This is a famous and misunderstood sentence: "self-denial is benevolence." Self-denial is a reward for one day, and the world returns to benevolence "(Yan Yuan) can be said to be the outline of Confucius' thought, which involves courtesy and benevolence, and" self-denial "is the practical requirement of benevolence.
There have always been two different interpretations of self-denial, one is victory and the other is ability and talent. Judging from the relevant expositions in The Analects of Confucius, it seems that it is more in line with Confucius' original intention to interpret "gram" as "restraint".
In fact, Confucius himself has a set of expositions on "self-denial". In his view, one way of "self-denial" is "consent", that is, restraint.
"Liren" said: "It is rare to stand up." Zhu's note: Xie said, "I said I was free.
Yin Shi said: Nothing is rarely lost, not just thrift. "That is to say, if you can restrain yourself and don't indulge yourself, you can make fewer mistakes.
He also said: "a gentleman is knowledgeable in literature, and he can meet with courtesy or be a husband!" " Zhu note: "a gentleman wants to learn what he knows, so he can test everything in the text;" Keep what you want, so you must be polite. In this way, you can not violate the Tao.
Cheng Zi said, "If you are knowledgeable in writing and don't make an appointment politely, you will be sweating like a pig. Those who are knowledgeable can leave gifts, but because of the rules, they can also cross the road. "
(Yan Yuan) Yan Yuan said: "The master is tempting, I am rich in literary talent, and I am polite." (Zi Han) Zhu's Note: "Afterlife" says, "I want to learn things by writing.
Ask me for a gift, and self-denial is also a gift. "It can be seen that Confucius talked from the opposite of learning and courtesy, learning to know and offering gifts.
"reciprocity" and "self-denial" are the same meaning. All refer to using politeness to restrain and restrain one's thoughts and behaviors.
Things don't have to be big or small, but you can also discipline yourself at the same time. You should cherish your hard-won efforts and gradually feel that you are an excellent person, so that you can show your charm between your usual gestures.
2. Writing on the topic of flexion and extension As the saying goes, "a gentleman can bend and stretch", "being able to bend" is not cowardice, but a long-term strategy, in order to "stretch" further. Only when the fist is backward can it be played more forcefully. Gou Jian, the King of Yue, tried his best and finally defeated the State of Wu.
Learn to give up, don't insist, it will only kill your will and eventually lose yourself. Persistence and persistence can only make unnecessary sacrifices, which is a kind of stupidity and delusion of fools. Kong Ming's brilliance comes from the mountains. Ollila made Nokia give up TV manufacturing, machinery and other industries and focus on telecommunications and mobile phone services, which has its own secrets. It's nice to hold the last card in your hand, but it depends on whether your face is full of tears or a smile.
Learn to give up. What you should never give up is the dignity of your personality and the essence of being a man. Abandoning the splendor, Wen Tianxiang wrote the words "Who has never died in life since ancient times, leaving Dan Xin as a history book"; Giving up cowardice, Wen Yiduo had the feat of standing up to the enemy's gun and making his last speech righteously; Giving up American flour, Zhu Ziqing explained the backbone of a China man with death. If you choose to give up correctly, you will have more gains and greater pride!
Learn to give up, giving up is a sobering agent. Let you calm down and reflect, and make your mind clearer. Do everything according to your ability. You can't use your hands, reach for the sky. Learn to give up, giving up is a new starting point.
Find your place, and you will glow with the beauty you deserve. With a fresh mind, you can seriously conceive your future, and you will certainly achieve your goal.
Learn to give up, giving up is a kind of wisdom and beauty. If you know how to give up, you will know how to have and cherish.
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3. Combine rigidity with softness, and make progress by retreating-after reading The Romance of the Three Kingdoms, people will think of The Romance of the Three Kingdoms, one of Four Great Classical Novels's works.
This book continues the rise and fall of three dynasties: at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, the dynasty was defeated and the Yellow Scarf Army rose everywhere. After years of fighting, Cao Cao, who suppressed the Yellow Scarf Army, gradually unified the north.
