Psychological involvement difference
In communication? Involved? That is, the degree of psychological involvement in interpersonal communication refers to the degree to which people are worried about others and influenced by others. A high degree of psychological involvement means that individuals are too psychologically related to each other's information. For example, in interpersonal communication, some people will care too much about each other's affairs, and when friends encounter difficulties, they are more worried than friends; When a friend makes a mistake, he feels guilty and blames himself more than his friend. Too low psychological participation is the opposite. In the psychological expression of communication between China and the West, there is a clear difference between the high involvement of China people and the low involvement of westerners.
Knowing this difference, we should be careful not to get too involved in psychology in the process of communicating with westerners, so as to avoid misunderstanding and communication obstacles.
Differences in behavior patterns
In the way of communication, westerners like to cut to the chase; China people are used to euphemism and circuitous. ? Either this or that? Reasoning and judgment are the basic methods for western theorists to think about problems. This triggered it? Linear reasoning? This concept seems to be taken for granted. In China, most people use spiral or wave curve instead of straight line method. So far, the style or way of doing things caused by this traditional way of interpersonal communication has not been fundamentally changed.
Self-expression difference
Westerners worship personal struggle, especially take pride in personal achievements, and never hide their confidence, sense of honor and ecstasy after achievements. On the contrary, China culture advocates modesty and prudence, and does not advocate showing off personal honor. Modesty is a virtue at all times.
Differences in personality characteristics
There are significant differences in personality between China and westerners in childhood. Western parents generally believe that children are independent individuals from the day they are born, with their own independent will and personality. Neither parents, teachers nor relatives and friends have the privilege to dominate and restrict his behavior. In most cases, they can't make choices for their children. It is to make them feel that they are their own masters and respect and understand their wishes and psychology. China's parents, influenced by feudal social consciousness for a long time, think that children are? Yourself? Yes, the child is? Not sensible? 、? Irresponsible? Yes, parents take full responsibility for their children, so naturally they take their children's? Master? Pretend to be self-sufficient and ask most children to be obedient. What about obedient children? Good boy? , which greatly fetters children's independent consciousness and self-development.
In terms of style,
In ancient China, no matter how you behave or do things, it was a performance. China invented it? Being a man? This word has always been great. It means that people are not born, but made, made for people to see. China lives a relatively closed life, and his interpersonal circle is small, so he pays great attention to the quality of people who choose to associate, and always wants to make friends with people with good personality, so sometimes he seems very withdrawn. As far as personality is concerned, China people in modern society are not much different from China people in ancient times. Westerners are more direct (except for international relations), basically the same inside and outside, with an open attitude towards life, a large circle of contacts and no formality. Westerners have a plan and a strong sense of time. They think. You should work hard during working hours and enjoy yourself in your spare time. Unlike China culture, Americans never talk about work in their spare time. At work, managers keep a certain level distance from their subordinates, and they are extremely serious and serious about their work faults. However, at rest, after work or in bars and golf courses together, there is no hierarchical distance between superiors and subordinates, and the relationship is harmonious, warm and friendly, and managers will humbly ask their subordinates for advice. This shows that western culture can be divided into private space and public space. In private space, no one can invade. In public space, every member should be limited by the area of public space.
Differences between Chinese and Western Personality Standards
Westerners' judgment on people is absolute, and good and bad can be clearly divided; On the other hand, people in China have everything? Two sides? : obey the rules when obeying the law, and be more chaotic than anyone else when not obeying the law; Fast time is the fastest and slow time is the slowest in the world. A good time is the best time in the world, and a bad time may be the worst time in the world. Therefore, when judging China people, we should not use absolute standards, but consider the situation.
Interpersonal relationships formed in communication will also vary from culture to culture. China people pay more attention to feelings in interpersonal relationships, while westerners pay more attention to reality. Influenced by historical background and economic environment, West Renye Fang has formed a national character of exposure, frankness, independence, freedom, adventurous spirit and advocating equality. In interpersonal relationships, everyone is equal and everyone can get opportunities, that is, parents and children can call each other by their first names and compete with each other. Westerners seldom consider emotional factors, and they tend to focus on business without mercy. In material distribution, they also adhere to the principles of self-interest, equality and fair trade, won't they? Falling in love? 、? Build a relationship? Step aside. They obey the rules, even their relatives and friends? People? And then what? Things? Clear, clear between public and private. But this doesn't mean that westerners don't care about human feelings at all. They also make many friends and are warm and considerate to people, but they are not as emotional as China people, and often regard human feelings as a means of trading.
Influenced by Confucius' thoughts, China people pay attention to the unity of benevolence and courtesy in interpersonal communication. ? Ren? It is the standard of being a man, talking about the relationship between people and me, aiming at telling people how to deal with interpersonal relationships; ? A gift? It is the norm of people's social behavior, which stipulates the rights and obligations of social members and the corresponding behaviors, thus achieving social harmony. ? Ren? The interpersonal relationship advocated is not only the closeness between family members, but also the respect between different levels. It is a kind of interpersonal relationship based on blood relationship and with patriarchal nature. At the same time, under the influence of feudal ideology, China society pays attention to social status and emotional factors in interpersonal relationships, which should be considered when interacting with each other? Batman? 、? A friend has a letter? ; In the formation and comparison of western values in dealing with problems, public and private are not divided, which confuses personal emotional relations and public relations. This interpersonal relationship developed on the basis of family members, relatives and friends makes people interdependent and meet each other's needs, including emotions.
Nowadays, with the process of globalization and the rise of China in the world, it is of great significance to understand and master the differences in interpersonal communication between China and the West for solving the conflicts in communication and promoting national integration. Let's work together to maintain the development of various cultures and the stability of the country. Eastern and western cultures promote each other and learn from each other. In this way, the cultural course of mankind will go better.