Chen Guo, female, born in Shanghai in February 1981, is a party member. PhD from the Department of Philosophy, Fudan University, and visiting scholar at Regent College, UBC University, Vancouver, Canada. The following are Chen Guo’s classic quotations that I compiled. Welcome to read.
1. Noble and true emotions are the only foundation of friends and the foundation of everything. Friendships can be destroyed by hypocrisy and pretense.
2. Social networking is very cheap, valuable but not high.
3. Those who are willing to be lonely: love ideas and love reading - always full of interest, the breadth of creative thoughts can bring happiness. Lasting loneliness makes the communication between thinkers smoother.
4. It doesn’t matter if real friends don’t have regular contact with each other. After two or three years, the person on the other end of the phone seems to have never left. So-called "friendships" that require frequent contact to maintain are not reliable, because they will be broken once there is no contact.
5. Love yourself based on the equality of human nature. "Self-love": Recognition of one's own character and development is the basis for caring for others. Only when you know what is good for yourself can you know what is good for others. Everyone is equal, including me.
6. Loneliness is a prison without comfort. Because lonely people are at a loss and restless. Their thoughts are therefore barren and desolate, creating a sense of self-loathing.
7. This is lucky. Thinkers are lonely in spirit. Lonely people are extremely rich and interesting and have the most honest and reliable friends. Thoughts arise from loneliness.
8. The tradition of gratitude. Be grateful for everything, every little kindness around you. Gratitude is not just a "thank you".
9. There are two types of treatment for people. One is that interests require building connections, which is just mutual benefit; the other is that lonely people warm each other up, which is cheap communication.
10. A real farewell should have more space for commemoration, remembrance, and aftertaste. Rather than noise, drunkenness—violence of words, violence of deeds.
11. Lonely people need social interaction.
12. Carnival is the loneliness of a group of people, and loneliness is the carnival of one person.
13. Show courage when reflecting on yourself. Self-reflection is the source of all thoughts.
14. Many things can be seen clearly with time. Either go further and further away, or go closer and closer.
15. When I can’t see everyone, I have a spiritual gaze on them. This gaze is called missing.
16. Friends are not drinking buddies, playmates, comforters when lonely, spiritual refuges, or connections established for any utilitarian reasons. Those who get together are often not friends, but lonely people.
17. Caring heart: The true motivation of caring is deep in the heart. It is the most unwise behavior to waste one's time out of conscience and happiness.
18. A woman uses her life's hard work and her best youth to maintain a promise. Her vanity is understandable. Any words that are said too much are cheap.
19. Loneliness is our destiny, but it is by no means a bad thing. When we cannot change our destiny, accept it resignedly and respectfully.
20. Friends help each other understand themselves and each other better. When we understand a friend's true nature, we must do our best to care for, defend, and protect him. But this kind of protection does not require anything in return, or even any response.
21. If you regard your friends as backup boyfriends and girlfriends, then you will insult friendship and love.
22. Loneliness is the most primitive and authentic state. After a person leaves the mother's body, he is never physically with anyone again.
23. Friends will not cancel loneliness, but teach you how to accept loneliness better, so that you will no longer feel cold when you are alone, because you have the presence of friends and the tacit understanding of spirit. feel. The loneliness at this time is a tender state, fulfilling and beautiful.
24. Lonely people also like to meditate and talk with nature, and communicate with thoughts and souls. The soul is permeable, and the fun of lonely people is real and interesting. Catering and imitation will only be boring gossip, compliments, and fun. There’s just affectation in the process.
25. I cannot bear to let my friends take on some utilitarian purposes and bring trouble to them when it is not necessary for my personal reasons.
26. Truth is the highest nobility, and beauty can only be divided into true and false. “Treat truth as beauty.”
27. Tolerance: Before tolerating others, you must also tolerate yourself and forgive yourself for things you should have done but failed to do. Tolerate your own destiny and life.
28. Only those who have a lonely self-awareness and reflect on themselves can have precious friends.
29. "Harmony, Respect and Silence" - The spirit of the Japanese tea ceremony is in harmony with the environment, showing proper respect without affecting one's own tranquility and silence.
30. How can a superficial and short communication lead to a deep understanding and knowing that you are only of great value?
31. If you say "I'm sorry" too much, you won't be sorry. A true "I'm sorry" is very heavy, not only to the person you have hurt, but also to your own conscience and morality.
32. Romance is not hypocrisy or utopia, but a rare, beautiful, sublime and even sacred emotion.
33. Make friends because you love them. If you love him, don't create trouble for him, and don't let him worry too much about you.
34. The accumulation of lonely people cannot reduce loneliness, and a group of lonely people cannot escape loneliness - a meaningless thing repeated countless times is still meaningless.
35. He is lonelier than fireworks. Fireworks bloom invisible and disappear into nothingness. There is a brief release, followed by boundless loneliness.
36. What is loneliness? Loneliness is a disease and a spiritual hunger. Since it is a disease, it needs treatment. How do lonely people find healing? The method is the crowd. Lonely people always need the company of others.
37. This belief: Helping others is the basis of happiness, and caring is to confirm the richness of the world deep in my heart. Be grateful when accepting help from others. It is normal not to help you. Helping you is a kind of self-dedication deep in his heart, which is worth remembering.
38. People often lack foresight. Just pursue endless goals in the distance. People are extremely cruel and callous to those close to them. Taken for granted.
39. The love between an old couple is like air. It does not require verbal communication, but it is important and irreplaceable.
40. Ask yourself: Why do you care about others? In what way? Just a dedication of self-love.
41. People are the most cruel to those closest to them, because they are too close and often cannot see every advantage of the other person.
42. You don’t need to explain. I know you well enough so I won’t doubt you. Therefore, a fair amount of skepticism is required before becoming friends.
43. Being with friends is also a kind of loneliness. But this kind of loneliness is more beautiful, and it will be more comfortable than when you are alone. Because true friends are completely defenseless.
44. Loneliness does not seek external things, but seeks others.
45. Loneliness is not a pretense, loneliness is a state of mind. Silence is not necessarily loneliness. Loneliness has no form. It is the spiritual self-wandering of the lonely person. Pretending to be impetuous is a kind of vanity, just to attract attention.
46. Friends are not just vassals, they don’t just agree and compromise. In reality, friends need to discuss each other and discuss each other carefully.
47. Loneliness has no form. Loneliness is not about deliberately training yourself to have a certain thought or temperament.
48. Take care of yourself first, then care for others. God helps those who help themselves to be perfectly happy and level the bowl of water themselves.
49. Keep distance between people, distance creates beauty. The closer we get, the more flaws we will see in each other. If two stones are thrown into the water, if they are too close together, the water waves will interfere with each other.
50. Repent and face reality. If you are wrong, you are wrong. Don’t explain it. Repent, but don’t overdo it.