Cao Cao sent his troops south again, ready to take the opportunity to unify the whole country. Battle of Red Cliffs and Cao Cao were defeated by Sun Quan and Liu Bei.
Formed the trend of Wei, Shu and Wu. Soon, Sun Quan killed Liu Bei's righteous brother Guan Yu and took Jingzhou.
In order to get revenge, Liu Bei led an army to attack Wu, and he was defeated. After Liu Bei's death, Zhuge Liang, the Prime Minister, assisted Liu Chan in administering Shu.
Zhuge Liang conquered the barbarians in the south and adopted the policy of uniting with Wu to resist Wei. He sent troops to Qishan to attack Wei six times and failed. Zhuge Liang finally died in the army. Soon, Sima mastered the regime of Wei, destroyed Shu and Wu successively, established the Western Jin Dynasty, and unified the whole country.
The Romance of the Three Kingdoms has also created many flesh-and-blood heroes, such as Guan Yu, Cao Cao and Liu Bei, who are loyal and brave ... Among them, Zhuge Liang, who has both ability and political integrity, is what I admire most. Zhuge Liang is resourceful and a talented strategist. His great wisdom and courage are fully demonstrated by his "borrowing an arrow from a straw boat", "empty city stratagem" and "capturing Meng Huo seven times".
He knows himself and himself, uses his troops boldly and decisively, and is good at discovering the enemy's weaknesses and taking him by surprise. He is also an outstanding politician and writer.
He is said to be a politician because he is "in the middle of nowhere" and knows a little about the world, so that Liu Bei can have a foothold. His strategy of "uniting Wu to attack Wei" made Shu soldiers win successively. He used the policy of "appeasing people's livelihood" to make Shu stronger step by step. He said that he was an outstanding writer, because his "Example" moved people to tears and became a masterpiece that has been passed down through the ages.
Some people say that this novel focuses on Shu Han, but in the end, Shu Han played a white flag, which is not a powerful story. What's the art? We didn't see what we wanted to see, but this is a kind of "shredding art", and its tragic ending is more intriguing than the happy ending. Isn't it? The Romance of the Three Kingdoms tells us not to "lose big because of small".
In the book, Liu Bei killed his second and third brothers in Dongwu, and led 750,000 troops to attack Dongwu. As a result, Lu Xun burned the camp and left none. That battle was related to the fate of Shu: 750,000 troops were killed in one breath.
What a pity! Originally, Shu was rich in grain and grass, with many soldiers. There were five tigers in martial arts and "Wolong" and "Feng Chu" in literature, but it began to decline after the First World War. Be flexible, which should prove the authenticity of the text "Mysteries in the Valley" that we have learned.
Liu Bei lost more brothers for the death of his second brother and third brother, which is really not worth it. Be flexible and careful, or you will lose a lot.
