Carol Dwek, a psychologist at Stanford University, once seriously mentioned that praising a child's talent instead of his efforts, strategies and choices will slowly stifle his growth thinking!
Growth thinking is very valuable. Children with growth thinking are not easy to give up, but can enjoy the fun from the process, seek help more easily and be more resilient.
In order to avoid irrepressibly praising children's cleverness, when children have excellent grades and can't help but praise "You are really clever", choose a sentence from this 15 sentence "Speech list" instead!
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You work hard!
-Praise efforts
You've worked hard.
Don't be carried away by joy when your child presents you with a beautiful work. Please remember to acknowledge his efforts and efforts.
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It's hard, but you never give up!
-praise perseverance
You never give up, even in difficult times.
When a child finishes a challenging thing for him, such as thinking hard about a game of Go, trying to climb the frame on the playground again and again, and trying again and again after countless failures, please remember to affirm his patience and persistence.
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You have a good attitude towards things.
-Compliment attitude
You have such a positive attitude.
When children are full of positive energy in the face of tasks, don't forget to seize the opportunity to say good things.
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You have made great progress in XXX!
-Compliment on details
You really made progress in xxx.
Praise the details when the child's ability in a certain aspect has improved. The more specific the better. For example, honey, your hand posture is more standard now, and your ventilation frequency is more even, which is much better than before. Great!
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You and your friends work well together!
-praise the spirit of cooperation
You cooperate well with your classmates.
No matter how capable a person is, what he can do is limited. If a child and his friends accomplish something together and do it well, please seize the opportunity to affirm his cooperation and communication skills!
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You are not afraid of difficulties at all. Rare!
-Praise courage
You are not afraid of challenges! How dare someone say such a thing! Thanks to what you (he) said.
Praising a child's courage is the best time to help him increase his confidence index.
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This method is really innovative!
-Praise creativity
What a creative way to solve the problem!
This is the most important place to pay attention to. Seeing children's whimsy is most likely to be associated with "cleverness", but is whimsy really "cleverness"? It should be the accumulation of creativity and thinking, and it is the brain hole that children get after trying countless possible schemes! Therefore, it is right to praise "creativity"!
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It's very kind of you to help XXX finish her task!
-Praise enthusiasm
You have done a good job in helping xxx complete the task.
Give someone a rose, and there is more fragrance in your hand. Helping others is a virtue. You must praise your child's enthusiasm and encourage him to help others more. At the same time, it can also let him know that there are many ways to overcome difficulties. Besides being patient, it is also an effective way to ask for help and learn from others' experience.
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You did well in today's activity!
-Praise participation
You participated very well today.
Participating in activities can broaden your horizons and absorb more nutrients. Children must be encouraged to feel involved when they actively participate in activities and perform well.
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How well you have arranged the room/books!
-praise responsibility and organization.
You have taken good care of your room/books.
Being able to tidy up one's own site, put things away and keep them well is a sign of responsibility and orderliness, and it is the basis for children to do other things well. Praise and encouragement are necessary.
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You have handled this matter very well!
-Praise leadership.
I like the way you have it!
Although some things are not done by a child alone, he is in charge of management. He did well because he had a strong sense of responsibility and leadership. Praising this can let the child know that although he didn't do every step himself, it is also a very important ability to get things done in the end.
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I believe you because ...
-Praise credit
I know I can trust you because …
Good credit will make a child's life smoother, so help him establish it in time. For example, when you reach an agreement with your child, you can say, "I trust you because you always keep your word" and "I trust you and you will find a good way" ...
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I'm glad you made such a choice.
-Praise your choice
I'm proud that you made that choice.
You can accomplish the task well, sometimes because of hard work, and sometimes because you changed your strategy and made the right choice. Praise strategy is the key to cultivate growth thinking.
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You remember XXX! How thoughtful!
-A compliment to carefulness
Remember to ask xxx! Great idea!
Careful is not only reflected in caution, but also in the comprehensiveness and multi-angle consideration of children. The child didn't forget to bring an umbrella when he went out to play. I really needed it when it rained later. The careful child specially checked the weather forecast of the day before going out. At this time, mom and dad should praise him for his thoughtfulness.
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It is good that you attach great importance to other people's opinions.
-praise the open and modest attitude.
It's great that you value other people's opinions.
Learn good advice and experience from others, and your ability will continue to improve. People with growth thinking generally have an open and modest attitude.