How do parents know "Don't let their children lose at the starting line"? In the process of children's growth, the most important educational resource is actually the parents themselves. I always think this sentence tells us that education should start from an early age, and we should pay special attention to the education of children aged 0 to 6 or even 0 to 3, and we should not ignore it just because children are young. If understood from this perspective, this sentence is not worth criticizing: children's education should start from the day they are born. How can a word set off a huge wave? The key point is that we have different understandings of the sentence "Don't let children lose at the starting line" and the two key words "lose" and "starting line". Only by knowing what is the "starting line" for children's growth, what is "losing" and what is "winning" can we be less anxious and more rational about children's education. Recently, China Education News launched a parent survey on WeChat public platform around its understanding of this educational slogan and related issues. In just two days, more than 3,000 parents participated. We can see that parents' understanding of "don't let children lose at the starting line" is still different. "Do you agree that children can't lose at the starting line?" 19% of parents agree that the competition in modern society is fierce, and children should strive to compete since childhood; 29.2% parents agree that social competition is very common, but high school and even college are the starting line of competition; There are 5 1.8% parents who disagree and think that children should grow up according to their own development and do not need to participate in competition. "What do you think is a child's' starting line'?" 23.6% of parents think it is the day when the child is born; 6.2% parents think that kindergartens enter the park; 13.2% of parents think it is primary school entrance; 17.5% parents think it is after middle school; 39.5% of parents think there is no "starting line". "What do you think is the ultimate goal of Runway of Life?" 8.3% of parents think it is to have status and get ahead. 2.9% parents think they can make money, which is richer than most people around them; 88.8% of parents consider themselves happy ordinary people. "How to treat' children can't lose at the starting line'?" 4.7% think that life is a competition, and children should develop better than other children in all aspects from an early age. 3.4% think that children should pay attention to learning all kinds of knowledge, develop intelligence, learn literacy and arithmetic early and not fall behind; 9 1.9% think that parents should attach importance to education from an early age, but don't compare their children with other children. It should be pointed out that the sample of this survey is a group of parents who are very concerned about family education and especially love learning, and it does not represent the overall situation of parents in China. However, we can see that there are still quite different views on the above four issues. The above four questions actually reflect parents' views on child-rearing, among which the most fundamental is what kind of person we want to cultivate our children and how we recognize their growth. Different cognition of these problems will lead to great differences in parents' educational behavior after the birth of their children. A parent who regards the growth of a child as a competition will fall into anxiety from the birth of the child and blindly let the child learn this and that. In our research, there is another question: "What do you think parents should pay attention to the growth of their children?" There are three answers. One is to make enough economic investment and try not to make children's conditions worse than their peers. Second, strive to find the best resources and the best counseling and training methods in society, and strive to make children versatile and outstanding; The third is to accompany children to grow up, be close friends of children, and guide children to grow up healthily. Parents' different views on parenting lead to different understandings of this issue. What parents must know is that in the process of children's growth, the most important educational resources are actually parents themselves.