Experience in educating children 1 To educate children, parents should be friends with their children.
Many of our parents always pretend to be parents when educating their children. Isn't the relationship between children and parents the relationship between father and mother and daughter? Yes, there is no doubt about it. But you are only half right. Besides this relationship, you have another important relationship: friendship. Some parents may have understood this layer, but they have not used it properly and have not received good results. Many parents are trying to make friends with their children, perhaps because of lack of patience, or because they have not completely let go of their power and have not succeeded.
What I want to say is that in educating children, parents and children are friends first, and then parents. I remember a mother once complained to me that when her child was young, she was very obedient and good, and she felt very happy when she said anything. But children don't worry when they are older, and often do the right thing with themselves. You told him to go east, and he went west. In her words, the child is old now, her wings are hard, and she is not needed. In fact, children grow up and have their own understanding and views on things. As a mother, she doesn't know much about and respect the changes of her children. As a parent, she only values her own power, which dominates politics, causing her children's rebellious mentality, and everything is based on herself, which leads to the failure to implement her power and a sense of loss.
Educate children, parents should pretend to be their friends and keep abreast of all aspects of their children. Communicate with your child with sincere attitude, kind tone, patience and love, and take pains to let your child truly feel that you love him, sincerely help him and make friends with him. When encountering problems, parents should not rush to express their views and opinions, but let their children talk about their own understanding and opinions. Parents should support their children if their views and understanding are correct. If children's views and understanding are wrong or incomplete, parents should help them to supplement or correct them. It is necessary to analyze the problem clearly, so that children can understand it clearly and take it orally.
If parents are wrong, they should correct it in time and apologize to their children. Only in this way can children get along equally, open their hearts and communicate with you without any worries. By communicating with you about your child's study and physical and mental health, you can enjoy the happiness of getting along with your child at zero distance. I remember once, my daughter made a mistake in a math problem and I reminded her. She talked about her idea of doing the problem and thought it was right. I asked her to re-examine the questions, analyze them carefully and find out the mistakes. After reading it, she was still opinionated and didn't get out of the misunderstanding. So I explained it to her step by step, and she seemed to realize something. I further drew intuitive graphics, and she understood at a glance. She corrected the wrong question and said thank you to me. I feel very happy because I helped her.
Educate children and parents to set a good example for them.
Every parent knows that parents are their children's first teachers. But is every parent aware of the importance of the child's first teacher? The children have lived with us since they were born. They are learning everything their parents say and do all the time. There is a saying in our country, which is very vivid and funny. "The dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the mouse can make holes when it is born." This is about the habits of animals. In fact, newborn mice can't make holes, but they learned it from adult mice later. I remember watching an Indian movie when I was a child. I forgot the name, but I remember the story clearly. It is said that when the judge sentenced the thief, he said that the thief's son must be a thief and the good man's son must be a good man. The thief also argued at the time that the judge was just cynical.
After the thief got out of prison, luck got the judge's son and trained him to be a thief, thus denying the judge's judgment. This story tells us that children will follow the example of people around them and learn from his every move. The story of Meng Mu's "Three Major Movements" is a household name in China. In fact, Meng Mu has changed his living environment many times in order to find a good example for his son. I remember a joke. A couple thought my mother was a burden and took her out with a bamboo basket and threw her away. His son saw it and said, "Throw away the bamboo basket and get it back." The couple asked why. My son said to use it when throwing you in the future. Although it is a joke, it is worth pondering. When my daughter was three years old, I once drank mineral water and sent the bottle to the dustbin. My daughter also sent the bottle to the dustbin. That scene, in retrospect, made me feel warm and moved. Therefore, it is very important for parents to set a good example for their children.
Educate children so that they have a correct understanding of themselves.
It goes without saying that a person with advantages will naturally have advantages and disadvantages. Let children see their own advantages and disadvantages and have a correct and objective evaluation of themselves. Only children have a correct understanding of themselves can complement each other. A parent told me that his child couldn't sit still. I asked him to sign up for a calligraphy class for his children. Later, I met him. He said that since learning calligraphy, his children not only sit still, but also write more neatly. This is killing two birds with one stone. My daughter also has a fatal shortcoming, that is, she can't persevere in doing things, and she belongs to the kind of person who always makes up her mind.
