and personalities are there in the school? " Second, when looking at practical activities, we should pay attention to the practical activities in senior high schools. The high school stage is a critical period for students' thoughts to move from enlightenment to maturity. Even though the academic burden of high school will increase, a responsible school will never weaken students' practical exercise and spiritual experience. Many high schools offer rich and solid moral education courses and series of activities according to the age and ideological characteristics of students. Parents should see that the breadth, breadth, courage and development potential of students with rich practical experience far exceed that of their peers confined to the depths of classrooms and books. So parents might as well ask one more question: "How many places will your school take my children to leave footprints in three years of high school?" Third, look at elective courses. Some jobs can only be done by powerful high schools. In addition to national courses, the quantity, quality and novelty of school-based courses and even elective courses are important yardsticks to test the level of school teachers and the educational realm. High schools with high admission rate of key universities have their own unique practices in hierarchical teaching and teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, so parents may wish to ask, "Show me the list of elective courses in your school." Fourth, look at the details of education. Some details are beyond the reach of ordinary "secular" high schools, so they are particularly valuable: when students take the college entrance examination to beno. 1, some schools first think of not self-promotion and taking credit, but sending out public thank-you letters to tell the next level of the pyramid the joy of success-the schools and teachers where students are in junior high schools, subtly cultivate students' gratitude, and never put gratitude only in preaching; When students enter the third year of senior high school and fill in the additional test subjects for the college entrance examination, some schools, even if the number of applicants for biology and geography is as small as single digits, do their best to offer all the additional test subjects for students regardless of the cost, instead of hanging on to the slogan of "all for students" ... So parents may wish to ask one more question: "Are geography and biology two additional test subjects for the college entrance examination in your senior high school?" Fifth, look at the spirit of logistics support in detail. "