Balzac said: "Suffering is a stepping stone for genius, a fortune for capable people, and an abyss for the weak."

How does a person do Balzac? What about turning suffering and frustration into wealth, as Zach said?

01 The higher the adversity quotient, the stronger the happiness.

There is an old saying that many people are familiar with, that is: Nine out of ten people are unhappy in life.

At first glance, this sentence makes people feel that life is miserable.

In fact, many people don’t know that only 10% of the negative impact of these unsatisfactory things on people is beyond your control and unavoidable, and 90% of it is caused by yourself.

For example, there is a person, let’s call him so-and-so.

After getting up in the morning, he took off his high-end watch in the bathroom and placed it next to the sink. When the wife saw it, she was afraid that the watch would be splashed with water, so she took it and put it on the dining table. At this time, my son came over for breakfast. When he was taking bread from the dining table, he accidentally touched his watch. The watch fell to the ground and broke.

Someone spanked his son without asking any questions, and even blamed his wife. The wife felt aggrieved and explained that she was afraid that the water would get her watch wet. So-and-so said she was superfluous because the watch was waterproof. As a result, the two started to quarrel.

So-and-so was so angry that he didn't eat breakfast, so he went to work in the company. Halfway through, he remembered that he forgot to take his briefcase, so he turned around and went home. When he got home, he couldn't get in. His keys were left in his briefcase. His wife and son were not at home. Those who went to work went to work, and those who went to school went to school. He had no choice but to call his wife to come back.

On the way home in a hurry, my wife accidentally knocked over a fruit stall on the roadside. The stall owner grabbed her and asked her to pay compensation. She had to pay some money before walking away. When so-and-so waited for his wife to open the door and get his briefcase before rushing to work, he was already 15 minutes late and was scolded by his boss. As a result, his mood became very bad throughout the day, and he couldn't control his temper before leaving get off work. He had another quarrel with his colleagues over a trivial matter.

His wife also had her perfect attendance bonus deducted for leaving early. His son participated in a baseball game that day and was expected to win the championship. However, he was eliminated in the first inning because he was in a bad mood and performed poorly.

In this case, the broken watch is 10% of the time. The next series of things is the other 90%. It was all because the parties concerned did not control the 90% well, which led to this day becoming a "disturbing day".

If we had a different way of dealing with it:

If someone had a different reaction after the 10% problem, that is, the "broken watch incident", he comforted his son and said "It doesn't matter, son, it's okay if the watch is broken. I'll just take it and fix it." In this way, the son will not be unhappy, his wife will not be unhappy, and his own mood will not become bad, so what happens next Everything, that is, 90% of the problems will not happen.

It can be seen that although you cannot control the first 10%, you can completely determine the remaining 90% through your mentality and behavior.

Experts call this mentality and behavior, that is, the ability to deal with and control unsatisfactory things in our lives and careers, "reverse quotient."

However, the above ability to control the negative impact of unsatisfactory events is only one of the adverse quotients.

We should realize that the high or low level of adversity quotient determines whether your life is unsatisfactory by 10% or 90%.

02 The higher the adverse quotient, the greater the chance of success

In the past, most people believed in intelligence quotient (IQ) and emotional intelligence (EQ).

Some outstanding people have high IQ and EQ, but when they encounter setbacks, difficulties and other adversities, they often cannot bear it. They either behave erratically, perform abnormally, and make repeated mistakes; or they give up easily. , give up the goal.

Therefore, EQ and IQ are the cornerstones of a person's success, while reverse quotient determines a person's pattern and height in life.

American management scholar Paul Stotts proposed the concept of adverse business.

Adversity Quotient (AQ) comes from the English Adversity Quotient, the full name is "Adversity Quotient", and is also translated as frustration quotient or adversity quotient. It refers to the way people respond when faced with adversity, that is, their ability to face setbacks, get out of trouble, and overcome difficulties.

The level of adverse quotient affects people's study, work, life, health and many other aspects.

