Let's start with two incredible news.

One is the sensation of the whole network. The 67-year-old mother gave birth to a daughter named "Tianci". To the old couple, this child is a godsend.

However, their practice was opposed by netizens and their children. The child even said that he would break off the relationship, but the couple were very determined: "If it is broken, it will be broken." After the child was born, none of the children visited, only 15 year old granddaughter went.

The other is old news. Wu Meng, 42, is an online celebrity. She suffers from severe pulmonary hypertension, so medically speaking, she can't get pregnant.

However, she did not listen to the doctor's advice, insisted on pregnancy, and announced on the Internet that if she could give birth smoothly, it would bring hope to all patients of the same type.

Finally, the child was born, but Wu Meng died of infection in April this year, and the child no longer had a mother.

The more girls write these two news stories together, it is because they both have * * * nature, and neither mother has the congenital conditions for pregnancy. The former is too old, and the latter is not allowed by physical conditions.

But both mothers regard giving birth as the supreme thing, and even if the whole world opposes it, they should bring their children into this world.

It is true that for women, childbirth needs to pay a huge price, and sometimes it even goes to the gate of hell.

From this perspective, it is great to give birth to new life. But the baby was born, and then what? Who will accompany him through the long road of life in the future?

A 67-year-old woman is old and old enough to take care of her children. Now she has to look after a baby. Even if economic conditions permit, how long can she stay with the children?

Children who are underage may not live healthily in this world. The child has gone to school to work. How will she face her family background?

After the parents left, the responsibility of taking care of the children fell to the children again. Is this fair to children?

As for Martin's child, she has only been in this world for a few months. Maybe she doesn't even remember her mother's appearance, but she has completely lost her maternal love. Who can fill this gap in her later years?

I have to say that having children is really the most selfish thing in the world.

02

In scholar Liu Yu's "May you grow up slowly", there is such a passage:

On Mother's Day, I only felt uneasy and even embarrassed when I saw the overwhelming slogans such as "Thanks to Mother" and "Great Motherly Love". I have always had an incorrect view: giving birth to a child is the most selfish thing in the world, and using other people's lives to complete yourself. A mother's love for her children is only that she bears the consequences for the choice of having children, far from being great.

I agree with Liu Yu very much. The so-called greatness is just the crown given to me by the world, but how many people have children for pure purposes?

I once did a survey, and the question was: What did you have children for?

I have collected many answers, and the most common ones are these:

Parents are anxious to have children. What can we do?

With a baby, you won't be so lonely when you are old.

These two kinds are summed up in order to carry on the family line and raise children to prevent old age.

Under this concept, how good can parents' education be? I don't know if you feel this way, there is no doubt that your parents love you, but many times you are kidnapped by their love.

When I was a child, Teacher Yue often heard my parents say, "Your academic performance is so poor, why should I give birth to you?"

When I grew up, my parents' words became: "I raised you so that you could go to school." Shouldn't you be filial to us? "

Of course I know that my parents love me, but their subtext is: because I gave birth to you, you should study hard; Because I gave birth to you, you should be filial to us.

Then, excuse me, what is the purpose of your birth of me? Is it to fulfill your unfinished dream, or to be a money-making machine to support you?

For a long time, I felt that I studied hard, not for myself, but for my parents.

This idea is not correct, but my parents' behavior made me form such a subconscious mind and unconsciously lost the ability to find myself.

In addition, when your parents ask you for things again and again under the banner of giving birth to you and raising you, your heart is very cold.

Although you know it is your duty to be kind to them, all love is covered with utilitarian breath when it is asked naked. From this perspective, is the love of parents really great?

What is true greatness? The so-called greatness means that I gave birth to you, am responsible for you, and don't want to kidnap you with my own ideas. I don't ask you to be what I want, but help you to be what you want.

When you grow up and earn money, you will give me the best, but I won't ask you.

It is selfless to treat children as independent individuals rather than private property.

03

There is a saying that both parents are evil. This sentence is extreme, but it also writes the voices of some children.

Douban used to have a group of parents who spoke out. These members were deeply hurt by their parents, but their parents never realized their problems.

In the past two years, many TV dramas have been discussing "Evil Descendants".

Some people say that you should learn to get back what your family owes you.

But there are some injuries that you can't repair in your life. There are some knots that you can't untie all your life.

Su Mingyu in Everything is Fine grew up under the pressure of her mother. Her mother prefers boys to girls, and her father is weak and incompetent. She wants to take the Tsinghua exam, but her mother doesn't even want to buy review materials.

After college entrance examination, she was forced to go to a free normal university. Are such parents really great?

They just ruined their daughter's life.

Of course, Su Mingyu is lucky. She met her master and finally reached the peak of her life with her own efforts.

She seems to have unlimited scenery, sitting on wealth and fame. But no one saw the pain and loneliness behind the glamour. She is extremely insecure and often sleeps in the bathtub.

She is closed-minded and has no stable intimate relationship in her thirties.

Her parents gave birth to her, but they didn't raise her well, which finally brought her a lifetime of pain.

I can't say how great my parents are. It is their choice to have children, and it is their responsibility to raise them.

At the age of 67, an online celebrity gave birth to a child. The news sounds very touching and I am desperate for his life.

However, the so-called selflessness is just to fulfill one's wishes. Have they considered their children's future life?

Having a baby is the most selfish thing in the world.

Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka said: "The saddest thing in this world is that parents don't need exams."

Therefore, I hope that every child's purpose in life is pure, not to be kidnapped by morality, and not to be arrogant. Since you have decided to bring a life into this world, you must be responsible for her, and don't let your child live in the gutter all his life.