From the perspective of system theory, there are two basic methods to optimize any system:
The first is goal setting.
The second is the feedback mechanism.
Everyone is a blank system, and by the age of 30, it has become a complex system, all shaped by "goals" and "feedback". Therefore, to optimize a person, we can work hard from these two aspects from an early age.
In the education of children, there are two ways to set goals:
Specifically, the first is to tell children stories about some characters, instill some truth or famous sayings into children through stories, and let children learn from these people.
The second way, for example, we can guide children to establish a belief that people should aim at living a good life, and a good life means that a person can connect with human wisdom, give play to his own wisdom and promote the process of civilization.
Adopting the first method is easier for children to accept, because children's way of thinking is relatively simple, "good guys and bad guys" and "heroes and bad guys", and then imitate the practice of "good guys" and "heroes" But this is a simple thinking, which is used too much in the education of parents and schools. To make matters worse, sometimes even some false stories are made up to make children accept those excellent qualities.
When those young people who are full of self-confidence and firmly believe in dignity enter the society and are mercilessly whipped by the society, when they find that all the stories in the book are false, they may think that the truth inside is just a fabrication, and then deny these originally correct truths.
No matter what the teacher thinks, the easiest way to solve this problem is:
Don't be moved by those fabricated stories. If you can't tell which is true and which is made up, then do it according to the ideas of sages and wise men.
To optimize ourselves from the feedback mechanism, we must first realize that the feedback mechanism established by the school is very different from the real world.
At school, the feedback we get is timely, accurate and isolated. Because the learning task in the school is actually very clear and simple, it is not complicated, so it is easy to get timely and accurate feedback. Moreover, a person's poor English learning will not affect his mathematics learning, and his poor physics will not affect his Chinese learning. The feedback he gets is independent and specific, and one feedback has nothing to do with the other, so he can easily know where his problem is.
In the real world, many times the feedback we can get is general and vague. Many parts are well done. If something goes wrong in one place, all previous efforts may be in vain. But at this time, we won't get a 90-point feedback just because "most of them are doing well", but we can only get a "complete failure" result. For example, things like choosing a job and changing jobs take a long time to get enough accurate feedback, and even some feedback at the beginning may be contradictory to the final result.
So what should we do? Teacher Wu Jun gave two suggestions:
First, we should master the most basic knowledge and the underlying methods and tools, and forget those experiences that can only be effective if we rely on timely feedback.
So how do you get the basic knowledge and the underlying methods and tools? You can experience it yourself slowly, but there are actually more efficient ways.
This is the second point. We should contact more people and gain as much social experience as possible.
Every industry has its own long-term development experience, and the veterans and predecessors in the industry know that these experiences require us to consult humbly. For those things that are not taught or can't be taught in school, our best way to learn is to learn from others. We need to be good at discovering the advantages of people around us. For those we meet, as long as they have some advantages over us, we should regard them as teachers.