When a beautiful Japanese woman in kimono mentions a Japanese woman, people will think of this old joke: Japanese wife, China cook, French lover, American house. After careful analysis, this sentence is more in line with the taste of western men, and the invention right is likely to be theirs. For western men, Japanese wives and French lovers are like necessities and icing on the cake, which can meet different levels of needs. The former's gentle wisdom and the latter's enthusiasm and romance just complement each other; For men in China, it is unrealistic for a lover's wife to have it at the same time. For French fans, I'm sorry, men in China are generally not strong and confident to this extent. As for the Japanese wife, that's no problem, not only no problem, but also extra value. In other words, Japanese women can be both wives and lovers. China men of the same language and species know more about the benefits of Japanese women. If you don't believe me, please read Xu Zhimo's well-known poem "Shi Anna La"-the gentlest bow, like a shy hibiscus out of water, saying "take care" and "take care". Gu Hongming, who was conservative in thought, fanatical in defending morality and addicted to small feet, said that Japanese women had a "precious" temperament, gentle and brave, pure and elegant, sensitive and sweet, and full of femininity. This temperament is possessed by women in China. What is hateful is that since the Song Dynasty, China's Confucianism has become more and more vulgar and stingy, killing this valuable quality. Therefore, if you want to find an ideal woman who can embody Chinese civilization, you have to go to Japan. Like many of Gu's fantastic ideas, this view is certainly debatable. However, there is no doubt that gentleness can only exude charming charm if it has the naive bottom of primitive life. Otherwise, it is like a beautiful plastic flower, even if it is beautiful, it will not attract people. Japanese women have just preserved the wisdom roots of this life. A film called Garden of Dreams can prove Gu's point of view. This film tells the story of a lesbian who happened in the 1930s. The protagonist is Rie Miyazawa, a famous Japanese actress. Miss Gong Ze plays, needless to say, the "woman" in the same-sex group-a canary in a cage, makes a beautiful and tender actor come alive and amazing; While admiring, I can't help feeling: China is so big that I can't find an actor like Rie Miyazawa, so why should I import from Japan? Come to think of it, I think it's the only way. The revolution in China in the last hundred years, especially the later "don't love red clothes but love armed forces" and "women hold up half the sky", have obliterated the unique gentleness and charm of women, and feminization has become quite common. Fortunately, Dongying, a neighbor who is good at preserving traditions, can save us from emergencies. By listing these, I didn't mean to praise the Japanese, but just sighed for myself. Throughout history, the fate of women in China is so bumpy! First of all, "Three Obediences and Four Virtues", the golden house is hidden and charming, and must not be crossed, especially the inhuman and incredible foot-binding technique, which stifles the wildness and vitality of women; Later, at the other extreme, under the slogan of "equality between men and women", I went out to fight with men, and the result was that Yin and Yang were reversed, Albert Nobbs. This situation, in the words of farmers, is "too dry in drought and too waterlogged in waterlogging", completely losing normal weather. In contrast, the fate of Japanese women is not like this: the traditional "three obedience and four virtues" have not really bound them, and the "three-inch golden lotus" that Japanese men like cannot be eaten in Japan; The modern trend of women's liberation and gender equality has not changed them beyond recognition. They have always maintained the feminine nature and charm. Of course, the gentleness of Japanese women in real life is not necessarily so simple. To put it mildly, it is a way of life, a survival strategy, and even a sugar-coated cannonball. However, for men, it is essential. Without it, how boring and heavy the world would be. As we all know, Japanese students studying in China are known as "anti-Japanese" in Z governance, but there are also many "pro-Japanese" people in culture. Think carefully, this cultural "pro-Japanese" has a lot to do with the charm of Japanese women, otherwise there will not be so many people marrying Japanese women. (repost)