1, complaining, chattering, talking nonstop, speaking freely but never listening to others. I love to nag, and I can't stop talking about little things. Adults should learn to shut up properly.

2, too much nonsense, can not distinguish between primary and secondary, logical confusion. After talking for a long time, the other party didn't understand you. Everyone's time is precious, and no one wants to hear more nonsense.

3, get along with people, whether emotional or material, blindly take, never pay. After a long time, the other party will get bored. If you are willing, you will get it if you give up. If you want it, you must pay first.

4. Speaking often uses rhetorical questions, commands, impatience or questioning the tone of the other party. After a long time, the popularity is getting worse and worse. In communication, 70% is tone and tone, and 30% is content. Have something to say.

5, like to expose other people's scars, laugh at each other's looks, height, fat, academic shortcomings and mistakes, and even laugh at other people's physical disabilities. It is not straightforward to distinguish between seriousness and severity, nor is it humor to be mean and rude. If you still have someone in your heart, please have some qualities, otherwise people around you will have opinions about you, and it will not be worth the loss for a while.

6, others have something to ask you for help, you are embarrassed to refuse. When I have something to do, I am afraid of disturbing others and embarrassed to ask. Appropriate trouble to others can enhance the friendship between the two sides as easy as blowing off dust.

7. No matter right or wrong, I always deny others the first time and feel that what others say is wrong. Mouth is used to praise people, not to throw cold water on them. A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is cold in June.

8. If others are more enthusiastic about you, be bosom friends. Tell your whole story, even your privacy. When you turn your face, these become the handles that the other person holds in his hand.

9. Visiting relatives and friends never brings gifts, taking advantage of small things and liking small favors. China is a human society, and many people are not surprised. They don't know how to reciprocate, and they are greedy for petty advantages.

10. If something goes wrong, you won't say anything at the first time, and you won't clarify it at the first time. You won't explain it until things get worse. Once you miss the best public relations time, no matter how much you say, people may not believe you.

1 1, too concerned about face and self-esteem, can't stand a little criticism and ridicule. In this world, if you have a thicker skin, you will live better.

12, the whole person is controlled by emotions. He smiles at everyone when he is in a good mood and hangs his face when he is in a bad mood. Bring the bad mood at home to work and lead customers alternately with colleagues.

13, timid and afraid of offending people. Dare not refuse each other's unreasonable demands, thinking that kowtowing can make you better. But I don't know that bullying is the true nature of some people.

14, always wronged himself to please others, paid a lot but thankless, and also attracted complaints from the other side. Promote rice and retaliate with rice. Ask yourself why you should be kind and generous. Always remember the story of Dong Guo and the snake.

15. If you see a leader in the company or outside, make a detour immediately. In this way, the leader will think that you have an opinion of him. Go confidently and say hello, and the other person will find you very helpful. Only by showing yourself bravely in front of your superiors can you get recognition and opportunities, and the strong will always appreciate the strong.

16, it is easy to panic and get upset when something happens. After making a mistake, you can't reflect on yourself in time. You made the same mistake more than twice, turning around in the pit.

17, speaks very fast and doesn't give others a chance to speak. Communication is a matter for both parties. People who are silent in the crowd are often the most powerful. If he doesn't talk, it's a blockbuster.

18, soft listening to the wind is rain, which can't stand others to sow discord and is easily used by villains. If you don't know how to read and write, you have to speak, but your mouth is comfortable, but it brings unnecessary disasters to yourself.

19, always deceived by some people's hypocritical appearance and rhetoric. People who like to talk about benevolence and morality are dirtier behind their backs.

20. I just like to listen to nice words and flattering words. The truth is harsh, and it burns as soon as you hear it. After a long time, honest men and women will stay away from you, leaving only a group of people with honey in their mouths and needles in their hearts.

2 1, to be a good teacher, I always want to preach and teach. No one in this world likes to be taught a lesson. Everyone likes a free life. Mind your own business.

22. Rely too much on relatives and friends around you and pin your hopes on others. Afraid of making decisions, afraid of the consequences. Once betrayed by the other party, the whole person collapses instantly.

