In the old days, most marriages were "the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers", and they could not fall in love freely. When a man reaches the age of seventeen or eighteen, his parents begin to ask the matchmaker to find a home for the woman. If they like a girl, they ask the matchmaker to propose. If the woman refuses, she will politely decline, but will not offend the matchmaker. If the woman agrees, the man can go to the woman's house to propose marriage again.

In ancient times, Nacai often used live geese as gifts, because people thought that geese "landed in the south and the ice ocean was in the north", conforming to the exchange of Yin and Yang; Moreover, after a goose loses its spouse, it will never be paired in a lifetime. People take their loyalty as a gift to express their sincerity in proposing marriage.

2, ask the name-commonly known as the eight characters.

The man asked the matchmaker to go to the woman's house and ask her name and birthday. After retrieving Geng Tie, Buji folded the eight characters in half to see if they matched.

The year, month, day and time of a person's birth match heavenly stems and earthly branches, which is a set of two characters and four sets of eight characters. According to the five elements, wood makes a fire, fire produces soil, soil produces gold, gold produces water, aquatic wood; Mu, Huo, Jin Kemu, Mu Ketu and Tu Keshui. In some areas, according to the eight characters of both sides, there are superstitious sayings such as "the white horse is afraid of the golden bull, the mouse and sheep are not at the end, the snake sees the tiger like a knife file, and the pig sees the baby monkey with tears".

3. Najib-that is, engaged.

This custom was called "marriage paper" in the Tang Dynasty and "exchanging posts" in modern times, that is, engagement in the modern sense. On that occasion, the man should prepare a gift to the woman's house, and the two sides exchange marriage papers to show that the engagement is reached. In the past, men used geese as gifts, but in modern times, they gradually evolved into ornaments such as earrings, rings and silver hats. After Najib, even if the two sides decided to get married, the girl was "married" at this point.

4, Zheng Na-dowry

After marriage, the man sends a bride price to the woman's house. The quantity and quality of bride price vary from place to place, mainly depending on the wealth of the family. Before hiring, the matchmaker holds a bride price card (gift list) and negotiates with the woman's family. Often there are many disputes on quantity and quality between the two sides, and a decision can only be made after many discussions.

In ancient times, when recruiting people, the man's family prepared a gift book, put it on a red lacquer wooden tray, lined up with gifts on his shoulders, and sent it to the woman's family with drum music. The lady's family helped to arrange gifts for relatives, friends and neighbors to watch. The bride accepted the bride price and the engagement was formally established. The names of the bride price all have auspicious meanings, and the number is even, which means pairs, and singular is forbidden.

5, please date-commonly known as dating.

The man chooses the wedding date and negotiates with the woman. Generally, two auspicious days are celebrated, one in the first half and the other in the second half. The date and wedding matters are written in the post, and the matchmaker is invited to send them to the woman's home, and then the woman selects the date, commonly known as "fixing the date".

6, kiss-marry a new person to get married

On the wedding day, the groom put on a hat and tied a big red flower on his chest to marry the bride himself. After the wedding banquet in the morning, the bride's sedan chair set off.

When the sedan chair arrived, the drum band had to play it three times before the woman opened the door and deliberately shut the groom out, meaning "hold back." After the groom enters the door, he must first worship the woman's ancestors and parents. No matter which season, the bride's wedding dress is red. When she leaves the house, she can't touch the ground, and the groom or her brothers are carrying or carrying the sedan chair. After getting off, you can't get off halfway.

When the wedding team returned to the man's house, the position of XiShen's sedan chair had been determined, and the girls who were ready to get married laid the red carpet and lifted the curtain of the sedan chair. After the bride got off the sedan chair with the help of the bridesmaid, the ceremony of worshipping heaven and earth began. Generally, the table is placed in front of the hall, and the woman stands in the southwest. Amid the shouts of the master of ceremonies, the ceremonies of worshipping heaven, earth, high hall and husband and wife began, and then they were sent to the bridal chamber.