When they look at this strange land where 1 1 billion people live with novel eyes, we are also looking at them.
The most profound ...
At the symposium, the dutiful son of the ancient days blinked and really asked me:
"Are there any traffic rules in China?"
"Of course." I answered confidently.
"Then why can cyclists ride casually in the middle of the road, and pedestrians can leave if they want without taking the crosswalk?"
I was speechless for a moment. What surprised me even more was that when asked about the deepest impression left by their visit to China, they all agreed-poor service attitude, chaotic traffic order, dirty and unsanitary. President Akio Nakamura once asked students to write down their feelings, and most of them wrote these three aspects.
A classmate told a story: while eating, the waitress accidentally knocked over a bottle of orange juice on the table and fell on the classmate's skirt. The waitress did not apologize, but pretended not to see it. If it is in Japan, waiters and store managers will come out to apologize to customers, otherwise customers will never visit this store again. If the waiters in China are in Japan, they can't find a job.
Hearing this, my heart is like a five-flavor bottle. Since the founding of the People's Republic of China 40 years ago, we have been talking about serving the people every day. Is this the result of our education? When I visited the Ming Tombs, I saw a Japanese girl running a long way to throw a piece of candy paper, and then threw it into the dustbin. Comparing the phenomena of spitting, littering and swearing in our daily life, I can't help asking myself: should our educators and educatees reflect on it?
Spending the money you earn is the most enjoyable.
ぁゅみ Sato seems to be a quiet girl. Her home is in Niigata, Tokyo, far from the school, so she rented a house the size of six seats. There is only a small kitchen, no bathing equipment, and the monthly room and telephone charges are paid from home. In her spare time, she works as a salesgirl in fast food restaurants, serves dishes in restaurants, and serves as a tutor. It takes her three hours to go to work every day, and the schedule in her notebook is full. Part of the money earned is used for entertainment and shopping, and part is saved.
Most Japanese college students began to work after graduating from high school. Mr. Mo Bangfu, the instructor and translator of the "Japan-China International Friendship Training Group", told me that in the eyes of Japanese youth, they are already adults, economically independent, and it is shameful to spend their parents' money again. Many of the travel expenses in China this time were earned by working in my spare time. Even if some students give money at home this time, they should earn it back and return it to their parents.
Only the money you earn can you spend it happily. "I go to work to spend money-not to make money." This idea of 2 1 year-old Uehara Seiji is very representative. She is now a sophomore majoring in social welfare at Leehom Short University. At the same time, she also works in a cram school, working as a female clerk during the day and tutoring children at night. She has been to the United States twice, and the expenses of this trip to China and the money for buying a car were borrowed from the company. Being able to earn money and spend money shows a universal value of Japanese youth.
In contrast, some young people in China have a poor sense of independence. Although they will spend money, a lot of money is not spent by themselves, but by their parents. This kind of money is very comfortable to spend. If this situation cannot be corrected as soon as possible, it will seriously endanger the quality of the people in the future. Especially nowadays, most children are only children and are loved by their parents. If they don't cultivate the concept of labor and establish the consciousness of independence and self-improvement, how will they participate in global competition in a more open world after more than ten years? Isn't this a big concern of our country?
A woman is a woman.
In the conversation with Japanese female students, I found that their life design reflects their sense of responsibility and mission to family, children and society everywhere.
For a long time, Chinese women have been proud of women's liberation and gender equality. Specifically, women rush out of the family and go to society, and men and women receive equal pay for equal work. Once Japanese women get married, they quit their jobs and go back to their parents' homes to do housework. Obviously, these are two completely different options. What the hell are they thinking?
Most girls said that after getting married and having children, they would go home and concentrate on raising children. They believe that children should cultivate themselves, let them feel maternal love everywhere and get a good education from an early age. They are puzzled that women in China send their children to nurseries for "day care" or "full care". It is the mother's unshirkable responsibility to cultivate children, and early childhood education is the most important stage in a person's life. A competent mother will not trust her children to be educated by others.
When asked if there is any financial pressure to support the family only by her husband's salary, they said that there will definitely be pressure, but objectively it will force her husband to work hard and her wife must learn to manage her own finances. After returning to the family, although the housework is very busy and there is little social interaction, it is much more comfortable than in a highly competitive society. Of course, many students said that they still want to work when their children are older.
Heiyanbu's mother is a beautician and her father works in a company. She was brought up by her mother, but her mother didn't delay her work or even have a holiday. Heiyan and another classmate, Yayoi Nakamura, both believe that as long as they work hard, they can keep working. You can take care of the children while working.
It seems that women's liberation is not only marked by whether women can leave home and get employment, but also a superficial phenomenon. More importantly, can women have independent personal dignity and the right to choose a job and design a life like men? In the past, we unilaterally encouraged women to find jobs and get rid of the housework burden. As a result, the burden of housework has not been shaken off, the pressure of professional work has increased, and women have been doubly bound. Fundamentally speaking, this is because we have not correctly understood the division of labor between men and women in society and have not regarded housework as a part of the whole social labor.
I remembered the question that made Japanese female students shudder: "So, women in China have to work all their lives? Do women have to compete with men? " The subtext of this sentence is: a woman is a woman.
Let "goodbye" not become an empty talk.
Mr. Kazuo Maruyama, aged 66, is a professor at Japan University of Attention and an expert in the comparative study of Japanese and Chinese languages. This time, he came to China as the general consultant of the training group. He expressed the view to reporters that Japan's talk about strengthening international exchanges is actually just a slogan and lacks specific measures. This time, I met a female college student from China in Xi 'an. She said that Japanese students' vision is towards the United States, but they don't pay attention to Asia. This is a very pertinent criticism. China and Japan are neighbors separated only by water. It is not enough to be a geographical neighbor, but also a neighbor in the exchange of ideas. The purpose of organizing young students to visit China this time is to let them know about China and cultivate a sense of closeness.
Uehara told reporters: "When I got off the plane in Shanghai and saw people everywhere, I lost interest in this crowded city and thought it was enough to come here at most." When I arrived in Xi 'an, the country style there made people feel more relaxed. After arriving in Beijing, it was very different. Full of energy, it makes people shine. I think there is still hope for this country. I hope to come to China again in 10 or 8 years. "
Miss Tan Ya said humorously, I want to come to China again in the future, but the food in China is terrible.
Now, when I close my notebook, I think of the smiling faces I just met, the scene of taking a group photo together on the Great Wall, and the scene of us talking about mountains and rivers. Everything is vivid. I want to tell them: come again, don't let "goodbye" become empty talk. By then, we believe that everything will be better than now, including delicious meals.