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The real master is accelerating and you will find that he is getting stronger and stronger. The longer it takes, the harder it is for you to catch up with him.
The power of ordinary people to remain unchanged is also growing, and the older they get, the harder it is to change a person. As someone said, people over 30 are hard to change.
Because people's behavior system is interlocking, you want to change a behavior, you are not resisted by one behavior, but by all living habits.
Real masters are training their positive closed loop, making their behavior system more and more optimized, and their ability to resist negative behavior is getting stronger and stronger.
Ordinary people, on the other hand, constantly strengthen the original behavior system, regardless of whether it will be optimized or not, so they stubbornly remain unchanged.
Recently, I have been constantly being dismissed by people around me, from my family to my assistant: How did you gain 20 pounds in just half a year?
I really thought that there was something wrong with my whole lifestyle:
Tired from work-refusing to exercise-compensating yourself with food-eating late leads to insomnia-fatter-more tired.
This is obviously a negative cycle, and life is getting more and more sad and tired.
I sleep no more than six hours every day. I want to eat more after working for a long time, and the burden of eating midnight snack at night will increase. Coupled with the anxiety of unfinished work, I can't sleep.
I just entered a negative closed loop.
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Direction is often more important than effort.
Both positive and negative are people's subjective evaluations. For example, a group of behaviors that can make you slim down is a positive closed loop; A series of behaviors that will make you fat is a negative cycle.
The most terrible thing is that people who pursue positive results use a negative behavior system.
The direct cause of death of Balzac, a great French writer, has always been an unsolved case in the history of world literature. But there is one thing that most people agree: Balzac is exhausted.
Rodin, a famous sculptor, once said: Balzac works 16 hours a day, goes to bed at eight o'clock in the evening, gets up at one or two in the morning to have breakfast, and then works until eight o'clock in the evening. He only eats a small amount of food every day, but drinks seven or eight cups of espresso.
Balzac was 56 years old. He drank more than 50 thousand cups of coffee in his life, often three or four kinds of espresso mixed together. So many people also think Balzac died of chronic caffeine poisoning.
Balzac entered a negative closed loop: "I need a rest to rejuvenate my brain. Traveling can give me a rest." But to be able to travel, you must have money; In order to make money, I have to work ... I am caught in a vicious circle and can't escape. "
The busier and more tired people are, the less willing they are to study time management and life planning, the less willing they are to study with peace of mind, and only willing to work with their heads covered.
However, the busier you are, the more tired you are, the more backward your knowledge and tools are, and the more things you have, the less efficient you are.
The more you are an expert, the more you will choose a positive closed loop, which will make you stronger and more labor-saving. However, many people will choose a road that exhausts their resources and fish, spend a lot of energy on a wrong road, and the result will get darker and darker.
So how should you develop a positive closed loop?
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Let habit get life, not willpower.
The closed loop of most people is maintained by willpower, but willpower itself is scarce and often ineffective, which makes it impossible for most people to form a positive closed loop.
Some scholars believe that the body can form behavior patterns, and you can form a positive closed loop without willpower, but the key is to form good habits.
Auden, an Australian psychologist, once did an experiment: he found a group of people who insisted on fitness for a long time and those who had no fitness habits and asked them to do a boring experiment.
Every week, these experimenters are taken to one room, staring at the small squares moving on the computer screen, while enduring the sound of variety shows in another room.
If they are distracted by the outside programs, they can't completely stare at the moving small squares, and their grades will be low.
A few months later, the researchers found that those who kept exercising got higher and higher grades, while those who didn't kept exercising didn't make any progress.
In other words, people who insist on exercise will have much higher concentration and much delayed satisfaction. The researchers also found that these people have also improved in other aspects, such as not spending money indiscriminately and studying harder.
This is the positive closed loop brought by a good habit: exercise-improving concentration and delaying satisfaction-more energetic-exercise.
Therefore, if you want to develop a closed loop that continues to play an active role, you must first develop a good habit and let your brain and body automatically adapt to a behavior pattern, instead of relying solely on willpower.
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Interest is the core driving force of career.
Li Ka-shing, who just retired, once said, "I almost never rely on luck, but work hard to make money, so it is important to be interested in my career. Only when you are interested in your work can you work and do your work well. "
But most people are either not interested in work at all, or their interests have nothing to do with work, or they are not interested at all.
I think a simple way is to find a job that can include your own interests. If you love your interest, you love your job.
Taking interest as the core driving force of your career is like forming a habit you love very much, and you will automatically go to work: devote enough time to practice and improve your ability; Because the ability is improved, the value is better realized; I not only did what I love, but also got the reward, so I love it even more.
People who love their work can't do it well.
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Complete life IPO with "learning-output-learning" mode
The so-called IPO is public offering, that is, issuing shares. For many knowledge workers, the continuous output of knowledge means issuing stocks. The more useful and popular your knowledge is, the more valuable your knowledge products will be, and the higher the price of similar stocks will be.
But how can the stock price be higher?
Only by establishing a positive "learning-thinking-output-learning" closed loop can you become more and more valuable.
In fact, this is not only useful for authors and knowledge workers, but also useful for everyone: only by continuous learning and thinking can we improve our professional ability, and then through continuous practice and learning, talents will make progress.
For example, the growth model of peter drucker, a master of management, is "consultation-driven-lecture integration-writing productization".
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Let personal brands continue to gain life.
Believe it or not, personal brand is one of your core personal values.
Maybe you will doubt, I am an ordinary person, do I also have a personal brand?
Of course, there are also some, such as the trust of your boss, the trust of your colleagues and friends, and the perception of your partners, all of which depend on your personal brand.
For example, some people can't do anything well, and this personal brand is unreliable and incompetent; Some people always like to take advantage of petty advantages when cooperating with partners, so this personal brand will bring its own petty advantages label; Some people always like to be lazy when cooperating with colleagues, so this person's personal brand is also labeled as lazy.
A few days ago, a classmate who was a secretary of the leadership told me when chatting with me that sometimes the work given to me by the leadership is very difficult. Of course, leaders are not ignorant of the difficulty of work.
But the point is, no leader will consider whether it is difficult or not, and it will only leave the impression that this secretary is really useless.
As if the personal brand had been destroyed, such a secretary would never be reused again. Such a closed loop is also a particularly negative closed loop.
A really good closed-loop personal brand can bring you one continuously, and this kind of income is snowballing.
The pursuit of positive closed loop by all experts is actually a continuous positive effort, which is not only a manifestation of mastering the law, but also can make your vision longer, do things without wasting energy and being impetuous easily.