I think this sentence is quite right.

Since childhood, many people have been labeled with many labels, such as filial piety, understanding, cleverness and so on, which prevent us from discovering ourselves more truly.

Accustomed to the role of a woman, gentleness is incredible; Accustomed to being a well-behaved child, playing becomes sinful; Accustomed to the role of strict father, expressing love has become a luxury.

in order to get a better life, you should be good at breaking those boring and useless assumptions.

1. figure. When you become fat, you will find that the world is actually not very friendly to fat people. You will be misunderstood for no reason at all times.

2. Age. I believe that many people have experienced a saying, what to do at what age. Don't do something because of your age. Don't do something because of your age.

3. occupation. The normal state of our life will describe some habits as professional habits, professionalism and occupational diseases. We should make our profession your blessing, not our shackles. You should take off the professional mask, live the life you want, and pursue your love, live high's attitude and temperature.

4. Constellation. Many people often talk about it, and my horoscope is like this. Use a constellation to define a person, even a group of people.

Life is wonderful not because of these settings, but because of unexpected encounters in life.

So, don't live in the eyes of others, don't live in the expectations of others, and don't live in the "artificial design" that others tell you. Never let others define your life casually.

Liu Yu said: Every identity is a kind of self-kidnapping, and only loss is the way to freedom.

May you have the courage to be yourself and the freedom to be yourself.

normally speaking, people are constantly growing. Different stages have different characteristics.

Some people live a real life, and they will show different reactions in different situations. However, some people have always been like this, no matter what the situation, the state is the same. And these people are also divided into two States, one is real, and the other is to maintain their good image, which is deliberately shown, which is called artificial.

High-cold style, warm man, eating food and so on, this feature will make others think of themselves directly and increase their love for themselves. There are good and bad people. If you are yourself, you are generally willing to show good people. However, in some variety shows, the actors perform normally, but after editing and broadcasting, the audience will see many actors, and there will be different people. Some of them are edited according to the real situation, while others are deliberately done by the program group in order to highlight some good or bad characteristics of the actors. In this way, after the program is broadcast, the audience's reaction will be obvious, and they will like or dislike some actors more. In order to attract more fans, some actors have to act according to the person's design, but the real situation of the individual is not the case. If they are tired, others will look tired.

in this case, if you just like to do it yourself, it doesn't hurt others, it doesn't damage anything, and it doesn't matter. However, once this kind of person is set up on the basis of hurting others, it should never be done.

However, it is normal to live a real life, which varies with changes. There is no point in staying the same for the sake of the so-called people.

Therefore, there is some truth in the saying "Never live in a man's house".

The above is the personal opinion of Shi Qusong. If you have different opinions, please communicate and exchange!

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"set by people" is by no means "one's own wish". Since you don't want to, it must be bound and not free. How can you be happy without freedom? What is the value of your life? Although the bird is in a cage, it has rice to eat and water to drink, but it still jumps east, flies west, catches the south and bumps into the north. That is to get rid of "man-made" and get free. It understands that "the sky is high and birds can fly". The prisoner in the prison regrets tears and actively reforms, hoping to get out of there as soon as possible, because what he wants outside can only be given outside. The taste inside is very uncomfortable.

I will be happy if I go my own way; It makes sense to live your own life. Living in a "human design" will never reflect its own value. "People set" is not as good as "own desires".

"Never live in a man's house" is both right and wrong. Let's talk about the right aspect first. If people "don't live in the person's design", then many people will not develop, be excellent and move forward. If Dong Qing was a child without her parents' "personal design", how could she become a star host? How can you speak eloquently, and poetry and songs are handy? No matter on the stage of the Spring Festival Evening, the planning and implementation of the "Chinese Poetry Conference" and the popularity of the "Lang Reader" column, which place did not infect the audience with brilliant words and quotations? Most of Zeng Guofan's descendants are extraordinary people. If Zeng Guofan's letters were not given to "people", how could he develop and achieve? In the ancient family of China, if there is no "personal design" of family discipline and family rules, how can some beautiful family styles of China people be passed on, such as being dutiful, honest and kind?

a country, if there is no "man-made" (constitution, laws, etc.), wouldn't it be a mess?

