Yesterday was the first day of the 20 1 1 college entrance examination. On this day, a college student was punished-with the approval of the people's court, Yao Jiaxin, the murderer of intentional homicide, was executed according to law in Xi 'an, Shaanxi. Love Lenovo ridicule, this is "China justice to China education severely slap". Yao Jiaxin's case has been in trouble for several months, and public opinion is boiling, which is wrapped in judicial justice, educational prejudice, cyber violence and other issues, and a big discussion is launched. When all the dust settles, it is necessary for us to reflect on where Yao Jiaxin's case should alert the society.

A car accident, two lives, even if this is a fair trial, there are lingering sadness in my heart. In order to prevent the next Yao Jiaxin, we should correct the "educational disease" in time.

Analyze this problem and restore the growth process of Yao Jiaxin. Yao Jiaxin's father is a soldier. When I was a child, I was too strict with him. I beat him and once locked him in the basement. It was dark and cold. This strict education has made Yao Jiaxin's excellent achievements. He plays the piano very well and is regarded as a good boy by everyone. But at the same time, he "often scolds his father behind his back." What Yao Jiaxin can't accept most is his father's irony: "You are so ugly that no one will like you." The relationship between father and son is very tense. Yao Jiaxin once sighed to a friend, "Maybe I'm a little twisted."

According to the viewpoint of pedagogy, there are several prominent "educational diseases".

First, parents attach too much importance to "skill worship" and their awareness of psychological development is too weak. Parents do not hesitate to take an arbitrary approach, making Yao Jiaxin "very motivated" in a high-pressure environment and having an extraordinary instinctive fear of his father. It is this kind of "fear" that makes Yao Jiaxin suffer too much psychological harm, psychological fear and insecurity, and has to make compromises to protect himself, and the inner revenge factors are also accumulating, forming an extremely paranoid temperament, which also lays the foundation for the subsequent car accident-the outbreak of the subconscious mind in a tense environment.

Psychological development is still a new topic for parents in China. Most parents lack sincere respect for their children's psychological needs, and their awareness of psychological development is weakened.

Yao Jiaxin's death reminds us that parents should learn some psychological knowledge, promote their children's emotional respect and psychological development to an important position, learn more psychological knowledge and adjustment methods, scientifically control their emotions and release their pressure. This is also the source of happiness that children need most to grow up.

Second, too much emphasis on competition and educational power, forgetting that parent-child relationship is a partnership. Let Yao Jiaxin practice the piano desperately, blindly suppress the children's voices, lack equal communication, completely ignore his self-will and personality development needs, and euphemistically call "love" the "harm" of ignorance, which eventually ruined the children's life. As experts say: "It is his parents' education that leads to Yao Jiaxin's violent behavior"; It was parents' rudeness and self-righteousness that sent Yao Jiaxin to a dead end. ""Those' strong parents' who don't understand education, have certain defects in their own personality, are self-righteous and rudely manage their children are destructive. They are hotbeds of criminals. "

At present, this trend is still very prosperous. Almost all parents ask their children not to lose at the starting line. The competition began at the age of 0, and they participated in various interest classes such as prenatal education and early education. As long as the children are disobedient, what they get is high-pressure taming, forced suppression, cynicism and so on. The philosopher Nietzsche said: "Competition produces dissatisfaction with oneself. Anyone who is dissatisfied with himself is always ready to take revenge. " Children have no chance to grow up freely, choose freely and be respected, and have accumulated many educational and psychological problems. Nowadays, many children have varying degrees of powerlessness, inferiority complex, sub-health or psychological barriers, which are closely related to this excessive competition and educational power.

Yao Jiaxin's death reminds us that as parents, we should consult our children's ideas on every small matter, fully respect their children and respect their personality, instead of forcing their children to do it and being rude and offside. As Bernard Shaw said, "I'm not your teacher, I'm just a partner. You ask me the way, and I'll show us the front. " I have reached a happy parent-child relationship with my children. The two sides have equal relations and harmonious feelings. What's wrong with children?