Often when we praise a child, we will say, "What a good child." Indeed, the traditional concept of parenting holds that good children should be good, listen to adults and be sensible, and only when they grow up can they make a difference. This is almost the "standard route" determined by parents for their children's growth. Modern baby-rearing experts believe that it is not necessarily a good thing for children to be too good. If you listen to your parents and everything is arranged step by step by adults, children will be very dependent on their parents when they grow up, lacking the sense of independence, imagination and creativity that modern society particularly emphasizes. Today, with the rapid development of science and technology and industry, it is impossible for children to succeed if they can't keep up with the development and needs of the times in character. So I think the standard of "good boy" should be changed, and the word "success" is more suitable. Parents may ask, what are the criteria for "successful" children? Generally speaking, success means that you can make use of your expertise in certain fields according to your hobbies and interests, achieve achievements recognized by yourself and society, realize your self-worth through continuous efforts and breakthrough innovation, and live a happy and healthy life at the same time. In fact, the standard of success varies from person to person. Different children have different personalities and characteristics, and have different development space. The key is to focus on the child's nature. In fact, parents don't have to deliberately design the future for their children, nor can they let their children develop in a certain direction with their own likes and dislikes or ambitions. Parents only need to cultivate their children's success quality in daily life, and children will naturally achieve satisfactory results in their future life and work. What are the qualities of success? Generally speaking, there are several points: healthy body, good habits, healthy intelligence, strong personality and advanced concepts. In order to make children have the above-mentioned successful qualities, parents should start from infancy, start from bit by bit, persevere and actively guide them. Reprint address: /article/article_view.asp? id=535 1