People with low IQ will try their best to do things, and after struggling for a while, they will give up; or when they are in trouble, they will be afraid, go around the problem, and do nothing in their life.

People with high adversity quotient, face adversity, work hard, persevere, fully mobilize their abilities and potential to cope with difficult situations, and ultimately achieve great results.

There is a line in the American TV series "This is us" that says well: You have to learn how to turn the most sour lemon that life has given you into a cup of sweet lemon juice.

People with higher adversity quotient have a greater chance of success and a stronger sense of happiness.

03What is the measure of a person’s success?

The measure of a person's success is not how high he reaches the top, but how hard he bounces back when he hits the bottom.

The above sentence is a famous saying by the famous American General Patton during World War II.

Because no one’s life is smooth sailing.

Real winners or long-term winners all have what Barton calls resilience and high adversity quotient. They all fight against repeated defeats and become more courageous with every setback.

There is such a young man.

When he was a teenager, he failed in key junior high schools and key high schools. Later, I failed the college entrance examination three times.

When he graduated from high school, he wanted to find a job as a waiter in a fast food restaurant because he failed to enter college. Among 24 applicants, 23 were accepted, and he was the only one who was not hired.

After graduating from college, he opened a foreign language training class. The first training class enrolled 20 people. Three years later, the training class still had 20 people. The training class failed.

In 1992, he established a translation agency. In order to survive, he carried a large sack to various places to purchase goods. He began to sell flowers and gifts. He also sold medicine for a year and promoted products. From big hospitals to barefoot doctors. By 1994, the translation agency's revenue was flat. This is also considered a failure.

In March 1995, inspired by the introduction of the American Internet by Bill, a foreign teacher from Seattle, this young man took out six to seven thousand yuan himself and borrowed more than ten thousand from his sister and brother-in-law, making up 2 Wan Yuan founded an Internet business company. Because the business was difficult to do, we had to close down.

In 1997, he decided to develop at the China International E-Commerce Center (EDI) of the Ministry of Foreign Trade and Economic Cooperation in Beijing. Later, he did not do well and left EDI.

Please think about it, if it were you and you failed to start 4 companies, what would you do? How would you see yourself? Some people will think that I am not born to do this, so they give up completely.

But what this young man thinks is that the previous failure is to lay the foundation for a big company in the future. He looked at Chang'an Street and said, in a few years, Beijing won't treat me like this, and you all will know who I am.

Today, the whole world knows who he is. He is Jack Ma.

In March 1999, Jack Ma decided to continue to work hard in the Internet field and opened a new B2B company, then called Alibaba.com.

The emperor has paid off, and Jack Ma has finally waited for the development of the Internet. In 1999, Alibaba received a capital injection from Goldman Sachs, and in 2000 it received investment from SoftBank. Later, it discovered the great opportunity of C2C. The company embarked on a path of rapid expansion and grew into the largest e-commerce empire in China today.

04 12 Strategies to Improve Adversity Quotient

This is an era of adversity quotient.

Balzac said: "Suffering is a stepping stone for genius, a fortune for capable people, and an abyss for the weak.

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How can a person turn suffering and frustration into wealth as Balzac said?

Here is a summary of 12 main strategies for improving adverse quotient: < /p>

1. Maintain a sense of hold

In 25 AD, Liu Xiu revolted in his hometown. He was defeated and fell into trouble. At night, Liu Xiu decided to visit the barracks to encourage him. Morale.

He walked around several tents and felt that the situation was not good. Many soldiers had low morale, some were writing letters home sadly, and some were drunk.

He walked through most of the camp and stood in front of a tent. His eyes lit up and he saw a soldier sitting inside. The soldier was whistling and wiping his weapons and armor vigorously, with a quiet expression. , as if preparing for the next battle.

Liu Xiu asked the people around him what his name was, and he remembered it in his mind. He said to his followers: "This man is a talented person. ! ”

Later Liu Xiu became Emperor Guangwu, and this young man became the general of the Eastern Han Dynasty. His name was Wu Han.