4. Write a composition on the topic of flexion and extension (13). Chen Funi, a senior two, has more than 800 words, including towering fir trees, fragrant wildflowers, tall and short, green and red, and endless; In the sea, there are sails braving the wind and waves, wooden boats waiting for the sunset, moving and quiet, big and small, showing the beauty of tranquility and comfort; There are laymen who yearn for peace and people with lofty ideals who yearn for loyalty to the country. They come and go, hiding and hiding, and each has its own merits. They are like gears, pushing the progress of history. Under the moon, there are small leaves floating in the handsome willow pond in Gaoping, and the ground is full of fine wheat and light flowers. He found a harbor to rely on and stayed on a poetic picture. Once upon a time, his ambition to fight was dim; Once upon a time, his sharp eyes were old; Once upon a time, his lofty aspirations have been lowered. So, all that remains is the moon, the shadow and myself. "Until, raise a glass, I ask the bright moon, and the three of us drink together", only Du Kang can understand Li Bai's mood at this time, and only the moon shadow can understand Li Bai's mind. Drunk, intoxicating. Being drunk is a temporary relief; What is intoxicating is helpless frustration. He was drunk, drunk in chaotic and complicated times, drunk in the dusk without seagulls. Li Bai left the officialdom and chose to fly freely. In his mind, "oh, how can I bow and scrape to those who have high status and important positions?" They will never be seen with a sincere face. " Is a great misfortune in life. Yue Fei, who went to the battlefield, sat in the barracks, seemingly interested in his heart, but difficult to express. He is melancholy, he is urgent, and he has mixed feelings. Back? That night, illuminated by twelve gold medals, the soldiers were sad and the people cried, but he could not be an enemy of a loyal monarch and continue his great cause. He can only move back to North Korea with a wave of his heart. Once the anti-Japanese war was vigorous, once the battlefield was full of smoke, but only for twelve gold medals, the road ahead was cut off. Yue Fei was speechless. He went back. He can't let go of his country. In his mind, he can only sing the solemn and stirring "Man Jiang Hong" forever, and he chose a road of loyalty to serve the country. The same environment, different people, no matter how we choose, let us feel different feelings after the Millennium. Just like Korean pine and cedar, one chooses to be thick and tall, and the other chooses branches as small as autumn, but they all embody different will and different beauty. Years and a half, big or small, good or bad, as long as they match, they can keep turning, just like Li Bai and Yue Fei advance history together, and Korean pine and cedar decorate the world together. [Comment]: This paper can grasp the original question, comprehensively and reasonably understand the meaning of the question, turn it into an accurate expression, and make the main idea clear with two typical materials. Structurally, it can echo and connect with each other. There is not much reasoning, but there is in the text. Attached excellent composition 2: Tolerance is a virtue (13) Yue Yuanyuan French writer Hugo once said: "The sky is wider than the sea; What is broader than the sky is our mind. " -Inscription Tolerance is not cowardice, but an invisible force, a hoarding force and a silent manner. There is a "six-foot lane" in Tongcheng, Anhui Province, which was once the place where Zhang and Ye disputed. The master of the Zhang family is the prime minister of the dynasty, and Mrs. Zhang wrote to him. The Prime Minister replied, "A letter thousands of miles away is just a wall. Why not let him go three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but there is no Qin Shihuang. "The Zhang family made him three feet, and the Ye family was deeply ashamed. They gave up three feet and became a' six-foot lane'. The prime minister can endure, regardless of face, and be generous to others. He really proved that "the prime minister can hold a boat in his stomach." It is this tolerance that has stopped the chaos and promoted the eternal reputation. I have to sigh: tolerance is a virtue. Isn't Lin Zexu's "All rivers run into the sea with great tolerance" a grand tolerance? He tolerated others' different views, but his tolerance benefited him a lot and made him a real hero. He can tolerate a hundred rivers, but he can never tolerate opium smoke polluting the land of China. His tolerance is a hoarding force and a noble and upright spirit of defending the country. Tolerance is not cowardice. In a big forest, two trees stand side by side. When winter came, the leaves on a tree began to wither, the tree slowly curled up and the snowflakes began to swirl. Another tree shook its branches and proudly said to its neighbors, "What are you afraid of in winter? I am all green, no matter how strong the wind is or how thick the snow is, I can't give in. " He has been standing stubbornly, the snow is getting bigger and bigger, and the world is white ... In spring, flowers and trees open their eyes and spit out new green leaves. They looked around and found that the proud tree was dead, and several yellow leaves were stubbornly attached to it, unwilling to leave. Spring breeze spoke: "Tree, stubborn tree, why do you need it?" There will be obstacles in life, but not all obstacles you have to fight against. "It's hard to tolerate? Einstein told us that only by tolerating others can we tolerate the provocation of fate and seize the opportunity to overcome fate. Why not tolerate it? If you are tolerant, the stubborn tree can continue to embrace the leaves; If you are tolerant, the Korean pine on Quebec Mountain in Canada can continue to show infinite vitality. Yes, forbearance is a fire that burns the wound of misunderstanding; Tolerance is water, which dilutes the salt of pain; Tolerance is light, melting the hard ice of hatred; Patience is electricity, which is connected to the isolated edge. Tolerance is a virtue, showing the wisdom of "taking a step back and broadening the horizon"; She embodies the generosity of "adult beauty". Sometimes, when you turn around, it is possible to "turn decay into magic." Sometimes, if you change your way of thinking, it is possible to "turn war into friendship." "The spirit of all things-human, why can't you tolerate it? Tolerance is a virtue. She is the immortal light that guides us to a bright future.
