The literal translation of English "coming out" reveals to the people around them that their gender identity is inconsistent with their physical gender and social gender. "Coming out" means letting your sexual orientation show your status and coming forward to admit that you are gay. How did the meaning of the catalogue come out? The origin of foreign trade wisdom of coming out stars "coming out" Editor's meaning of this sentence "coming out" is a proper term in the gay circle, which means to disclose your homosexual orientation to the public, only to admit that you are gay, and there is no other additional meaning. The primary purpose of how this editor came out should be for his own happiness. It is a personal choice to let your life really come out. No one should come out because of external pressure. The main purpose of coming out should be for yourself. Many comrades who have come out have a sense of relief. People who don't come out, whether they realize it or not, play a role every day, hide themselves all the time, and are very tired, which often affects people's self-esteem. Therefore, coming out should be for your own happiness, to make your life real, and to avoid lying to close people again and again. One of the preparations before coming out of the closet is that people who have the ability to live independently should consider several points when deciding to come out, which can be said to be the conditions for coming out. For young comrades, it is not appropriate to consider that they do not have the ability to live independently and rely on their families in all aspects. Recently, high school students often talk to me about coming out, and I usually advise them to postpone it. Therefore, a preparation before coming out is to build your own independent living ability. This is sometimes multifaceted. Although some people have their own jobs and are financially self-sufficient, it is still a kind of dependence for parents to find jobs through "relationships". Because there have been examples of parents threatening their children through relationships in order to put pressure on them. Before coming out, there is a very important premise, that is, to have a good self-awareness. Usually people talk about gay self-acceptance, but in fact many people reluctantly accept it. If you are so "accepting" your homosexuality, then you are not ready to come out. Because if you are vacillating, for example, you still believe that sexual orientation can be changed, or you can accept marrying the opposite sex by cheating, then you obviously can't convince your family. With a firm self-awareness, we can talk to our parents with confidence. It may sound strange, but when you talk about it with your parents, nonverbal signals sometimes have a great influence. If you feel embarrassed and discouraged, your parents can also feel that your chances of success will be greatly reduced at this time. It is unwise to put off coming out again and again. Some people have been thinking about coming out for a long time, but it is unwise to delay it. Parents will only get older and older, and their desire for their children (grandchildren) will become stronger and stronger. The result of procrastination is often that the situation is critical, there is no room for escape, and finally it ends in compromise. For example, if a person procrastinates and suddenly his father is terminally ill, his last wish before he dies is to see his daughter-in-law. At this time, it is extremely difficult for anyone to think about it. It is not appropriate to come out after hoping to have a stable relationship. Some people, afraid that their gay parents will be single, want to wait for a stable relationship before getting married, which is actually inappropriate. First, the development of emotional relationship itself is a very complicated process. When it comes to family, sometimes both are bad. Second, to be honest, my personal opinion is that any comrade who can face his family should not fall in love at all, because it is very irresponsible to do so. I think many people have experienced it, or at least heard of it: two people have been together for several years, and suddenly one of them married the opposite sex because of family pressure. Third, many times, due to the lack of scientific knowledge, parents intuitively feel that their children are "bad" by the people they love, and the resulting hostility can't be eliminated for a long time even after accepting the child's sexual orientation. Instilling parents intentionally or unintentionally in order to accept same-sex love is not always accurate. Some people make all kinds of temptations before coming out, such as intentionally or unintentionally sending some materials related to same-sex orientation at home for parents to discover; See related topics in news and movie programs, and try to tell your parents. The result of this test is not always accurate. Sometimes, some parents who are relatively tolerant of sexual minorities will have different reactions when they know that their children are of the same sex. There are also some family members and friends who usually use some slanderous language or even abuse when referring to homosexuality in the abstract, but when they find that their relatives are gay, they will reconsider. So everyone's specific situation may be very