The Spring Festival is a day of family reunion and celebration. Everyone stayed at home watching TV, having a reunion dinner and chatting. The Spring Festival is also the strongest time for "home flavor". But there are also common situations, that is, some families start quarreling at home as soon as the Spring Festival arrives; For example, husbands will complain about their wives, and parents will start criticizing their children. If you get a paste from the following article, or if your child just plays with his mobile phone and doesn't talk to himself, you can start talking for a round. Even the contradictions will get bigger and bigger and get out of hand. In some places, quarreling is especially taboo during the New Year, because it is too easy to happen! In fact, everyone wants a good family, but why are there so many family conflicts at this time? Because in the Spring Festival, Valentine's Day and other major festivals, the demand that is valued will be particularly easy to be amplified! For example, the husband will hope that the festival will be valued by his wife, children and parents; The wife also hopes that during the holiday season, the husband can occasionally respect himself and do housework for himself ... When the expectations are slightly unsatisfied, some people will have secret control behavior. That is, by manipulating others, I can get the sense of security I want, and then verify that I can be valued! The most common way is to complain, and ask the other party to obey themselves through the content of the complaint. Compared with the joyful atmosphere that should have been Chinese New Year, the atmosphere at this time is easier to live. When the war breaks out, it will get out of hand, and many people will have the idea of divorce. Many couples form a family structure: the wife takes care of the family, raises children, does housework, and the husband works hard to maintain social contacts. In such a family, the husband's energy is not concentrated on the family. He has friends, a career and social support, and he can get a sense of accomplishment from his career. While focusing on the family, the wife needs her husband's affirmation and hopes that the other half will take care of her feelings. And the husband's heart is not at home, and he has no intention to take care of his wife's emotions, and her wife will feel neglected. Usually, the husband can use the excuse that he is busy with work and has no time to spend with his family and educate his children. But during the Chinese New Year, if my husband still doesn't see anyone every day, or holds his mobile phone all day long, it's really unbearable to hide in the study after eating. At this time, the wife will feel more like a domestic nanny, washing clothes, cooking, doing housework and taking care of her family all year round. Once the complaints from the bottom of my heart are aroused, it is easy to explode! I'm even most afraid of lying to a corpse when I'm widowed and raising children. I usually ignore my children every day, but now I stand up and reap the fruits, or when you are screaming at the top of my lungs to teach my baby a lesson, I always like to play the devil's advocate, say cynicism, and command blindly, just like a parenting master. What's more, I throw it directly to you, blaming you for not looking after the children! The Spring Festival is very busy for some housewives. They have to clean up, store up new year's goods, cook big meals, and consider giving gifts to their parents. My husband doesn't say much about sharing and thoughtfulness, and he has to be a tailor-made shopkeeper in raising children. Who can stand it? Many people divorce because they don't think clearly about what marriage means before marriage, and they don't have a clear understanding in the process of marriage development.