One day, I gave her an anthology of Andersen's fairy tales for her to read. At first, she was full of enthusiasm and read with relish, but then she got bored and told me that she couldn't finish reading such a thick book. I asked her to keep reading for an hour every day. A month later, after reading the book, she told me what she had gained: first, she could accomplish one thing as long as she persisted; Second, the stories in the book brought her happiness and thinking; Third, she has confidence in herself. Only when children have a correct understanding of themselves and always remember their strengths and weaknesses can they give full play to their strengths, correct their weaknesses and treat themselves rationally in future study and work, and be competent for study and work.
Educate children and establish a correct outlook on life.
Outlook on life is a person's view and understanding of the purpose, value and significance of human existence. Different people have different outlook on life. Helping children to establish a correct outlook on life is the first step in educating children to succeed. Only by establishing a correct life, taking this as a criterion and making unremitting efforts to determine your ideals, will your life have a wonderful day because of your efforts.
I often hear many parents tell their children earnestly that if you study hard now, get into a good university and find a good job, you will have a high income. If you have money, you will naturally be popular. If you drink spicy food, you will have no money to spend all your life. Sadly, is his life worth so much? This kind of education makes children feel that today's study is for tomorrow's enjoyment, which is too realistic. Turn a page of history, and those who have made contributions to human progress will go down in history.
In the Ming Dynasty, Li Shizhen was determined to be a doctor when he was young. After 27 years, it has been compiled into a world-famous medical masterpiece Compendium of Materia Medica for the benefit of mankind. Zhou Enlai, a great proletarian revolutionary, was determined to study hard for the rise of China when he was in primary school. A simple little seed, as long as you plant it, it will return you ten times or even a hundred times. People who live in this society and are raised by society must repay the society. Only by establishing a correct outlook on life can a person have lofty ideals and ambitions. After today's study, he will have the ability and strength to serve mankind, contribute his own strength and show the value of life.
Pay attention to children's cultural education, but also pay attention to children's moral education and ability training.
Nowadays, parents only pay attention to their children's cultural education, only care about their test scores, and ignore their ability training and moral education. The cultivation of ability is also crucial. The author has such an experience; A high school student can't even cook a thermos. A top student who is excellent in all subjects but doesn't know how to communicate with others. This cannot but make people worry. Moral education is the most important. The ancients said, "Cultivate one's morality first." This is a wise saying that has been deposited for thousands of years, but now, our educational concept runs counter to the thoughts of the ancients. When Indians make arrows, the shaft must be cut straight, and other carelessness doesn't matter. If the shaft is not straight, no matter how perfect it is in other aspects, it is difficult to hit it. Similarly, educating a person and teaching him to be an upright person is far more important than cultivating him into a genius.
Parents should pay attention to the details of educating their children.
1, educate children and parents not to be self-centered.
Parents and children are two generations, living in different times, different environments, different education, there will be a gap in the concept of nature, parents can not force their children to accept their own ideas. One parent said in educating his children, "I have crossed more bridges than you have." Of course, parents must have more life experience than children. However, parents should take "a threesome, there must be a teacher." The mentality of talking to children. Parents can talk to their children about their thoughts, experiences and feelings about life. Children can accept as much as they can, and they must not be forced to accept it.
For example, if your parents are writers, you can't use your arrogance to make your children become writers. This is not to say that your knowledge is not desirable at all. You can talk to your child about your understanding and feelings about life, and suggest that he read some good books that are helpful to his physical and mental health, or help his child. I remember one time, I was chatting with a friend (he is a philosopher), and he said that his daughter should read some philosophical works. I said at that time, "There are great philosophers and small philosophers in your family." I think what he did is ridiculous. It's really a little early for an eight-year-old girl to read pure philosophy. Another example is a teacher who plays the pipa. He feels that playing the pipa has benefited him a lot, so he forces his children to learn to play the pipa. After studying for a while, the child refused to learn. She suppressed the child with the arrogance of her parents, and as a result, the child smashed the pipa and ran away from home. I like literature and often read some literary works. I often recommend good books I have read to my daughter, and she has read some, and often asks me what good books I have read recently. I often talk to my daughter about my understanding and harvest of a book, which is very helpful to my daughter.
2, do not complain, complain about parents.
Many parents complain to their children when they don't study hard or do something wrong. This is incorrect, completely wrong. A parent educates his children because they don't study well. I work hard and save money for you, but you don't study hard. Can you afford me? I love you very much. I always leave you delicious food and buy you beautiful clothes, but I can't bear to buy myself a dress. Do you have a conscience to do so? Indeed, you will feel better when you say this to your children. But do you know what a heavy burden you have brought to your child's pure mind, which is harmful to his physical and mental health? It is your duty and obligation to raise your children, just as it is his duty and obligation to support you in the future. This is human nature and it should be.