different. However, one thing is really worth thinking about. Most people who do this kind of temptation are actually not determined enough. As mentioned above, this is the first problem to be solved. Whether your parents accept it or not has nothing to do with your parents' educational level, but mainly depends on your relationship with your parents. It is natural that people will inevitably guess what their parents' reaction may be before coming out. What I want to remind you here is that this speculation should be based on your relationship with your parents, and don't think too much about other factors. For example, many people think that their parents have a low level of education and are rural, so it is impossible to accept them. In fact, whether to accept or not depends mainly on the position of parents towards their children, which I will discuss in detail below. I can only tell you that in thousands of cases I have contacted, rural mothers who are illiterate in their seventies and eighties told their sons "as long as you live well"; Some couples are university professors. They colluded with the local police to kidnap their son and put him under house arrest, forcing them to receive "treatment". Third, after coming out, coming out is not selfish. Trying to help parents come out after coming out will bring a burden to parents. Everyone understands this. Some people think that coming out is selfish because they leave their troubles to their parents. This idea is actually because they don't have enough self-awareness and feel that their existence is a problem. In fact, parents should be responsible for bringing their children into this world, including accepting and protecting them. This is a major premise. But in real life, they sometimes do need to face the gossip of biased and boring people who interfere in their privacy. So you should try your best to help your parents. The specific method depends on everyone's specific situation. In fact, there are many choices and possibilities. After getting parents' understanding, we should pay attention to our own lives. Parents want to see their children live a healthy and happy life. A healthy and happy life comes from a full life with ideals and pursuits. The origin of the editor's coming out can be literally translated as "coming out" or freely translated as "coming out to admit that he is gay", which has nothing to do with transsexuality. In LGBT(LES, GAY, BI, TRAN), the statement of coming out only applies to LGB, and there is no inconsistency between physical gender and psychological gender in LGB. For LGB, Ricky Martin, the king of Latin, came out at the beginning of the year because he fell in love with the same sex on the basis of his physical gender and psychological identity. Its psychological love state is homosexual love (just as heterosexuals fall in love with the opposite sex on the basis of psychological identity with their physiological gender, and its psychological love state is heterosexual love), while TRAN tends to be heterosexual because of the inconsistency between psychological gender and physiological gender, so the word coming out has nothing to do with TRAN. There are different opinions about the origin of this English allusion, but there are two recognized views. It has been said that this language originated in England. Before 1832, British law prohibited doctors from dissecting corpses for scientific research, except death row inmates. After the legalization of autopsy, many doctors began to buy corpses for research. Because it is unsightly in the room, it has to be placed in a hidden place such as a wardrobe. After a long time, people suspect that there are skeletons in the doctor's closet. So the escape of this language refers to "hidden secrets". In another way, it is said that someone was looking for a carefree and truly happy person, and finally found it, but this woman, who was considered carefree, opened the closet and showed people a skeleton inside. It turns out that this is the bone of her lover. This man was killed in a duel with her husband many years ago. Until now, her husband forced her to kiss the skeleton every night. She is in pain and unhappy. In this story, this phrase means "hidden feelings". "Coming out" is a slogan phrase in the United States in 1970s. Combining Skeleton in the Wardrobe with adam lambert, a short American rock star, and her boyfriend, the phrase "coming out" is to reveal the true self. In the United States, since the rise of the 1970 gay liberation movement, activists (such as harvey milk, a famous representative of the gay rights movement in the United States in the 1970s) encouraged people to stand up bravely, participate in petitions, fight for rights and strive for equality, so they called on everyone to come out, and later a simpler coming out could also represent this meaning. With the confrontation between gay rights defenders and traditional religious forces for many years, more and more comrades have come out, and more and more ordinary people have joined the queue of fighting for all kinds of equal rights for homosexuals. In recent years, the United States has made many achievements, such as abolishing the "don't ask, don't tell" policy of homosexuals who remained in the military during the Clinton period, and New York passed the same-sex marriage bill 20 1 1 in July.