I recently watched the popular TV series "Ode to Joy". In it, Qu Xiaoxiao told Andy that you are the only one who can carry things clearly among the 22 floors. She also shared her father's life motto: "Always share the same interests with others." Competing for superiority, don't let fools talk about shortcomings and advantages." This sentence sounded interesting at first. Later, Qu Xiaoxiao herself said that she would be suspicious when talking to Andy, and she didn’t know if she was a fan or a fool. What kind of people can talk effortlessly and feel that there is a tacit understanding between them?

What determines the goal in life is one's values, what determines the path of realization is one's methodology, and what determines the externality of the realization process (that is, whether there is foreign aid) is one's way of dealing with others. Simply put, values ??determine direction, IQ determines height, and EQ determines width. These three dimensions can basically outline a person's life trajectory. The drama "Ode to Joy" can bring such great influence, I think, not only because of the staff's hard work, but also the setting of the characters that attracts everyone, so that every woman can interact with Andy, Xiaoqu, Fan I can see my own shadow in a certain combination of characters among Sister Qiu, Qiu Yingying, and Guan Guan. Fiction works magnify the characteristics of a character, and most of us are a mixture of different living environments.

Who can carry it clearly on the entire 22nd floor?

Andy is knowledgeable, self-disciplined and intellectual. She is not inferior to men at work and obtains material and spiritual satisfaction by herself. Therefore, Andy is the most secure woman on the 22nd floor. One of her lines is that she feels that she is very good now, she has the ability to live a good life, and she can also raise her younger brother who has a mental disorder on her own. If a woman is both materially and spiritually independent and strong, then no matter what if she has psychological barriers or physical barriers, Lao Tan, Qingdian, Bao Yifan and other diamond kings will still surround her.

Qu Xiaoxiao is naturally white, rich and beautiful, with an eccentric personality and a charming personality. I don’t think she looks like a white-bone spirit as I said, but more like a modern improved version of Huang Rong. She is a rose with thorns. Her thorn is that she can't stand Sister Fan's vanity and Qiu Yingying's stupidity. Although her words are harsh, sometimes if we can meet more straightforward people like Xiaoqu in our lives, , in fact, it helps us better understand the social reality. If we always regard ourselves as naughty children in our hearts, then the reality will cause us a lot of embarrassment. Therefore, Xiaoqu may seem arrogant and domineering, but he is very clear-minded in his heart. He is unambiguous when it comes to accompanying clients no matter how hard or tiring he is. When it is time to fight for them, he knows the tricks and is sincere, so Zhao Sanzang has everything he needs.

Guan Ju'er comes from a good family, is well-behaved and sensible, gentle and considerate, and works diligently. It reminds me of the word gentle as jade, but the audience often feels aggrieved watching it because she cares too much. others, and ignore yourself. So her A side is gentle and gentle, and her B side is gentle and repressed.

Sister Fan and Little Earthworm are very controversial characters. Sister Fan is affected by her original family, so she worships money for a reason. She pursues whatever she lacks. She is also hard-working, beautiful and enthusiastic, but at the age of thirty she has not lived the life she originally wanted to be. I think there is no point in being keen on those celebrity gatherings. Crossing social classes to get to know those bigwigs, and accepting the teasings of the rich second generation. But with a heart of looking up and seeking, I am destined to live a depressed and miserable life. vanity. Little Earthworm's father bought her a lot of books on success, and she went to argue with Andy. These things showed her innocence and straightforward nature, but a person's vision and structure are basically restricted by his or her family of origin, just like The earth revolves around the sun, and the farthest place you can reach is actually destined. If you want to break free, you must continue to double the rotation speed until you break free. Sometimes you even need a lot of luck. But it is a pity that most of us are just ordinary individuals, unable to possess excellent intelligence, strong perseverance and occasional luck. This is the case for Qiu Yingying. She is optimistic by nature and lives happily. In fact, she also has a good life. The difference between Qiu Yingying and Sister Fan is that Qiu Yingying has accepted her own class, while Sister Fan cannot accept the status quo in her heart and is not strong enough to counterattack on her own like Andy, so all her hope lies in marriage and she hopes to rely on marriage to transform herself. Everything that was missing was made up.

Going back to the original question, what kind of people can talk effortlessly and feel that they have a tacit understanding? In fact, it can be seen from the closeness between the five girls. Andy and Xiao Qu has the most communication about work and relationships. Xiao Earthworm and Guan Guan are good best friends, while Sister Fan is between these two groups but cannot really integrate into either one. In fact, tacit understanding comes from the same cognition. At a large level, it means that the life pattern is the same, and at a small level, it means that the values ????and life experiences are similar. I don’t think the saying “Always compete with your peers and don’t argue with fools” is absolutely correct, but it’s better to accept the fact that the other person’s knowledge may not be as good as yours. It’s not easy to be a teacher, and you don’t understand individuals from God’s perspective. The difference between the two is actually a kind of wisdom.

Whether it is the previously popular "Descendants of the Sun" or the recent "Ode to Joy", one of the discussions I like very much is the discussion of values. In Descendants of the Sun, everyone talks about being evenly matched. I think that being evenly matched is not only about being independent of each other materially and spiritually, but also about respecting each other's differences and striving for the most logical meaning of existence.

I saw some comments saying that we all want to live like Andy and live like Qu Xiaoxiao, but the reality is that Qiu Yingying and Guan Juer end up being Fan Shengmei. In fact, I want to say that Qiu Yingying and Guan Ju'er will also grow up, and Fan Shengmei is also cute. If love in today's society is all about routines, then hard work and growth should become my last belief.