In the youth drama "Hello in the Old Times", there are all kinds of families and parents who educate their children in different ways. The growth of children and their hearts are different.
Just like my mother, she is kind, elegant, demure and noble, just like a white swan flying in the sky. She unconsciously influenced the children, who were kind and considerate. She will go through fire and water for her friends and help the weak. She will not ridicule the transfer students like other students, but will help them with her own strength and save them with her own little strength.
Someone once said: One day you will understand that kindness is more difficult than cleverness, cleverness is a gift, and kindness is a choice. Yu's mother didn't fight for the man she loved, but silently endured. Although her kindness was not understood, it brought infinite hatred. But she won't change, because she has chosen a good path and she has been moving forward. Just like Yu, even if she is wronged again, she will not complain, but will choose to cry silently, even if her heart is very painful, so that people will not worry or pretend as if nothing has happened. Kind people are always charming, from the inside to the outside, from the soul to the body, with the breath of love, as if they can melt the ice and snow in winter.
Like Yang Lin's parents, they love and understand their children moderately, but they don't spoil them. They are also critical, relaxed and reasonable, thus educating children as warm as the little sun. Yang Lin's parents come from a superior family, and their upbringing is extraordinary. You can know them by their gestures. They will think from the children's point of view, just like Yang Lin secretly changed his liberal arts without telling them. After they found out, they didn't wait on them hard, but thought seriously, took the initiative to apologize, and criticized themselves for admitting their mistakes. They deeply blame themselves for not considering their children's feelings, but they are good at excusing them. The family hugged each other and cried, and the picture of apologizing to each other immediately evoked tears from the audience.
In life, parents seldom apologize to their children, because they have to safeguard their dignity as elders. Even if they are wrong, they will not bow their heads and apologize, because they think they eat more salt than you, and they have crossed more bridges than you. So many parents will not admit their mistakes to their children. They think it is a shameful thing. Apologizing to the child is a joke. I was pregnant in October, and I worked hard to bring him up and serve him from a little boy to a big boy. There is no need to apologize. They ignore that little boys need respect. Fortunately, Yang Lin's parents are wise and understand their children. They will say "I'm sorry" in good faith. Therefore, Yang Lin became a smiling, optimistic and sunny child.
Just like Ling's mother, she is aggressive and uncompromising. She should plan her daughter's every step and attach what she thinks is right to her daughter. In the name of love, under the slogan of being good for you, Ling was forced to do many things she didn't like, such as being a monitor, electing the president of the student union and bribing the director. Unconsciously, Ling Xiangxi may have been slightly influenced by her mother's "sophistication". She strives for the first place in everything. When foreign students came to challenge Zhenhua Middle School, she also worked with Yu to solve the problem. But she is off the stage, and Yu is on the stage. When she didn't realize that the problem was wrong, but I found it, she was lost, lost herself and envied Yu's talent and intelligence. Her strength is inseparable from her mother's request, so when she went to the liberal arts, Ling also ran away, because she wanted to prove that she was no worse than anyone else. LingXiangQian stubborn heart, the idea of striving for strength, continue to develop, may be close to the magic road.
Some parents are too strict with their children, but they restrict them, putting them under irresistible pressure and causing irreparable tragedies. One of my junior high school classmates, whose mother is a teacher in our school, was assigned to the ethnic class, which is our key class and brings together outstanding students in the county. Her mother asked her to be in the top ten in her grade, but in Master Ruyun's ethnic middle school, she worked hard and failed to catch up with other students. At home, she finally couldn't resist the invisible pressure from her mother. At that moment, the whole line collapsed, and finally she became stupid and had to drop out of school for a year. When I saw her again later, I recovered a lot, but I was still pale and listless. This injury is the brand of her life, and I don't know whether she has fully recovered. The trauma of mind and spirit may take a lifetime to heal.
Like Zhou Shenran's mother, she is too grumpy and has always resented Zhou Yi's family and refused to let go of her hatred. She often curses Yu's mother and Yu in front of her young son. Xiao Zhou was deeply impressed and naturally angry and resentful. Young as he is, how can he know what is right and what is wrong? In his eyes, my mother who loves me the most is right, because how can she lie to me the most? He doesn't understand the adult world, so he and his mother inherited this resentment, and he lived a dark childhood himself, but he didn't know it. His mother didn't notice either. She doesn't know that this will bring endless changes to children's outlook on life and world.
The personality characteristics of people in this life, whether sunny or optimistic, shy or indifferent, dark or lonely, are closely related to childhood. It is undoubtedly their parents who get along with each other the most in their childhood, and their words and deeds unconsciously become the objects that children imitate. I remember in a public service advertisement, the mother washed the grandmother's feet with a basin, and the child saw it and carried a basin of water. The spilled water is full of filial piety and contains the inheritance of filial piety.
When we become parents, if you love your child and hope your baby can have a happy and healthy childhood, please try to change your words and deeds, because it is very likely that at that moment, your bad behavior will be reflected in your child's eyes and become an indelible mark in his heart, affecting his life.
If you love children, please control yourself first and set up a good image, so that the children you cultivate are the pillars and flowers of the motherland.