There is an old saying in China that "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" refers to the hatred between enemies. Similarly, there is an old saying that someone respects me one foot and I respect others one foot. This reflects people's general mentality in interpersonal communication: that is, the mentality of balance between gains and losses. Treat others as others treat themselves, and treat others as they treat themselves. We all have the experience that when others show a liking and accepting attitude towards themselves, they will show the same liking and accepting attitude towards them. On the other hand, if others are indifferent to themselves, they will inevitably avoid them. Therefore, when getting along with others, if you want to win the friendship of others, you must first accept and recognize others sincerely, enthusiastically and unconditionally, so as to get the reward from others.
Second, take care of others.
In many cases, people's contradictions and resentments are neck and neck, which cannot be resolved. To a great extent, it is because both parties hold their own opinions, do not give in to each other, and are even more unwilling to stand in the other's position and put themselves in the other's shoes. Therefore, when you get along with different types of people, don't be self-centered to guess others and treat others. When other people's thoughts, behaviors and languages are different and contradictory with yourself, learn to stand in the other person's position to understand him and understand him, so that you will find that the other person may have better reasons to make what you think is inappropriate. You can also put yourself in the other person's shoes and imagine that the other person may feel similar to you. When you are angry, he may be more angry than you. When you think he is puzzling or unreasonable, he may think you are a complete madman.
3. Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
Many of us have this common fault. We hope others can be warm and friendly to us. When we are in trouble, others can lend a helping hand in time. We hope others will not publicize their privacy at will. However, when many people ask others in this way, they consciously or unconsciously put the fact that others don't want or hate what others do into their words and deeds. In this way, it will inevitably hurt others' self-esteem and feelings, thus losing others' trust and friendship. A psychologist once said that we can often read our own expressions from other people's faces. Because people's words and deeds are influenced by unconscious attitudes, ideas will be conveyed to each other through subtle channels, thus becoming unverified facts. If these ideas are negative and intentional, it will inevitably have bad consequences. Therefore, when interacting with people, we should filter out the negative and unfriendly attitudes and ways, and try to treat others with the attitudes and ways that others expect and like, so as to be welcomed by more people.