Parents should communicate well with their children, find out the reasons that affect learning, and prescribe the right medicine to have good results. My daughter, in the third grade of primary school, had a gradual decline in math scores for a while. I chatted with her in time and learned that her daughter was afraid of the math teacher and didn't know how to ask questions in class, which led to her study retrogression. I talked to my math teacher about my daughter's situation, and the teacher attached great importance to it. He had a heart-to-heart talk with her. From that day on, my daughter fell in love with math class and her grades gradually improved.
Parents can't ramble about children's mistakes. Chen Sesame makes a fuss about children's mistakes, and can't cynically hurt children and your feelings. Parents should criticize according to the facts, let children realize their mistakes and correct them, thus achieving the goal of educating and helping children.
3. Parents should examine their children.
Parents have many things to do for their children. Here I only give a few examples, such as; Making friends, appearance, study, habits, doing things, etc.
Take the appearance of students as an example. Students should dress neatly, simply and generously. Some parents like to buy designer clothes for their children. Of course, it is understandable that you spend money to dress up your children according to your own ideas, but there are bound to be three bad results: (1) encouraging unhealthy comparisons; (2) It encourages children's vanity; (3) Make children more and more selfish. These three bad results cannot be taken lightly. Parents must take good care of their children as they grow up. Once, my daughter got up late in the morning, and being late was inevitable. She said, "Dad, can you make up an excuse for being late for me? Just say I'm sick. I don't want to be punished and I don't want my classmates to laugh. " I said, "If you are late, you should face it realistically and take responsibility." Since then, she has been very careful and has never been late again. Children grow up, just like a small sapling, which will produce many branches and leaves that are not conducive to growth. Adults should take care of all kinds of obstacles for their children and cut off those redundant branches that are not conducive to physical and mental health.
Parents must do it when they promise their children.
Parents promise that their children must do what they want. If they can't do it, they will break their hearts. Of course, your tall image in the eyes of children will also be damaged. Children will think that you say one thing and do another. Do it a few more times, and the child will no longer believe you. What's more frightening is that he will treat his classmates or friends with your example. If you can do it, promise me. If not, don't say yes.
5. Let children study by combining work and rest.
After my daughter went to junior high school, the study pressure increased obviously. While encouraging her to study hard, I used my daughter's spare time to chat with her and play games with her. Du encouraged her to play with her classmates to reduce the pressure of study. Not only has she made progress in her studies, but she is happier and full of youthful vitality than before.
Children's learning pressure has increased. Parents should help their children to relieve the pressure, instead of nagging you, so that children can study day and night, and the pressure will collapse to a certain extent. Haste makes waste.
The experience of educating children. First, regulate children's behavior:
How to train Youyou into a healthy, intelligent and qualified prospective pupil? The teacher asked the children to do their own thing. After returning to China, he also actively cooperated with the school, changed the living habits of the whole family around the children, and greatly improved the children's self-care ability. At present, children have learned basic life skills such as dressing themselves, washing themselves, packing stationery, toys and sweeping the floor. Children become more sensible and behave more normally than before.
Second, strengthen communication and do a good job of cooperation.
During the kindergarten, I think it is quite necessary to cooperate according to the requirements assigned by the teacher every day. First of all, we must communicate and cooperate with the school and the team. The class is a big group full of love and warmth. Every day, teachers warmly welcome kindergarten children. Every day, various school notices and children's performances will be posted in the publicity column and contact column of the kindergarten. Every time I pick up the children, I will always pay attention to this place. If there is any work that needs parents' cooperation, I will write it down and finish it seriously. At the same time, we also pay special attention to strengthening communication with teachers. Have a simple communication with the teacher every day when sending the children, to know the latest situation, advantages and disadvantages of the children in the park and the gap with their classmates, so that the children can grow up healthily.
Third, cultivate sentiment and grow up healthily.
While paying attention to children's learning and education, we also attach great importance to children's development in all aspects. Set an example and give children the most intuitive education. We treat our children as friends and treat them equally. Parents also apologize to their children when they make mistakes. We pay attention to cultivate her to have a positive heart, so that she can feel concerned about others, she will feel warm, and let her learn to be grateful and concerned. In family life, cultivate her to respect the old and love the young, and be modest and polite. In order to broaden children's horizons, we take our children out to travel every year, so that she can broaden her horizons, increase her knowledge and feel the beauty of life.