23, think more and do less, afraid of failure. The older you get, the more anxious you get. Lack of sense of responsibility, dare not take risks. When encountering setbacks, I doubt myself for the first time. No one's life is smooth sailing, everyone is crossing the river by feeling the stones. Act when you think about it, and don't give up easily.

24. If you don't understand the problem, don't try to solve it first, go directly to others for help. There is a lot of information on the Internet. Check it yourself first. If you really can't solve it, no one can help you. No matter how big or small, it is difficult to repay the debt of gratitude.

25. I like to belittle others and raise myself, and I often do things that harm others and do nothing for myself. First-class people praise others, second-class people help others, and third-class people trample on others. Win-win is the real win.

26. When you are in trouble, you always turn to someone who thinks you have a good relationship for help. In fact, you may not be his best friend in the other person's heart. On the contrary, those who have helped you are more likely to help you again.

27, self-righteous, arrogant, arrogant, can not listen to other people's well-meaning advice. Full recruitment damages moderate income, and complacency will stumble sooner or later.

28. I take the word "friend" too seriously, but I don't know that people nowadays turn their faces because of interests faster than turning pages. You treat others as friends, others treat you as fools and ATMs, eating and drinking.

29, everyone will brag about their knowledge and skills, high-profile publicity, feel that others are not as good as themselves. The big ones are hidden in the morning, the middle ones are hidden in the city, and the small ones are hidden in the wild. Real experts look very kind and ordinary. Wisdom and ability are used to solve problems at critical times, not to show off.

30. Without a sense of boundaries, I interfere in other people's lives at will under the slogan of "I am good for you". You know, good intentions can do bad things.

3 1, I can't control my temper, and I linger for a long time on a little thing. Impulsive and irritable, the mood is greatly influenced by others. I often get angry for no reason, and I go on the rampage when I meet something that doesn't go my way.

32. When I am with my friends, I am bursting with negative energy, constantly complaining about my misfortune, complaining, and eager to get sympathy and comfort from others. Treat each other like trash cans.

33. Nothing is flexible. When there are contradictions, they will not play emotional cards, but will always be reasonable and unreasonable. Everyone knows the truth, needless to say. Be a man, leave room and forgive others.

34. It is chilling not to reflect on yourself when encountering problems, but to blame others and put all the mistakes on the other side. Over time, friends will leave you.

35. I don't understand the subtext of others. I can only understand what others say, not what others think. Speak and do things regardless of other people's feelings, and say whatever you want. Even if I didn't say a word, I felt wronged in my heart.

36. Always interrupt others, grab words, and talk nonsense. He who knows how to listen is a real master. Sometimes silence is worth a thousand words.

37. If you impose your opinions on others, they will be furious if they have any opinions. Everyone has their own ideas, so don't interfere.

38. Because others don't agree with their own behavior, they say that their emotional intelligence is low. No one is really low in emotional intelligence, sometimes because the other person doesn't have you in mind and doesn't want to use emotional intelligence for you.

39. It's very simple, and I don't want to help. When you refuse others, your attitude is cruel. Everyone is in trouble. If you can help, it won't cost anything. To be a man, you should have good connections.

40. If you don't know the ins and outs of things, you will comment crazily, and people will follow suit, lest the world be chaotic. Be a kind person, save for yourself and future generations.

4 1, work in a hurry, everything takes three minutes. Once things go slowly or have problems, you will feel inferior and blame yourself. Being eager to start and easy to finish are both manifestations of lack of self-confidence.

42, blx, overly sensitive, feels that some words and deeds of others are deliberately aimed at themselves. I always feel hurt. I often regard the unintentional actions of others as a provocation to myself, and my mood is good and bad.

43. The other party is furious, regardless of the willy-nilly, and insists on quarreling with others, which will inevitably intensify contradictions. If there is a dispute, we should wait for both sides to calm down before communicating. Don't talk with emotion, and don't argue with fools.

44. If you know more about others, you will gossip about their salary, family relationship and private life. Gossip is spread by others.

