My idea is only useful for children who want to be brainwashed by me. They can be sweet or salty, and they can tell whether they like the opposite sex or something special about them. It is good to develop your own growth with your heart and live in the way you like. There is no need to do inappropriate things at inappropriate ages to satisfy your own small thoughts.
But my influence on a class of children is almost zero. Especially for girls, girls' emotions are more delicate, and their family background has a greater influence on them. They themselves are easily addicted to emotions and cannot look at events objectively. Maybe it's just because I prefer girls. Yes, I am particularly tolerant of girls and habitually treat them as fragile glass. In front of girls, I always encourage soft measures, and even if I make mistakes, I rarely use class rules and discipline to deal with them.
There are four very special girls in our class this year. Call them a, b, c and d for the time being. A's father cheated, wrote a promise and committed it again. A has a panoramic view of the contradiction between him and A's mother. When I learned this, I was very angry: how could there be such stupid parents in the world who can't even handle their own affairs well and put their children in the whirlpool? Are they going to use children as weapons to negotiate? Let her know so clearly! A has changed since last semester, falling in love across grades, smoking, swearing, skipping school, and doing everything. I have interfered with her many times and spent a lot of time and energy on her. Although I have restrained myself, my mind is still wandering and I am not in class.
Besides, B and B's parents are divorced. Dad is strict with her, and her stepmother seems to take care of her. B skipped class all afternoon when I was studying abroad, so I contacted B's parents as soon as I came back and asked them to communicate at school. B's parents came too fast, but my father split his face and accused him of making a promise, but there was no communication. I was very loud when I heard it. Mom B is infinitely tolerant and indulgent. I have been defending B. I have been excusing B. I was surprised to learn that she was reorganizing her family. Judging from the performance of B's mother, I think she cares about B very much. But then something changed my mind.
Mother B often openly attacks teachers and other parents in class groups. If a mother loves her children, she won't ignore their situation. Even if she has emotions, she will restrain herself and express it in a rational way to avoid hurting her children. B once didn't come home from school and didn't tell her parents where she was going (I informed her of the school time in the class group and the school newsletter). B's mother didn't come to school until two hours after school. I said we had finished school. She was furious and noisy at school, so she called 1 10 to call the police. When the police arrived at school, they asked her what clothes her child was wearing today, but she couldn't tell. A person who flaunts that he loves children wholeheartedly actually doesn't know the living conditions of children, and the facts behind the performance are unbearable to look directly at. It is no exaggeration to say that mother B is an acting personality.
The problem of C is simpler, that is, the mother and sister-in-law at home have a bad temper and tell her everything every day. C lives in right and wrong, has a strong desire to express, and can't concentrate on things. Although all this disturbed her mood, it did not cause her substantial harm. After a semester's intervention, she has left this small group.
Besides, D, D is not a person, but a person. Basically, I am a lower-middle class and don't care about class matters. There is no sense of existence, but I like to make up and fall in love, making a heartbeat and so on. Such a woman lives in fantasy, not reality. It is very necessary to hold a group to keep warm. If you break one, there will be another to fill it.
C and d are not the problem, but a and b are the key. I really can't do anything about them. What can I do to help them really change? I vaguely feel that they just need to be seen, noticed and recognized. However, they have deviated from the normal route, and the normal attention and expectation given by teachers and classmates can no longer satisfy their desires. They need deeper connection to solve the anxiety and panic in life.
Today, during the 20-minute break between self-study and eating, A and B lead C and D(C and D are only pronouns, and the characters have changed). While there was no one in the class, they got on someone else's desk, stepped on someone else's desk and stepped on the book.
I was shocked to find this when I entered the class! Personally, I hate people who do things behind their backs. What can't you say? What can't you say?
I lost my temper with a girl for the first time. Serious warning, deal with it seriously! And ordered them to apologize publicly to the students who were stepped on the table in class.
In retrospect, I was reckless and put too much personal emotion into dealing with things.
Well, A and B, what shall I do with you? How to treat you correctly?