The behavior of father wolf and mother tiger
Parenting drama is more like madness.
Take Little Dad as an example. The hero in the play "falls from the sky" and gives birth to a son. Apart from shock, his remarks and actions to the seven-year-old boy in summer were simply "outrageous": "Keep his son as an animal, the lock of the lock, the bolt of the bolt"; Take children to drink beer and eat mutton skewers in the middle of the night, which is euphemistically called "killing bacteria and viruses" until summer hangover; I put the box lunch in front of summer, and summer said I didn't want to eat it. She immediately became angry from embarrassment: "Do you know that I paid for this meal? If you don't eat this, you won't have food! " Turn around and pour the rice into the trash can and walk away; The attitude towards his son is either boring or arbitrary, and he often roars rudely "because I am your father"; My son was bullied by children at school. He made an appointment with other parents in front of the teacher and had a fight outside the school gate. ...
Sun Li's "Hot Mom's Story" will be broadcast as "Little Dad" this weekend. In the exposed films, Sun Li's hot mom parenting method is also very good. For example, she likes to go to nightclubs, she can't help but go out to drink during breastfeeding, and there is a slogan "Drinking without breastfeeding, breastfeeding without drinking"; The child in the confinement cried for half an hour at night, and the husband and wife still slept by themselves. Mother couldn't help rushing into the room. Sun Li's reason is that "if she cries more, she will know that she has no milk to eat"; Child Slave, starring Mr. and Mrs. Sha Yi Hook, will replace The Story of Hot Mom. The main contradiction of the play has changed from "education" to "teaching", but there are still many behaviors. One is the "wolf father" who advocates free range, and the other is the tiger mother who advocates "captive". The former bought his son a favorite airplane model, while the latter made a scene and fell to pieces face to face. ...
Experts can't bear it.
Mothers spit on the internet.
In view of similar "negative" plots in parenting dramas, Guo Jianguo, president of China Parenting Association, recently publicly pointed out that these are all misunderstandings in parenting, and called on "new parents born in 1980s should never learn parenting by TV series". Guo Jianguo pointed out that interrupting children's repeated questions in a rude way will stifle children's curiosity, and more seriously, it will make children angry subtly and use it as a way to communicate with others; "Child slave" is an extreme way of education, and the reason behind it is the vanity and selfishness of parents. Parents should learn to accept their children's weaknesses, understand their children's hearts and learn to tolerate and communicate, so that parents can give their children real love. As for the problem that many parents face that children don't like to eat, we should treat it positively. He thinks that treating children as simply and rudely as the article in the play is actually hurting children.
Many young mothers who are armed with self-knowledge to raise the next generation are also quasi-professionals in parenting, and have long been trained as "experts" through extensive reading. Many mothers spit out the plot of parenting drama on the internet, saying that the plot of "parenting drama" actually taught children to drink and their parents fought, which was simply jaw-dropping. "In order to create contradictions and cause topic discussion, it is really embarrassing to deliberately express or even amplify various extreme parenting methods."
The creator glanced through it.
Change the label of "parenting drama"
After Little Dad became the first negative textbook on parenting, articles as a director, screenwriter and starring repeatedly stressed that the play has nothing to do with parenting, and the focus is on the second growth of a young man. All kinds of unreliable things in front are paving the way for the big comparison in the future. He also said that "Little Dad" was originally inspired by a story created by an "expert mother" based on his wife Ma Yili's parenting experience, but eventually rejected the plan, "because it will become a pure parenting drama, and the audience doesn't like to watch sermons." The propagandist of the drama also urgently clarified to the media that it should not be positioned as a "parenting drama" and call itself an "urban emotional inspirational drama".
Shen Yan, the director of "The True Story of Hot Mom", admits that the focus of his filming is also to show the growth of a hot mom, which has nothing to do with the popularization of parenting knowledge, but there will definitely be some bad demonstrations in the play: "I am talking about the process of hot mom Sun Li growing from a fashionable woman to a mature mother, and the incorrect way reflects the current situation."
Wang Haiwei, the screenwriter of Child Slave, thinks, "In fact, parenting drama is not only about how to educate children born in 1980s, but also reflects a reality. We can't turn it into a sermon and tell you what to do, because every child has a different way, so all we have to do is tell everyone that some behaviors are bad and bad for children. " Wang Haiwei also said that "Child Slave" is a warm and critical realistic work, which reflects many problems that the post-80s generation will encounter in reality: children from single-parent families are a tool to maintain the stability of marriage, and tiger mothers and fear of marriage are afraid of having children. These are actually different levels of anxiety after the 80s.
In addition to the relationship between the creator and the parenting drama, more importantly, the unreliable star parents in the drama are not raising their children like in real life. The article regards Ma Yili as the "commander" of the family and his daughter as the "political commissar". "My daughter cares about me, smokes and drinks, and I listen to her"; Sun Li is full of hands-on mothers, who are beating concubines during the publicity period of lactation in the palace. She insisted on not spending the night in other places, and flew home to nurse every day, while Sha Yi and Hook were by no means "child slaves". Hook has a policy of "free range" for her children. "I don't like him becoming a very disciplined child."
"Variant" of Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law Drama
Parenting drama may slip into the quagmire of Lei Ju.
It is not difficult to explain the problems existing in the current parenting drama. This theme appeared with the birth climax of the post-80s generation, catering to the new hot spots in the market, but at the same time it inevitably has various attributes of TV series. For example, the audience has not changed, and the audience's appreciation tastes and concerns have not changed. In the final analysis, it's just a variation of mother-in-law drama and marriage. The creator knows that the audience still likes to watch conflicts, romantic love and parents' shortcomings. Parenting drama just cleverly turned children into the tipping point of all this. According to this line of thinking, of course, the more outrageous, extreme and outrageous the way to raise children, the more crying, laughing and plot reversal points will emerge one after another. If you honestly make an encyclopedia of parenting, I am afraid that the older generation will find fault and the young people will find it too preaching.
It can't be ignored that although the entertainment significance of TV series is far greater than its "educational" significance, it is understandable to exaggerate the typical life and atypical life of young parents in order to enhance their appreciation. However, if we blindly pursue drama and strive to be a "negative textbook", parenting drama will soon slide into the quagmire of "Lei Ju" and eventually be short-lived.