45. Add contact information with strangers at will, publish dynamic positioning, put yourself at unknown risk, and tear up the framework with strangers online regardless of the consequences. You never know who is at the other end of the broadband, so don't get yourself into trouble.

46, competitive, like to refute others, pick bones in the egg. Everyone's understanding ability and way of doing things are different. Sometimes it's not a question of right or wrong, just different perspectives and different positions.

47. I will go my own way and will not express my true thoughts and feelings. Everything is hidden in my heart. I can't feel other people's emotions, but I constantly amplify my own. Treat others as you want them to treat you. Interpersonal relationships are interactive.

48. Argue with your elders in public, point out your mistakes in front of everyone, and make the other party lose face. In private, you should save face for your elders in public.

49. The conversation atmosphere has been awkward or cold, and I am still looking for a topic to play with. It's better to shut up or change the subject at this time. If it really doesn't work, you can find an excuse to leave.

50. Gossip and gossip regardless of time and place. The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. Misfortune comes from the mouth, and many words make many mistakes. The enemy in the dark is the most terrible.

5 1, simple remarks, jokes are not measured. I still argue with people about right and wrong on a little thing, and I like to crush others with everything. Don't stop until you win. To be a man, you should have a ruler in your heart, and speak and do things naturally and appropriately.

52. Leave the best temper to outsiders, but leave the worst side to family, and argue with family about right and wrong in everything. Home is a place where feelings are unreasonable. Putting the cart before the horse, it is true that outsiders are the first to stay away from you.

53. I can't accept people who are different from me and have no friends around me. Two heads are better than one. Going it alone doesn't work in modern society. No matter how capable people are, they need help.

1. Although EQ is an overused topic, I still want to talk about EQ today.

If IQ is the skeleton, EQ is the skin and a tool for dealing with people.

Therefore, we often say that when we get along, we feel that his emotional intelligence is very high.

Yes, low eq and low eq are not the same concept. In EQ, EQ is high, EQ is high, EQ is low, and EQ is low.

It doesn't matter whether the emotional intelligence is high or not. Some people are not good at using EQ by nature, so you can't make a rigid mold. Just as there is specialization in the profession, many people are unsociable.

But low emotional intelligence is in trouble.

Because, it will be bad.

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The first time I knew that low emotional intelligence would be bad, it was during my internship.

One day, a big brother talked about a business of more than 5 million.

The boss vomited blood with anger.

The specific process is, in fact, the contract is about to be signed, and this big brother sends the relevant information to the other customer. I haven't contacted since I sent it.

The other party will urge the contract. What about your contract?

Big brother said he had faxed it to you. Please go to the fax room.

The other supervisor said that it was agreed to send it face to face or not to send it backwards. But at least give me a call after you send the fax. There are so many faxes in our company and the contract is so important that I must get it at the first time.

Eldest brother said, I'm really busy today. You're not the only one. I have other things to do. Please forgive me.

Okay, that's bad.

Just because I said, I am really busy today. The implication is that the other customer is not important enough. Besides, it's no use forgiving more.

In the afternoon, the boss received a phone call from the other party, saying that the cooperation would be suspended temporarily, because in addition to product cooperation, it is more important to get along well with customers.

That was the first time I saw my boss hold back his anger and call my eldest brother into the office. However, his face is blue.

My teacher told me that emotional intelligence is very important. You can eat whatever you want, but you can't talk nonsense. The business world is like a battlefield. Without good armor, they are ready to die.

Later, this big brother resigned. In fact, he was fired.

But the boss gave him a decent way to resign and gave him half a year's salary.

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Then at a dinner party, I met this boss. Several bosses changed the recruitment to Chinese New Year.

They almost invariably mentioned: If you don't even have basic EQ, forget it.

First, when you enter the company, you won't even say "hello" or "excuse me" when you are asked, just go there.

Second, if there is an opportunity, have a meal when choosing the final candidate. The dining table is very personal. Of course, it is definitely not a test of alcohol consumption.

"If you are the boss, after you add water to them twice, he still doesn't know to help you add water, which shows that the understanding of EQ is very low. It doesn't matter if you are just out of school and are not sensible, you can learn.

