In the American TV series "The Last Ship", the female doctor Scott asked Tex: "You saw the worst side of human nature in Guantánamo, but you can still maintain a sense of humor."

Tex replied: "The secret source of humor is not happiness, but sadness. There is no humor in heaven."

Scott responded: "Everyone is the moon, has The dark side that is never shown to others."

Both of them are talking about Mark Twain's classic quotes.

Just as Zhuangzi said in "Zhibei Youyou": "The great beauty of heaven and earth is not mentioned, the laws of the four seasons are clear but not discussed, and the principles of all things are not explained." The great beauty of heaven and earth, There is no need to discuss the sequence of the four seasons and the prosperity and decline of all things. Just like real life, the beauty lies not only in its beauty and beauty, but also in its shortcomings and regrets.

People are the same, they all have two sides, one is exposed to the world, and the other is buried deep in the heart. The two coexist, balanced between light and darkness.

Someone once told the story of a relative of theirs. This relative was a lady. When her husband died, she was not yet 30 years old. She never remarried. She devoted herself to raising her children. She dressed herself beautifully and elegantly and kept the house tidy. Be spotless, treat others with courtesy and thoughtfulness, and be a role model in everyone's eyes.

Once, he happened to see his female relative fetching water alone in the water boiling room. She secretly took off the cork from someone else's thermos and replaced the old cork from her own thermos.

At that moment, he felt very uncomfortable. He did not expect that this relative was so elegant and decent in front of others, but was so careless in others. He felt that not only his personal image was destroyed, but also his own expectations for beauty.

Later, his mother found out and told him: "A woman has no one to help her and relies on herself for everything. If she wants to take advantage, she must understand."

In fact, everyone has a life. As for the shortcomings of human beings, big people have joys and sorrows, and small people also have joys and sorrows. They are all mortal bodies. Although there are differences in moral character and education, no one can avoid the limitations of being a human being. Those complex desires that have never been put aside in the heart, Those dark thoughts that don’t want to be preached to outsiders, or even to loved ones, are like dust, dancing in the heart.

Mr. Lu Xun said:

To put it bluntly, people like to show their good sides to others. You have to show off your beautiful pictures when posting on WeChat Moments, and you have to show off your money if you are tight. He has a fat face, so if he is well-dressed, he will be dignified; if there is gold and jade on the outside, there will be corruption inside.

There is a question on Zhihu: What is it like to have been to more than 100 countries?

There is an interesting answer: "Understand that there is no such thing as absolute correctness in this world, and be able to accept other people's different views and derived ways of thinking."

In various In an era where human thoughts collide and are even full of prejudices, being able to accept that others have different views and ways of living directly determines a person's tolerance and mind, as well as the way he treats the world.

People often say that the more things you experience and meet all kinds of people, the more you can truly grow up. In fact, I know in my heart that I have seen both the good and the bad of this world, I have experienced both the kindness of human nature and the indifference of human kindness. Only then can I walk through the world with the determination to stay safe in a corner. Accept the joys and pains that life brings.

Traditional Confucianism has an important content called "Be careful about independence." It is believed that this is an important symbol to measure a person's personal moral level and conduct, and it is also the highest state of personal style.

"Shendu" comes from "The Great Learning", which says that "it is not good for a villain to live idle", which means that a villain usually likes to do bad things, but when he sees someone who is Shendu, he tries to disguise himself , covering up the bad and focusing on the good.

However, people's hearts and appearances are often consistent, and their usual bad thoughts and ideas can always be expressed in their behaviors. That is to say, "people regard themselves as if they are angry with their lungs and liver." You can't pretend to be fake in appearance. Only by being sincere inwardly like a Shendu person can you be outwardly visible.

There are many allusions to Shendu in ancient times. Xu Heng, a great scholar of the Yuan Dynasty, went out one day and became unbearably thirsty. There happened to be a pear tree on the roadside, and pedestrians went to pick pears to quench their thirst. Only Xu Heng remained unmoved. At this time, someone asked him: "Why don't you pick pears?" He said: "It's not your own pears, how can you pick them randomly?" The man laughed at him for being pedantic: "The world is so chaotic, who cares who owns it?" "Pear." He said: "Although the pear has no owner, I have an owner in my heart."

In the Ming Dynasty, Cao Ding was the official of Taihe, Shandong. He once captured a stunning female thief. She was alone because she was far from the county government. A man and a widow spend the night in a temple. The female thief tried her best to seduce Cao Ding with her lustful appearance. When Cao Ding could no longer hold on, she wrote the four words "Cao Ding is not allowed" and posted them on the wall to remind herself, and she finally got control of herself.

There are also Liu Xiahui who stays calm, Lu men who refuse to accept the door, and Yang Zhen who refuses money at night, but people have seven emotions and six desires after all, such as Cao Ding, this "Cao Ding is not allowed" The note was pasted, torn off, and repeated more than ten times until dawn.

Cao Ding’s psychological struggle is a true portrayal of an ordinary person. Faced with the flowing almond eyes and the fragrant red Lips, it's hard to show off your beauty without eating. If you spend another night, Cao Ding will probably fall.

There is a saying that makes sense: Never test human nature. Everyone has an unknown dark side, and we don’t know what our humanity will become until something happens.

The moon is cloudy and sunny, and so are people. Even if you have many advantages in one person, behind the self-concealment, there will eventually be a dark side that is not shown to others.

This is true human nature, which nourishes all kinds of unknowable things. The "dark sides" floating in the heart are also part of the nourishment of human nature, just like the shadows and echoes of the shrubs and streams outside the majestic mountains and rivers. , in the wavering shadows, we looked at all sentient beings and ourselves.

Therefore, no one can survive with the pretended self. Most of them have no choice but to tolerate it. In the face of temptation, it is difficult for us to focus on nothing. In the face of helplessness, we will make appropriate compromises and laugh at ourselves while pursuing our dreams. , and gradually learned to get along with impermanence.

This is real life!

Finally, based on the words of the young king Baldwin who was suffering from leprosy in "The Kingdom of Heaven", he earnestly warned Balian: