Everyone lives in this world and has different hobbies. Some people like money, so they try their best to make money. Some people like powerful people, so they try their best to seize power. Some people like beauty, so they pursue it crazily. Different hobbies determine the direction of future life.
Dante's famous saying "Go your own way and let others talk" has been widely circulated and even become the motto of many people. Dante's words tell us to stick to ourselves, go our own way, and don't care too much about other people's opinions. A person can achieve an extraordinary life only by sticking to himself. Everyone is very sweet. If he were a scholar, he would study the causes of life difficulties. If he is a writer, he will record the wrestling scene with wonderful words; Maybe he is just an ordinary person, and he will pass on his experiences on the road by word of mouth ... everyone will leave different footprints on his own life path. No matter what others say, don't care too much, because they won't know your heart, they just have a one-sided view of you. Only they can transform themselves.
Life has been faced with all kinds of choices, and what kind of road to choose is a problem that everyone must think about. From what you are good at, you can learn your favorite major, do your favorite job and choose your own life. It is the dream of many people to start their own way from what they like.
I have two friends, one is fond of English, the other is fond of literature, one is determined to be admitted to a foreign language university and then do simultaneous translation, and the other wants to continue reading and writing in the Chinese Department. Later, my friend who loves English didn't go to a foreign language university, but was admitted to a medical school. People who love literature got their wish and entered the Chinese Department of a university.
I asked this friend who went to medical school why you didn't stick to your hobby and learn English. He said that English has always been his hobby, but his parents, including relatives and friends, advised him to give up this hobby, because there are so many people in China, and only a few can do simultaneous translation. It is better to study medicine, which is a good career. He followed the advice of his family, so he chose to be a doctor. In the process of studying, he felt very painful, but he knew that his family was good for him, so he dared not complain.
My friend who studied Chinese worked as a teacher for a year after graduation. Teacher is also a good career in the eyes of the public, but he resolutely changed careers and went to work in a magazine. I also talked to him, and everyone said that being a teacher is so good, why don't you do it? He said, "I know the advantages of being a teacher. I have a stable job, high social status and people respect you. But I just don't like being a teacher. In the process of doing this, I feel very painful and can't continue, so I think I must give up and do the job I like. "
This is the life choice of my two friends. This is the real thing that happened around me. This kind of thing is actually very common. Should we proceed from our own interests, go our own way, or compromise, in line with the public aesthetic? In fact, it is difficult to define which choice is better, but I personally suggest that you stick to yourself and go your own way. Why does life have so many troubles? Part of it comes from not being able to do what you like. You used to like apples, but because everyone else eats bananas, you eat bananas with everyone, but eating bananas is very painful for you. You can't say whether apples or bananas are good, you can only say what you like. As the saying goes, radish and cabbage have their own love. For you, it is poison, for some people, it may be candy. Choosing what you like is actually very important.
I have a relative who always wants her daughter to find a stable job and marry a good one. This is the common wish of parents all over the world, and there is nothing wrong with it. However, her behavior is a bit excessive. When a daughter works in a foreign country and has a boyfriend, she will call her to get sick, cheat her back, and then arrange a blind date for her daughter. When the daughter didn't agree, she threatened to break off the relationship. The daughter agreed to her mother's request with tears in her eyes and soon got engaged to her blind date. When she was about to get married, her daughter ran away. My daughter left her a letter telling her inner pain. She was arranged by her mother and has been living a miserable life. She even thought about suicide. Persuaded by her friends, she didn't give up her life. She doesn't want anyone to manipulate her life, because there is only one life, and she just wants to live according to her own preferences.
At this time, the mother finally realized that she was doing her daughter good, but she was hurting her. The mother no longer insists, thinking that as long as her daughter is happy, she will be satisfied. Sometimes I feel that life is only a few decades, I can't do what I want to do, and I'm not too wronged to live. No matter how important other things are, they are not as important as their inner freedom and happiness.
We don't have a strategic word to cover this moment and this place in our lives. The present era is an ambiguous and unavoidable era. Everyone must find their own development space in such an environment, otherwise they will be eliminated by society. However, many people can't stick to their ideals. Some people really want to be scientists, but once they hear that it is difficult to be scientists, they will give up, even though they like research very much. Some people want to be poets, but once they hear that poets can't make money, they will find another way, no matter how much they love poetry, they still give up. You can't succeed if our hobbies become jokes of others after dinner. Paying too much attention to other people's opinions will make you very tired. One person will speak today, and the other will speak tomorrow. One day you will be fed up and choose to give up.
"The road you choose, you have to go through." In the process of sticking to yourself, you will inevitably encounter all kinds of difficulties and be questioned by others, so you must strengthen your beliefs and make your heart strong. People can't do what they like at any time, sometimes because they need it, and they can't be independent to some extent. In fact, it is. How important it is to stick to ourselves within our power, which makes us live more exciting and faster. Because a free heart can be truly happy.
As far as I am concerned, going our own way is the attitude towards life that we should learn. We can't satisfy everyone when we are alive. There are always some people who question you. In the face of these doubts, learn to accept and improve. Don't be influenced by their views. You should bravely pursue what you like. Interest is the best teacher. Don't suppress one's interest. Do whatever you like. Only by choosing the path of life according to your own interests can you get out of the excitement. Look at those successful masters, who didn't stick to their hobbies and finally succeeded! Go your own way and let others talk!