There are two articles.
The real strong can bend and stretch, the composition tree is straight and easy to fold, people are straight and easy to lose, and the twists and turns are moderate, which is the strong in life.
Why can't the strong wind in late autumn blow weeds? Because weeds know how to bend and stretch, they can't afford it, so they can avoid it, bend and bend, and bend their heads, in exchange for long-term high spirits and straightness. Why, can we conquer the highest mountain? Because we know how to walk in twists and turns, twists and turns seem to be retrogressive, but in fact they are appropriate and flexible in progress. Perseverance in order to achieve our goals, our chances of success are much greater than bravely taking risks.
Why did you bend your knees at first? Because bending your knees is the accumulation of strength, where can you borrow money without bending your knees? Going straight can only hit a wall. Bending is to straighten out, bending is to achieve the goal, the last straw, the perfect expedient is not cowardice, escape, blindly bending, and will not bend to death, because he is moderate.
The same is true of being a man. The journey of life is not all straight, there are mountains and rivers. If you don't make a detour, you will eventually have a ditch that you can't cross, and you will know how to bend and stretch. Even the road of thorns is smooth. You should know how to be flexible and flexible. When you encounter something that you can't reach directly, you should change the way of twists and turns, step by step, or retreat for progress. Perhaps, it is better to give up here and gain there.
Bend and stretch in the same way as others. You can't just ask others to listen to you, and don't just listen to others. If you directly refute or order, you will only screw things up. It's better to be tactful. Both sides should take a step back and think about this problem. Perhaps it is easier for both sides to reach a tacit understanding. Being able to stretch and bend, like grass, is not to compete with the load, but to bend. What you get is to reduce the burden, relax your body and mind, and better grow up straight.
Being able to bend and stretch is like walking. Our legs are stiff and we are doomed to walk not far. Being able to bend and stretch is as fast as flying. Being able to bend and stretch, just like a fish swimming, its own energy is limited after all. Flexion and extension can also achieve their own goals with the help of external energy, and can also avoid each other's attacks.
Being able to bend and stretch is like writing calligraphy. If there are no twists and turns, there are only straight lines. If there is no circle, only corners, there will be no profound meaning and beauty. Moderation, promotion, and artistic conception. Keep your head down and bend over. You can't say that you will be humiliated for life. Bending straight is a kind of wisdom, and flexibility is a kind of tenacity.
Resilience is forbearance, for a bigger goal. Han Xin, as a gentleman, can tolerate "the humiliation of his legs", so "a gentleman can tolerate what the world can't tolerate, so he can do what the world can't." Flexibility and adaptability are very strong. In order to make a big impact, Gou Jian is a gentleman. So "as long as you work hard, you can swallow Wu."
Resilience is wisdom. Xie An's seclusion "comeback", comeback, frustration, patience and success can also be a model of a gentleman's resilience. Therefore, the husband's ambition is flexible.
To be a man, it is good to be flexible, not too rigid.
6. It is a kind of wisdom to bend your head to 500 words. Cedar knows how to bow its head and can build green hills; Seagulls know how to bow their heads and can withstand the impact of storms.
The so-called "a gentleman can bend and stretch", only by learning to bow his head and know how to bend and stretch, will there always be surprises in life. Attacked on all sides, when the cold sword crossed Yu Ji's white neck, leaving only a touch of bright red, you knew how to sing the helplessness of "pulling the mountain to suffocate the world, but it was unfavorable and embarrassing"; You just scream at the sky, "This day will kill me. This is not a war."