If you always keep turning the turntable when eating, please note that it doesn't stop turning, which means that this person may have poor teamwork ability and be self-centered.

If she always refutes others and finds fault with others, then I will vote against it, too. You can be honest and frank, but now is not the time to be honest and frank. Too straight temper means low emotional intelligence. In other words, it is also a matter of habit. He told his new colleagues in front of the boss today, and it is difficult to guarantee that it will not be shown in front of customers next time. "

I forgot to say that high EQ is not necessarily successful, but low EQ is definitely a bad thing.

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A few days ago, a new media editor came to ask me about the future growth plan of women from the media. Their WeChat official account is still in its infancy, and because it was introduced by a friend, I agreed.

I usually reply by email, so I will tell him my email address after the exchange.

Two days later, I received an email. He didn't remind me, and I didn't mind.

After I received it, I immediately sent them a WeChat: Thank you, thanks for your hard work. Reply in these two days.

Didn't notice.

Half a day later, I replied and sent them a message: the email has been sent. If you have any questions, you can contact them.

Ten minutes later, I received their reply: Yes.

There is no "thank you" and certainly no gratitude. I don't expect them to thank me, but I think there should always be a minimum courtesy like "thank you"

I dare not go with my friends. I am still a face-saving person and don't want to embarrass my friends.

Later, my friend told me that the editor was in trouble. The editor dismissed him.

"How did he treat you?"

I said realistically: "Emotional intelligence is very general."

A friend said that the editor went to interview a female entrepreneur. When I got there, I rushed into her office without knocking or saying hello, let alone calling to make an appointment.

I barely finished. As a result, I didn't say a word of thanks, said "OK", closed my notebook and left.

The woman entrepreneur later told the editor-in-chief that although she was interviewed by you, she still hoped not to report it, and told the editor-in-chief about the situation at that time.

"Your emotional intelligence represents your own emotional intelligence and also represents the emotional intelligence of a company.

Therefore, in the workplace, people with low emotional intelligence are destined to be gradually eliminated. "

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Daniel Gorman has a book called EQ: Why EQ is More Important than IQ. Not everyone agrees with this statement.

But I want to say that low emotional intelligence may be more terrible than low IQ.

Because people with low IQ may be rejected at first, people with low EQ are likely to fish in troubled waters.

There is a saying that a truly excellent HR can definitely measure the emotional intelligence of the other party at first sight.

And we should also avoid becoming people with low emotional intelligence, at least avoid those so-called pits, be more polite, less emotional, smile more and spit less. After all, sometimes you can't pay the EQ tax, which may drag your life back for many years.

If a person's emotional intelligence is not high, then this person may have the following similar performances in life:

1. I don't know much common sense (including life and work). It should be noted here that EQ is different from IQ. People with high IQ may not have high EQ. Don't we often see that the emotional intelligence of corporate executives is very low? Their emotional intelligence performance, such as: employees working overtime, not only have no kind greetings, but also think that this is what employees should do;

2. It doesn't look like a brain. Many times in life, such a person is like, for example, saying this sentence to himself immediately, but blurting it out in his mind, as if unaware of the psychological impact of this sentence on the listener;

I don't know how to read words and deeds. I clearly saw that my colleagues or friends were in a bad mood and looked unhappy today. They also went over and said something annoying, and finally their popularity was broken! This is what we often say 1+ 1 goods.

I can't read other people's body language. For example, when you need someone to do something with you, you give a wink or a simple gesture, but this person just doesn't understand and even asks you what it means. When I meet such a person, I sometimes get angry!

5. I can't understand the implication of others. For example, what you said clearly makes sense, but this person just doesn't understand and keeps asking around and saying what he said!

6. I don't know how to guess the psychology of others. For example, if the leader tells you one thing, on the surface, he wants you to do A, but the actual leader wants B. If you can do C, that's the best! People with low emotional intelligence usually do a well, and then go to the boss for credit, and the result is a painful meal!

The level of a person's emotional intelligence is closely related to his growing environment and world outlook. Emotional intelligence is more important than IQ in this world. IQ can be improved by the day after tomorrow, but emotional intelligence is often dominated by innate factors.