In the second half of your life, I wish you more calm, courage and patience, and live a good life every day for the rest of your life.

Writer Feng Tang suggested in an article "Never Cancer" that if you want to stay away from diseases, you must first do these nine proverbs:

Shameless, not afraid, not in a hurry

After careful consideration, I think these nine words are not only the secret of a person's happiness and longevity, but also the attitude towards life in middle age.

Shame on you.

When people reach middle age, they become the pillars of the family, one has to support the children and the other has to support the elderly.

This is tiring enough, and because of the face problem, isn't it more tiring to take care of this and that?

Therefore, "shameless" should be the first criterion of middle-aged life.

Uncle is a traditional person, especially proud.

A few years ago, he made money in business. At first, not many people borrowed money. Later, everyone found that uncles basically came to the door, so more and more people came to borrow money.

My aunt quarreled with him many times. When they quarreled, my uncle promised to be fine, but in turn lent the money.

My uncle always said that they all belonged to the villagers, and others came to see me. How can I refuse? Besides, it's not that I don't pay it back.

In short, some people really keep money in their arms for a long time as their own.

Last year, the economy was bad, and uncle's business needed capital turnover. At first, the uncle didn't want to ask those people for money.

My aunt couldn't stand it anymore, saying that you were proud, I was shameless, and I asked for it.

First, she sent a message on WeChat, explaining the situation seriously, and only a few people failed to reply.

I can't call my aunts one by one, so there are still several who don't even answer the phone, and finally they blacked her out, which is really annoying.

Recently, I heard from my family that only half of the money lent by my uncle has come back. What is even more exasperating is that some people actually borrow money to manage their finances.

In recent years, the topic of borrowing money has always emerged endlessly.

Some people spit out that they are ashamed to be grandfathers when they borrow money, and they will be grandsons when they ask for money in the future.

Pretending to be a grandson can get the money back. The point is that some uncles who owe money would rather be scoundrels than pay back the money.

Face this thing, many times is useless. A person with a good face, like a paper tiger, has a shiny appearance, and the lining may be a tattered cotton wool.

Teenagers may have a thin skin. After all, there is still a long way to go. When people reach middle age, they are still proud and destined to be bloated and obese.

As the saying goes, a man lives with a face and a tree lives with a skin, but if your lining lives, it will naturally have a face.

As middle-aged people, we don't need a "useless" face, we just need a quiet family.

not be afraid

I was chatting with my sister the day before yesterday. I said that newborn calves were not afraid of tigers because they were ignorant. Later, when they learned more and more, they became afraid.

But my sister told me that she hoped that no matter what age, she should be enterprising and have the courage of young people.

Sometimes when you get older and know more, you will easily become timid.

I'm always afraid of this and think about that when I do things, so when it's time to rush, I'll stay in the comfort zone, and when it's time to make a decisive decision, I'll choose to hesitate.

Fate often favors those brave people who dare to try, are not afraid of failure and start all over again.

Jing Yidan, a famous host of CCTV, returned to his hometown as soon as he graduated from university and became a radio announcer.

A good job and a familiar environment should be the state of life that most people dream of.

However, this leisurely life has become more and more boring and even a little empty for too long, which makes Jing Yidan have the idea of continuing his studies.

Many people think that she is fooling around, but instead of shrinking because of other people's rumors, she is getting more and more depressed.

On the road to postgraduate entrance examination, she worked hard for a year and failed once, until she was admitted to her favorite school for the third time.

She was 28 years old at this time.

After graduating from graduate school, Jing Yidan stayed in school to teach, which is still the envy of everyone, but she didn't stop.

A few years later, in her thirties, she decided to resign and join CCTV because she always dreamed of being a host.

The voice of disapproval appeared again. Facts have proved that when you summon up courage and make up your mind to do something, the whole world will help you.

Later, Jing Yidan went further and further in hosting this road, not only winning three gold microphone awards in succession, but also hosting the first program named after the host in China.

I especially like a sentence when I watch TV series. After 18, I am a hero again.

Impulse, no retreat, no fear should not only be synonymous with young people, but should be a prelude to everyone's life.

The age of growth is just a number, and it is the wisdom given by years. This should not be an excuse for us to be afraid to take a step forward.

Don't be afraid at any time

Never grow up without fear, and constantly break through your own background, so that you will not live your life in vain.

People can fear, but not be afraid.

be lax

Yu Shicun wrote in The Book of Time:

When people reach middle age, they should understand that there are many good things to grind, and it is useless to worry about some things.

Eat the rice bit by bit and walk step by step.

Some time ago, I saw a news that was regarded as a realistic version of "encouraging seedling growth".

Things have to start from a few days before school starts. A mother went to register her daughter and added many parents' WeChat. When she came back, she flipped through her circle of friends and immediately became anxious.

These parents' circle of friends are exposed to the daily life of children:

Today I practiced calligraphy, tomorrow I practiced swimming, and the day after tomorrow is something else ... There is even a child named Tong Mo, which is a good example.

The mother suddenly became anxious, and her daughter not only learned less, but also lost her grades.

Under the slogan of not letting children lose at the starting line, she signed up several remedial classes and interest classes for her children, so they didn't have much rest time and lost it completely.

On holidays, it is all kinds of rushing events, and my mother spares no effort to accompany her wholeheartedly.

However, if the thread is stretched too tightly, it is easy to cause problems. Not only is the daughter unable to be hospitalized, but the old mother is also worried about all kinds of old problems.

This kind of situation is not uncommon in life. Parents are preoccupied with their children's success, and they can't wait for a mutation, and their children will begin to understand.

However, sowing in spring requires watering in summer to get a good harvest in autumn.

Many things are like old wine, which will be mellow only after time. If you are too anxious and shorten the brewing time, it is doomed to be unpalatable.

Moreover, life is not a 100 meter sprint, but a marathon without an end. If you run the latter at the speed of the former, you probably won't run far.

There is a poem that says:

A good pot of porridge, only slowly boil, can boil out the most rich flavor.

Always believe in the law of ten thousand hours, just like reading a book a hundred times to understand its meaning. It takes time and effort to see the results.

Don't worry, focus on the present, and the future will naturally not be too bad.

Life is like this, it needs patience.

When people reach middle age, they should live more easily. Only by losing that face can they have a solid lining.

When people reach middle age, live freely, don't be afraid, do what you want, and don't let yourself regret it;

When people reach middle age, they live slowly. If the strings are stretched too tightly, they will break, and if they are stretched too tightly, they will be tired.

In the second half of your life, I wish you more calm, courage and patience, and live a good life every day for the rest of your life.

* * * Whatever you want.

Author: Cybertron, a Leo with a tiger in his heart, hopes that his family will be healthy all his life and that he will be more tenacious and go all the way to the dark.

Anchor: Ying You, a warm-hearted anchor with an intellectual voice, WeChat official account: pillow classic. Personal micro signal: z6702 1247, Sina Weibo: @ jingjingjingjingjing, Himalayan radio: pillow classic.

Editor-in-Chief X Cybertron Duty Editor X Han Jiangxue