In the face of the rolling Wujiang River, why did the former brave Chu overlord end up like this now? Although Li Qingzhao praised you for "being born a hero and dying a hero", do you know that "a strategist's plan is unexpected, and winning or losing is a human being?" Do you know that there are many talented people in Jiangdong, and it is unknown to make a comeback? Even if your decision is based on reviewing the past, defending dignity and confronting shame, if you understand that bowing your head is a kind of wisdom, use your talent and courage to cross the Wujiang River and make a comeback, history may be rewritten. At that time, the world was a competitive stage. You always refuse to smooth out your prominent edges and corners, and you will never have Liu Bang's agility of "meeting late, meeting late".
You are a mountain, a mountain that never bends down. This character determines that you can't have surprises that can save you from adversity. Through the time and space of history, we understand the unique scenery here and appreciate the hymn left by this great man.
When you have endured the double tribulations of pain and shame, when you wander alone in the dark tunnel with jagged teeth, when you struggle to cross the river of death, you burn humiliation with passionate beliefs, ignite your soul, and then embark on a road of forbearance. In the painful torture of "Every time I think of shame, I sweat and go away with my clothes on", I wrote the melancholy of the doctor singing on the riverbank, Jing Ke's dagger shining with cold light, the cruel officials dormant in their hearts with snakes and scorpions, the blood dripping from the waving of the banner of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, and the sad song of the hero's end.
It is for the eternal belief-to study the relationship between man and nature, change the past and present, and become a family statement.
You drag out an ignoble existence, and your flexibility has made great works in the history of China. You know that bowing your head is a kind of wisdom, a kind of wisdom to survive in desperation, and a kind of wisdom to truly realize your own value in desperation. Life is like a flood, warm and smart.
Know how to flex freely and learn to bow your head. This kind of wisdom will help you turn the corner in a difficult situation.
7. "The Wisdom of Survival" (grasp flexibility and combine life cases), 400-word homework topic A mouse fell into a rice jar with half a can of rice, where it "sleeps after eating and eats after sleeping" every day.
Its body is getting fatter every day, and the rice in the jar is getting less and less every day. Finally, one day, the rice in the jar was eaten up by the mouse, but the mouse who had eaten round could no longer escape from the rice jar ... A donkey fell into a dry well, and its owner thought of many ways to save it. So just fill the dry well.
People were surprised to find that the donkey kept shaking off the soil on his back, stepping on it and lifting himself up bit by bit ... In this way, the donkey finally came out of the dry well with the help of those "well-filling soil". People will be in a similar living environment in society. Please write an article on the topic of "the wisdom of survival".
Write down your knowledge, experience or unique opinion about it. The title is self-made and the style is self-selected, with no less than 400 words.
Writing navigation 1, review the topic. When the topic is examined and the meaning is determined, the composition is half finished.
After careful reading, it is not difficult to understand that one of the mice and donkeys in the material is in a "rice jar" with superior conditions, and the other falls into a "dry well", which is embarrassing; Finally, rice survives, and greedy mice wait for extinction; In desperation, the donkey seems to die, but with the help of the "well-filling soil" that may cover it, it will live. As the saying goes, the advantages and disadvantages of the environment are very different and the fate is changeable.
The decisive factor is not the quality of the environment, but the wise attitude towards the environment, that is, seeing hidden worries in happiness, facing up to potential convertible factors in difficulties, turning disadvantages into advantages, and thus gaining opportunities for survival in unfavorable environments. 2. Draw up a vivid topic.
A good topic can grab people first, and the probability of success will increase 10%. You can use relational topics such as "mouse and donkey", "rice jar and dry well", "happy rice" and "filling the soil in the well", and you can also use topics such as "smart donkey", "smart well-filling the soil for survival", "living for wisdom", "starting from the donkey's dry well" and "wisdom for survival" as long as the words revolve around the topic.