As parents of children, we should do our best. The teacher has paid too much selflessly for her teaching. Thank you for your concern for the children. Every parent has a difficult and unforgettable parenting book. It is a privilege for parents to grow up with their children. We also want to be competent parents and hope that our children will grow up healthily and happily.
Experience in educating children 3 1. Parents are children's first teachers, so we should set a good example for our children. At their present school age, they have a strong ability to imitate and accept, so as parents, they should guide their children correctly! Tell him what he can and can't do, let the child know what is right and wrong, correct and educate him in time if he does something wrong, and also educate him to respect the elderly, teachers and pay attention to hygiene!
Speaking of watching cartoons, I think many parents are against it. I think it's good to understand that we are afraid of affecting our children's eyesight and study, but I think it's good to watch cartoons for a long time as long as we control the degree. Watching cartoons is also a platform for them to learn. Sometimes I hear him say something avant-garde. When we asked him, he said he learned it from cartoons, and he also benefited a lot from learning Mandarin!
3. Communicate with children more. People of our age are mostly busy with work or their own careers and have little time to spend with their children. Instead, we should watch cartoons and play games with our children in our spare time, and also bring them into contact with nature to cultivate their adaptability to strange environments and communication skills!
4, children's learning problems, each child's own development is different, and the ability to accept is also different. Now is the stage to cultivate interest in learning. "It takes ten years to plant trees, but it takes a hundred years to cultivate people." Our parents don't have to rush!
In terms of children's health, with the improvement of living standards, big fish and big meat have become commonplace, and the problem of childhood obesity has become ubiquitous. The eating habits I advocate are simple tea and light rice, which are enough for children's development. Drink less carbonated drinks and more boiled water!
Experience in educating children 4 Speaking of children's education, there is no success, but the child has grown from a starving baby to a girl who knows a little about personnel. This process really embodies the hard work and confusion of our parents. Let me say a little bit about my personal shallow view.
1. More encouragement, less criticism.
How to cultivate children's interest and habit in reading has been bothering me. One day, it suddenly occurred to me that I want my children to be my teachers. Try this method and see how it works. After dinner, I said, "I didn't learn English well in primary school, and many words were not pronounced correctly." Can you teach my mother? " Hearing this, the daughter said, "Yes! I will teach my mother when I get home and make sure my mother learns. " Therefore, I study English with my daughter every day. Sometimes I can't pronounce English words correctly, and she can correct them for me at once. And every text can be read well. The joy of success melts in my heart. After a semester, the children finally got into the good habit of reading as soon as they got home. And I often encourage her, I believe she will learn better!
Second, respect children's choices and give them room for free development.
I hope my children can learn piano and dance when they are in kindergarten. But she doesn't learn piano very much. One day, she said to me, Mom, I don't like playing the piano, but I like dancing. As soon as I heard it, I said, "All right! If you like it, I believe you can dance very well. I think as long as she is willing and willing to do it, she can give full play to her potential ability.
Third, try to spend time with your children.
Our parents are usually busy at work and have limited time to spend with their children every day. Therefore, no matter how busy we are at work, we should spare some time to talk with them. Talking with children provides us with an opportunity to understand and teach our children. It also helps us to keep abreast of children's psychological dynamics, and we can all understand their happiness and troubles. Why not?
Let's work together to have a smart, lovely, healthy and enterprising child!
Experience in educating children 5 How to educate and cultivate children is a problem that every parent wants to solve. Here I will briefly talk about my experience in educating children.
First, lead by example.
Mr. Tao Xingzhi, an educator, said, "Thousands of teachers teach people to seek truth, and thousands of students learn to be human." Parents, as children's first teachers, are the objects of children's worship and imitation, and the most important source of information that affects children's behavior habits. The biggest feature of family education is subtle influence. Parents' words and deeds in daily life often unconsciously affect their children. Parents' behavior habits, standards of right and wrong, attitudes towards others, moral concepts and many other aspects are affecting children all the time. Parents are children's mirrors. If you want your child to be what kind of person, parents should be like that first. Honest parents can cultivate honest children; Parents who swear can't cultivate civilized children; Selfish parents cannot raise selfless children. In order to cultivate students' good personality, parents must match their words with deeds and set an example for their children. Only in this way can they play a unique educational role for their healthy growth.