Of course, if "artificial design" hinders the development of human beings, hinders the free soul of human beings, hinders the development of personal interests and hobbies, binds people's hands and feet, etc., in short, it will cause unnecessary trouble to everyone's progress. Such "artificial design" is unacceptable and should be eliminated. You can stop living in this facility at all.

Therefore, "never live in a man's house" cannot be said to be right or wrong in general.

To live in a man's room requires us to be what others think. People who wear masks can never play a masked life well. Why not be the real self behind the mask? Freedom and true self are the treasures of life.

To live is for oneself after all. One's strength is limited, but his needs are limitless. Therefore, we can never satisfy others' criticism, so it is better to be ourselves and pursue what belongs to us.

How many stars are dazzling on the screen? Although they try their best to be appreciated by everyone, they still have eyes of contempt and disgust. And how many people who are known as "Good XX in China" were eventually pulled out and beaten in the face, and the "Good XX" people were also smashed to pieces.

no one is perfect, and there is no perfection in the world, so there is no best person. It's not easy to be yourself, so why play the life in others' eyes?

Some people say, "Never live in an artificial environment". I agree with them very much. People who live in an artificial environment for a long time are often the easiest to lose their nature and forget their true self. Take a closer look at the following three points, hoping to wake you up and be yourself.

people who live in people's settings are deceiving themselves.

People set up their own characters, and sometimes they play themselves according to their roles. They always fantasize that they are the protagonist in the novel, flying over the eaves and climbing over the walls can do anything, and everyone admires them wherever they will go. So I forgot who you are in reality. You are old and young, and it is the age to struggle, but you deceive yourself here.

people who live in a person's design are all living for others to see.

I remember when I was a child, my family was originally in a bad condition. Every time I went out with my friends, I always spent a lot of money and compared with their rich people. I was always afraid that others would say that I was stingy, and I was always whitewashing my life and showing it to others. The biggest impact was to lose myself and make my originally poor life even more miserable. Finally, I realized that living a life for myself is the most comfortable.

people who live in people's settings will hate themselves in the end.

in the eyes of others, I have always been the best person to mix, and only I know best that I spend far more than I earn, always aim too high, and the outside is bright and beautiful. Sometimes I really dare not think about how to pay off so many debts, which often makes me breathless. I often hate myself why I didn't keep my feet on the ground early, and I won't get to this point ...

When I can't sleep at night, I always think that if I don't deceive myself from the beginning, I will recognize myself, do something with my feet on the ground, and work hard, it will be different now.

Now, it's time to say goodbye to my former self. For myself and my family, don't live in an artificial place any more. Try to be myself and believe in yourself. I'm sure I can.

I think it makes sense.

you should all have heard the saying that it is better to offend a gentleman than a villain. So are you a gentleman or a villain? Which of these two people do you want to choose?

in my opinion, it's not good to choose anyone. A gentleman is in danger of being offended, villain. Obviously, his virtue is not good. The best way is to live between the two, otherwise why did the ancients say that they advocated the golden mean?

I want to borrow the words of actor Kimi to answer this question. What is the human design? Personal design is something that others give you. Don't be afraid of being labeled by others. It doesn't matter. If others post more, you will find that there are many other aspects of you. After a long time, people will not think about your labels and people.

Personal design is a kind of label given to you by others, so there is no need to pay attention to it.

This personal setting is just a personal label of him/her. Everyone is an individual and a complex individual. Because of the different growth environment, they will form different personalities and have different psychological activities. Therefore, they should not be bound by a certain label or person.

"Never live in a man's house" is quite right. If you live in a man's house and are manipulated like a marionette, it seems that the scenery is infinite. In fact, you lose your freedom and your fate is in the hands of others. This is a miserable life.

I want to control my own destiny, I am the master of my life, and no one can deprive me of my freedom. This is the right given to me by law. Only when a person controls his own life can he think what he thinks and do what he wants to do, and then he can walk on the bright road, do his own career and walk out of his brilliant life.