This is a social phenomenon. Being a man should not be too weak and kind, and it is easy to be used by people with ulterior motives and eventually become a scapegoat.
Farmers and snakes in Aesop's fables tell the sorrow of fools and good people. Good farmers treat frozen poisonous snakes indiscriminately, and the bad ending is embarrassing.
To be a principled person, kindness must be defined, and improper kindness will get people into trouble. Don't let yourself do stupid things and good things at any time.
There are many reversed news in the society. The reason why good people were wronged was mostly because there was too much public opinion at that time, and the truth was buried by public opinion, leaving bad people at large.
Ironically, those who launched public opinion didn't think there was anything wrong with their remarks at that time, and even used the slogan of punishing evil and promoting good, only hating that they didn't have a pair of discerning people and couldn't accurately distinguish good from evil when doing good.
People should not be too kind and generous. After a long time, you will find that people who are too kind are easily taken for granted. Even when they enjoy this goodwill, they will intensify and list more rules and regulations.
Once something is taken for granted by people around you, gratitude will disappear quietly.
I once read a story that two friends have a good relationship, but everyone's situation is different. With the increase of working years, one of them has a stable job, and his income has gradually increased. The other has simply lost his job after several twists and turns.
Because they have a good relationship, high-income friends offered to subsidize low-income people with 2000 yuan per month.
At first, the low-income person was grateful, and slowly he put away his pleasantries. Later, he began to count the time spent by high-income friends to remind them of their support.
After a year or so, high-income friends are getting married, and there are suddenly more places to spend money, so the 2000 yuan for supporting friends is adjusted to 1000 yuan.
Less than two months after marriage, when their wives were pregnant with children, they began to prepare for the cost of having children, and their monthly salary became more and more insufficient.
So the former high-income earners found that they could not continue to support their friends, so they chose a time to show their friends that they could not continue to support their lives every month in the future.
The friend who heard the news flew into a rage in an instant. He was furious and scolded loudly: I put up with it before you cut it in half, and now you have the nerve to say that you want to support your wife and children with my money, shameless!
Originally a pair of good friends, not only turned against each other for this, but also almost scuffled together.
Some people say that the wisdom of life is hard to confuse. This sentence is not without preconditions. Some things are good to muddle along, but some things must not be taken lightly. When it should be true, it must be true
Being a man must have a bottom line, and truth is the embodiment of the bottom line and personality. There is nothing wrong with getting along with people tactfully, but it is too witty, even for the sake of looking good. This is the performance of pathological social relations.
Kindness is to make appropriate humility on the basis of fairness, rather than giving up rights protection in the case of infringement.
Excessive kindness will only make