Second, cultivate children's good habits and comprehensive ability.
The education of children should not only teach them learning skills, but also cultivate their ability and quality. Cultivate children's comprehensive quality in small things. This includes morality, personality, habits, hobbies, mentality and so on. The education of children's behavior habits should not be underestimated, and parents must cultivate their sense of responsibility and self-discipline.
Pay attention to cultivate children's frustration tolerance, stimulate children's tolerance to mental stress, promote children's rehabilitation ability, and enhance children's ability to withstand adversity tests. When he fails in the exam, effective measures should be taken to comfort and encourage him. Let children face the reality with a good attitude, study harder and achieve ideal results.
Be honest and trustworthy, and cultivate children's attitude of being responsible for their own mistakes. When a person knows that he has made a mistake, he is ready to accept punishment and take responsibility for his guilt in order to achieve psychological balance. However, because children lack the ability of self-regulation, they may evade responsibility, but this is a good opportunity to give honest and trustworthy education, so that children can understand what responsibility is and learn to take responsibility.
Children often encounter unpleasant things. In this case, parents should give reasonable family education, communicate with their children calmly, stabilize their emotions, don't scold them, don't force them to do things they don't want to do now, and give them a time to adjust themselves.
Third, help children set up correct ideals and goals.
It is also very important for every parent to guide their children to establish correct learning attitudes and learning goals. In today's era of market economy and rejuvenating the country through science and technology, we should always warn our children that only by studying hard and mastering more knowledge can they learn skills.
Today's children, after the high school stage, are far away from their parents for a long time, and it is common to live alone. The contact with parents is only about 1 ~ 2 days a week. Now, the enthusiasm for learning is generally not conscious enough, which requires the supervision and guidance of parents.
Children are not born smart, but diligent. The all-round development of children's morality, intelligence and physique is inseparable from the attention and guidance of parents. Parents should learn positive education and negative education. What is positive is mainly encouragement and expectation. For example, help children establish their recent learning goals and future ideal goals; Today's study is to prepare for the future. What are the goals for the future?
We should also advocate reverse education to make students feel stressed. If they don't study hard, they will accomplish nothing, and even make children feel that such low-level jobs as "sweeping the streets and digging toilets" may pass you by, not to mention that heroes are useless. Force children to feel the importance and urgency of learning responsibility. Once people have pressure, they have motivation and can develop to a higher level.
Fourth, strengthen communication and be a good teacher and friend for children.
Understand each other and communicate the hearts of parents and children. Only when parents understand their children and children understand their elders can we communicate the hearts of parents and children and carry out effective family education. To understand children, we must first carry out spiritual edification, that is, sincerely care for children in many ways, so that children can feel that their parents are respectable, amiable, lovely and credible, and are willing to "dig out" their hearts. Parents and children often don't easily agree on things because of their different ages and cognitive abilities. This requires parents not only to have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, but also to make their children's views clear. When you encounter a problem, don't rush to teach the child, but also put yourself in the shoes: "If I were a child, how would I feel?" This can not only shorten the psychological distance, but also receive good educational results.
Shorten the psychological distance between parents and children with the power of praise. Everyone wants to get others' understanding, trust and respect, which is human nature and also the need for a person to maintain a happy mood and strong enthusiasm for work. Praise can satisfy people's needs Teenagers, on the other hand, have poor psychological endurance and a stronger demand for praise. This requires parents to pay attention to discovering and praising the bright spots of truth, goodness and beauty. While praising, strictly demand children; At the same time, it also points out the shortcomings. The combination of love and strictness can not only give full play to the advantages of children, overcome their shortcomings, but also shorten the psychological distance between parents and children.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) leaves a separate space for children.
Create a relaxed environment and leave independent space for children. The failure of achievement or practice means nothing. For children, parents should encourage and care more, blame and complain less, find out the cause of failure with children, encourage and educate him, and get up where he fell. Only by leaving children an independent space can children learn knowledge in the sea of books, learn more easily and accumulate rich knowledge. Of course, without pressure, children may lack sense of responsibility, but excessive pressure will affect their physical and mental development and study.
Every parent hopes that their children will become successful people in the country and society in the future, but there are still great disadvantages in the whole society and family education at present. We should get out of the misunderstanding of the disadvantages of family education as soon as possible and truly become children's mentor.