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Discover the beauty of life and then make the girl you like beautiful.
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Got a girlfriend.
Why can't programmers find girlfriends? Is it the reason why there are few female programmers? The landlord's question is very good First of all, I can tell you for sure that it is definitely not. The main reason is that too many programmers, like Yu Ge, don't know how to chase girls. They always think that once or twice fanning the flames and attracting others' attention will win their hearts. Such people are stupid. They don't know how to act. Teacher Tang is right. Give her a month's breakfast to see if she is moved. If she is not moved, then give her Chinese food for a month until she is moved!
There are many reasons why I can't find a girlfriend, either because I'm not sociable or because I'm average-looking and introverted ... It's up to you to think.
Why can't you find a girlfriend and ask for a girlfriend? First of all, if you are not ugly, it is easy to catch up with girls. If you have a crush on a girl, go after her. Don't say anything embarrassing. Now it's 20 13. Say something more to make her happy. If you have the opportunity to spend more time with her, you should pay attention to some details, such as what she likes to eat, what color she likes and what she likes to drink. . . . . . . Pay more attention to the basics.
Why can't we programmers find girlfriends? What should I do? Although I was one of the first people who came into contact with love books and must see boys, it seems that I have been in the stage of tasting dating science. As a person who has no shortage of sister paper around him and no shortage of sister paper in bed, I really can't find a reason to study systematically. But this year, by chance, after meeting more and more novice friends, I found that learning dating science, like learning a lot of knowledge, has its own rules and steps. Many novices have three misunderstandings in the learning process:
Myth 1: extremes meet.
Tango, a well-known pick-up girl, mentioned in "Bad Boys Teach You How to Attract Girls on a First Date" that men are not bad and women don't love them. Many buddies are hurt and frustrated. They suddenly discovered the scientific theory of dating, just like a wolf who hasn't eaten meat for three months, and jumped in at once. All kinds of short encounters, after crying, vowed to be a bad person. There was no result with that girl before, but I got along well with her. After learning the crooked science of making friends, I used to hold my breath and even satirize and personally attack that girl. The bad boy didn't succeed, but he became a nuisance. The girls passed the message, but the girls around them ignored themselves and their troubles remained the same. The key to this misunderstanding lies in not correctly understanding the meaning of bad boy. In fact, bad children are not bad people with poor personality, obscene ideas and strong aggression. The exact definition of a bad boy is closer to a liberal who is emotionally independent, not attached to anyone and only believes in himself. The difference between a bad boy and a good man lies mainly in his attitude towards women. Good people are obedient, bad children are unruly. In other words, the prize in David's theory has changed from chasing women to attracting women.
The understanding of the word "repression" mainly reflects the sense of no demand. This kind of repression lies in lowering girls' psychological expectations of the intimacy of your relationship. In other words, it is not aimed at the girls themselves, but makes your relationship look depraved to girls. Suppression is mainly used in the early stage of attraction. For example, a girl proudly tells you what kind of model she is. You can say that your hands are beautiful and really suitable for hand modeling. This repression is to tell the girl that your relationship with me is not beautiful. I want to pursue your relationship. We are equal, and I won't like you just because you look good.
When you need to improve your mood in the later period, you have already got the love or IOI of girls, so don't use repression often, which will make girls feel insecure and untrustworthy. I'll send you a text message and you will reply "Oh, hehe". As soon as we met, we said it was bad for the girl, but it was useless. Come on, girls are blx, and they can't stand this kind of tossing. After several times, the girl said "Oh, hehe" to you.
Myth 2: You can't see the forest just by looking at the trees.
It is a systematic project that boys must see. Women's evaluation of you is a true portrayal of this social evaluation system. The game faced by women involves all aspects. Some of our friends are handsome and some have money at home, but they are much better than others just because they pick up girls. On the contrary, sometimes these advantages hinder their study and progress.
For example, we have a friend who drives a Mercedes, about1100,000, but he looks AFC when talking to people. If he leaves the car, it will be difficult to pick up girls. Even if he gets a sister paper for a while, it won't last long. This was originally his advantage, but he used to rely too much on material attraction to girls, so girls came for his money, and no girl cared what kind of person he was, so he was very depressed. After class, our advice to him is not to make material DHV in the early stage, but to take a taxi to date and gradually improve his communication skills and game level, regardless of whether he can get together with girls immediately. Later, the game technology was improved, so that girls could be attracted through normal communication, and then they went on a date by car. Girls' affection for him has soared, and it is easier to have a harmonious and long-term relationship. Recently, I am glad to hear that he is getting married.