3 find the right starting point and choose the best style. If you write deeply and thoroughly, your composition will be 70% to 80% successful.
Choosing an accurate starting point and familiar style is very important for the success or failure of an article. The key point in the topic is "people will be in similar living environments in society".
Therefore, the starting point of this topic should be the life enlightenment obtained from fables. For example, we can start with this: people in society should be prosperous and not addicted, trapped in "dry wells" and not pessimistic. Especially when we have to face "the end of our rope", we need to use our brains and "use our quick wits". Perhaps under the guidance of wisdom, we will have a bright future and strive for survival and development.
I have a profound personal experience in this respect (there are countless similar cases throughout the ages) ... If I have similar experiences, I can start a vivid and concise narrative, write the waves of things, and write an article based on the narrative; If there are many examples, we should choose typical examples, reasonably demonstrate our views and write an argumentative paper; If you write prose, you should fully mobilize the usual knowledge accumulation, enhance the cultural heritage, and achieve both literature and quality. In a word, we should choose our best style.
Dress up the language and add color to the composition. Appropriate quotation of famous aphorisms, such as "born in sorrow, died in happiness", "worry can rejuvenate the country, leisure can die", can be concise; Appropriate philosophical stories, such as "a rice jar can kill a mouse, a dry well can live a donkey, and it is a common thing in nature", "the last stop can activate the potential of life, and when you die, you can win the strategic shift, and the common sense of the world is vivid"; Moderately extending and broadening the realm, such as reeds hiding their lives in the foundation when they are cold, geckos abandoning their tails, and golden cicadas shedding their shells, are all wisdom of survival ... all of which can make the article colorful.
During the Spring Festival holiday, I took a break to read magazines and read several short stories quoted by Professor Li Yining in his academic speech in Northeast China, which were quite interesting to read. Among them, the article "The Race between the Tortoise and the Rabbit ―― Win-Win in the End" has caused me to rethink the meaning of cooperation. "Tortoise and Rabbit Race" is a fable familiar to China people. Since childhood, we have been instilled with the idea that pride goes before a fall. It seems that as long as we work hard, even if the innate conditions are insufficient, we will certainly win the final victory.
Is that really the case? Once the rabbit who learned the lesson stopped underestimating his enemy and ran harder than the tortoise, wouldn't it ruin the tortoise's hope of winning the championship? Faced with failure, the tortoise made a request: the route of the competition needs to pass through a river. This time the rabbit looked at the river and sighed, but the tortoise swam to the shore unhurriedly and won the first place.
When the tortoise and the hare were discussing another game, it suddenly occurred to them: since the inch is long and the foot is short, why not make use of their respective advantages and cooperate once? On land, rabbits run with turtles on their backs. When it reached the river, the tortoise swam with the rabbit on its back. The two competitors became partners. At the same time, they go further and see more scenery.
They helped and encouraged each other all the way, and even when they met with difficulties, they increased their courage to overcome them because of each other's support. Win-win strategy is actually a kind of high wisdom. When you help others and accept others' help, in the end, both sides will get what they can't get alone.
From this, I thought of a story with a similar moral: a man asked God to show him what is heaven and what is hell, and God agreed. It turns out that the objective environment of heaven and hell is exactly the same. Everyone has only one thing, some people only have water, some people only have food, and some people only have entertainment ... Hell is a tragic scene: people there refuse to share their property with others, they are dying, and they are still clinging to their property.
However, heaven is full of laughter and health. Everyone provides their own things without reservation, and also shares other people's possessions. Everyone blushes and everyone is happy in reciprocity. There is no heaven or hell in the world. It depends on how people create it.
Wise men build heaven with cooperation, while fools go to hell in a lock. As big as a country or a region, as small as an enterprise or a person, they all need to improve themselves through cooperation.
Qing * * * closed the door to the outside world, only to stop foreigners from breaking in, but to open the door with gunfire; Some officials are short-sighted and only stare at the small ones.