People who can do great things have the ability to survive in various adverse situations. A positive attitude that can stabilize everything and deal with everything calmly. This is the ability to control the surrounding environment with faith.

When facing adversity, people with a weak sense of hold will only think that they are powerless and accept the situation; People with a strong sense of hold believe that there must be a way for man to defeat nature.

Napoleon has repeatedly achieved successes with less and won the reputation of "the victorious general". His famous saying is: My Dictionary. Nothing is impossible.

2. Don’t feel inferior or complain, and look at frustration objectively.

There are two most important attitudes when facing frustration:

One One is low self-esteem, blaming one's own mistakes, incompetence, or fatalism. Excessive self-blame, depression, self-pity, and self-abasement.

The other is blaming others, organizational units, and society, or all the blame. The external time is immature and the outside world is force majeure.

People with high adversity quotient are often able to objectively recognize the causes of adversity and are willing to take responsibility.

3. Minimize the negative impact

The example mentioned at the beginning of the article involves this ability

People with high adversity will not lose their temper if they encounter setbacks. Losing one's temper will not cause anger to others, nor will it aggravate conflicts.

People with high adversity quotient can limit the negative impact of adversity within a certain range.

4. Believe that the darkness will not last long

In the face of certain setbacks and difficulties, do not think that adversity will last for a long time, do not despair, and do not think that there is no future.

5. Don’t. Being frustrated for a long time

In unfair or unfavorable situations, you must be able to take effective actions in a timely manner and get up again where you fell.

The famous Japanese entrepreneur Konosuke Matsushita, He has a famous saying: He who falls down is only half a person, but he who stands up and moves forward is a complete person.

Either change the situation, compromise happily, or give up. >

Complaining blindly and not taking action will lead to long-term grievances, which may cause mistakes in the slightest and shorten your life in the worst case.

6. Clear your negative assets and discover your own advantages

There was once a person. The boss who was heavily in debt came to me for advice on how to reduce his debt. At this time, he had lost confidence in development due to being overwhelmed.

I guided him to change. Thinking, psychologically clear negative assets, adjust the focus of thinking from debt to development, and solve problems in development.

The boss was inspired by this. After a night of thinking, he suddenly realized that he had many practical and potential advantages. After several years of hard work, the company has not only achieved rapid development, but also paid off its previous debts through development.

7. Cultivate and maintain a passionate expertise

Cultivating and maintaining a passionate expertise is a lasting source of a person's confidence, optimism, and strength.

8. Face setbacks rationally

When encountering difficulties, the first is to transcend emotions, observe and analyze the reasons calmly; the second is to find a way to record the difficulties; the third is to vent negative emotions appropriately mood.

9. Accept imperfections in yourself, life, and career.

On the one hand, you must strive for perfection, and on the other hand, you must accept imperfections in yourself. Otherwise, there will be a lot of frustration and trouble.

10. Never give up easily and fight against repeated defeats

As we all know, Wang Yangming is a master of mind science and has a high adversity quotient.

When he took the imperial examination, he failed. Most people would feel pessimistic when encountering this situation. But Wang Yangming said: "The world is ashamed of landing, but I am ashamed of falling in love." What this means is that failure is not shameful, only failure that shakes the inner goal is shameful.

Churchill said: There is no secret to success. If there is one, there are two:

The first is to persist to the end and never give up;

The second one is when you want to give up, look back at the first tip.

11. Leave the comfort zone and accumulate small wins into big wins

Everyone has a natural tendency not to leave the comfort zone and seek hardship.

One of the ways to drive a person out of his comfort zone to strive and be enthusiastic is to make it easier, turning long-term goals into easier short-term goals. Then the rapid realization of these small goals will Ignite your fighting spirit and enthusiasm to continue fighting. And, accumulate small wins into big wins.

12. Establish a vision and always embrace hope

Exciting and ambitious goals are not only the internal driving force to challenge difficulties and fight against repeated defeats, but also make the heart full of light for a long time. , a magic weapon to expel psychological shadows in adversity.

Author: Dongfang Ying