Some friends do have average financial conditions and even some difficulties. We will also give him life advice to improve his work and career level, impress girls with self-motivation, and take his own efforts as the point of DHV. With the improvement of material conditions, my confidence has increased, and I am no longer afraid and shy when facing girls. Girls will naturally like him and are willing to associate with him. In the final analysis, women are material, not material. Every girl is looking forward to finding someone who can protect herself with inner strength. It's not your fault that you have no money for the time being, but you have been poor and no one wants to be with you.
People are in various ways, not everyone can only pick up girls in one way, and not all girls are eating in one way. When learning to pick up girls, don't stick to some details, have a global concept and have a clear understanding of yourself. Picking up girls has a barrel effect. I'm afraid your shortcomings determine your mode of picking up girls.
Myth 3: Stay away from home, stay away from home.
Many people like love books that boys must read, and many friends always like to ask their tutors how to chat with girls. For beginners, it is very important for boys to read love books. We will also teach you some good practices during training and chat with them. But the blind pursuit of love books must be seen by boys, which often has little effect. Boys must read the same love letter. When the teachers say it, the girls go crazy with IOI. When the friends say it themselves, the girls just don't listen. In the initial stage, when there is nothing to say, beginners can only rely on convention, but as an important guiding ideology of learning, we must clearly realize that only 20% of the love letters that boys must read are in the chat stage, and the remaining 80% come from your image, body language and pronunciation and intonation.
I must explain here that the first step of our training is image transformation. If you dress untidily, it's of little value. If you talk about yourself with that girl again, it will be inconsistent. At this time, the effect of boys using love books will be mediocre. Because what a boy must see is based on who you are and what you are doing, not exactly what you say. Many people will have questions, so what if I am a diaosi? Should I speak like silk?
Of course not, your present situation does not represent your future, that is, your language system should conform to what you want to be. For example, if you don't have money, but you want to have money, then you should show your ambition and dedication in the love book. For example, if you are a family person, you should show that you like to socialize and have friends. And more importantly, when you say these words, you should also do these things. If you tell a girl that you want to succeed in your career, when others ask you what you are doing, you say that you are playing games and sleeping. At the level of communication, girls will think that this guy will brag and have no future. For example, if you tell a girl that you like your sister paper very much, and you are being chased, but you always say in a circle of friends that you are looking for companionship and comfort, then this girl can see that you are actually not in the market.
Body language is also important. We have a friend who keeps glancing at me when talking, which makes people feel insecure. Before teaching him other things, I asked him to practice, stare into other people's eyes and keep a certain smile when he spoke. If you say something that sounds confident, but show an unconfident behavior, these details can't escape the eyes of girls. So I suggest that my friends practice the Book of Love, which is a must-see for boys, in front of the mirror, so that they can know where their expressions and movements need to be improved.
Language intonation does not emphasize much, which is easily ignored by everyone, but it is very important in practice. A girl told me that so-and-so boys talk very girly and don't look like men at all. Of course, some of the buddies I met are good at picking up girls, but he certainly won't pick up girls because he is very feminine. When a man speaks, he should be concise and powerful, and mature and steady. Many buddies saw a girl give some ioi, so they typed long paragraphs. At first glance, their sense of demand is particularly strong. It is estimated that no one talks to him at ordinary times, so he is very expressive. There are also some buddies who have a high voice and speak loudly in public. They are bluffing at first sight, and their hearts are empty and unhappy. Therefore, when learning the love books that boys must read, we must remember these two points.
So I want to emphasize here that don't learn The Book of Love just because it is a must-read book for boys. Don't think that you can get all the girls by learning a set of awesome chat methods.
Tango, a well-known pick-up girl, mentioned in "Bad Boys Teach You How to Attract Girls on the First Date" that these misunderstandings are often empirical or dogmatic learning mistakes. If you can often reflect on your pick-up process and understand where you made mistakes, your progress will be faster. Picking up girls is just a small part of life. It is important that you become a better self and a truly selective person.
Why can't I find a girlfriend? I am so depressed. If I have a goal, I will pursue it. If I don't have a goal, I will go after it!
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Why I can't find a girlfriend. Nobody has a crush on me, so you say that when you meet several women. Are there ten school-age women who often contact me?
Why can't I find a girlfriend? Because you are so handsome.