There are not a few people who are worried after breaking up, and there are countless people who have been trapped in the same place since breaking up. How to forget? The years we have experienced together and the roads we have traveled together seem to be printed in our lives. When you close your eyes, you will come to your mind. When you open your eyes, you will find a blank field pouring into your mind. How can this emotional overlap be easily erased? So, after breaking up, I can't forget it. Anticipating that I can't let go doesn't mean I need to let go of my memories. After all, I have to come up with artificial energy.
Zhang Ailing said, "It takes two things to let go of a person, time and new love." How long will it take? Where to find new feelings? These are unknowns, and forgetting with new feelings will only mean falling into another swamp again. It will take a long time to give you an answer, and during this time, everyone still has to live alone for a long time.
If you want to let go, you must understand the "replacement law." The so-called "substitution law" means that when we have unwanted memories or negative habits and can't get rid of them completely, we can replace them with new memories or new good habits. Mastering the "substitution method" will help you get rid of your sad mood as soon as possible.
1 Facing the sadness after breaking up. If you are used to laughing, you will forget how to cry. If you are used to dressing up as invincible, you will forget how to express your sadness. Because I am used to being irrelevant, once I feel sad, I want to hide, for fear that others will see my sensitivity. Even some people pretend to be strong for a long time, and they will be a little unreasonable about any negative emotions.
So, when asked if he had put it down, he subconsciously said, "I have put it down." Do not allow yourself to cry for emotion, and do not allow yourself to get drunk. Just pretend that you can't forget, those sad emotions will still exist, and you can't really let go of your indifference. It is better to face them bravely than to run away from your feelings. Say that you haven't let go and admit your sadness, so that you can face up to your sadness and truly reconcile with yourself.
Find something to do and divert your attention. Li Dan said in Romance that when someone asks him about his feelings, he will persuade him to "find a job"; But when someone complains about the pressure at work, he will persuade the other party to "talk about a relationship." He said: the broken things in life are not your problem at all, or even that problem, but there is only one problem in your life.
A person who is exhausted by all kinds of things has no time to hurt spring and autumn at all, which is why he is heartbroken and feels unable to survive after breaking up. Young people who are worried about giving new words. Adults don't have much time and energy to devote themselves to feelings. They have more obligations and many things to do.
When there is only one thing left in your life, you will feel that you can't live without it. To amplify the pain after the breakup. If you really want him to go, you must know how to find something for yourself, stick to fitness, develop a hobby, read books, bake cakes, or just work hard. It's better than hurting spring and autumn. When you divert your attention and focus on other things, the pain of love will be much less.
3 change old habits and refresh your memory. Most people will stick to one of their habits and never change it casually. Every time I go out to eat, I will go to the same place, drink only one flavor of milk tea, and go shopping the same way. As a result, after breaking up with him, the fast food restaurants and street communities we have been to together have become scars that we dare not touch again. Once provoked, it hurts.
In fact, many times people can't let go, because people are always clinging to past memories, unwilling to enter new industries casually and unwilling to make new changes. And when you want to change old habits and refresh your memory again, you will find that those unforgettable things are forgotten unconsciously. Remember, there are no bad habits that you can't adapt to, only bad habits that don't want to change the status quo. I remember that although the hot pot restaurant is delicious, the mutton skewers are also very good, and the matcha-flavored milk tea is also very delicious. It is acceptable to try cantaloupe.
Before, everyone had to go to the same hot pot franchise store every time they ate, so it was better to change it. Before, he always liked to buy you the same slogan, so he changed the color and cried when he heard the song he sang to you. It's better not to listen, and a different song is just as good.
Many times we can't forget a person, but we just can't forget his habit of staying. If you change this habit and try something new, you will find it not difficult to forget. Later, you will also get used to another person and get used to the habits he brings you.
Two people together have been polishing each other, running in and changing each other. You got rid of some of his habits, and he adapted to you and wanted some living habits. In the past, he never ate spicy food. When he was with you, he also learned to like spicy food. If you like steamed stuffed bun, you can eat it with radish and pickles. In the long run, he will fall in love with them. If you like hot tea, he will drink it with you. These are all traces left by time.
The imprint is not easy to remove, so we have to fill it with a new imprint. If you form another habit, you can cultivate new memories, and the traces left by old feelings may be slowly put down. I can't let go of anyone, and I can't let go of those habits. When you replace them with new habits, he will really leave from the heart.