I can give my own example.

During the college entrance examination, I failed in the first year, failed in the second year, and only passed in the third year. I spent three years working hard with my classmates for one year. When I graduated from Peking University, there were 50 classmates in our class. I was fifth from the bottom, but my grades did not hinder me from pursuing my own career. .

Human growth is a lifelong matter and is definitely not determined by the grades you get in primary school or college. Scores are very important to children, but you should not think that the child has no future just because his scores are low.

Parents must change the criteria for judging success.

A child's high score is one of the criteria for success, but it must not be regarded as an inevitable criterion, let alone the only criterion.

Otherwise your child will suffer countless injuries, because there is only one first place in any exam.

If there are 40 students in a class, except for the first place, are the other 39 kids all idiots? Are they all losers? Absolutely not!

So I There is a self-deprecating saying: In fact, it is not easy to be the first, because he walked very hard. When he looked ahead, there was no one chasing him. When he looked back, the whole class was chasing him, and he was chasing him. He is half dead, so there is nothing to be gained from being ranked first.

How happy it is to be the last one. If you look forward, you will see all the people who are being chased to death. If you look back, there will be no one chasing you. How cool do you think this kind of life is? Yeah!

Of course, you can’t share this view with your children. You must learn how to encourage your children. This time he was ranked last in the exam, and next time I will encourage him to take the second to last exam. This time he scored 20 points, and next time I will encourage him to score 30 points. Never say that your child got a score of 60 this time and you tell him not to enter the house unless he gets a score of 90 next time.

You put it this way, of course some children will study hard, but some children can’t get 90 points even if they work hard, so what should they do? Are they really not allowed to enter the house? Are you sure? Let him enter the house. If you let him in the house, it means that you don't keep your words. The children will know in the future. My parents don't keep their words, so it doesn't matter to me in the future. He won't let me in anyway. Parents are stabbed by their children.

So as parents, you must remember clearly that you must never let your children eat or live in anything you ask for, and you must never give them whatever they ask for.

For example, if this child loves McDonald's, you can use it as a temptation. If the child gets a score of 10, you will take him to McDonald's, and then you can improve the child's score little by little. Add it. For example, if your child gets a score of 60 on the test, you must not say that you will get a score of 90 next time, or scold the child.

You have to tell your child that a score of 60 is already pretty good. Next time, whether you can get a score of 70, I won’t compare you with your classmates in the class. I only see that you are better today than you were yesterday. Tomorrow will be better than today, and this child's score will go up imperceptibly.

Every time he goes up a little bit, you have to encourage him.

When the score is lower, you have to tell your child that this may be an accidental mistake. Your parents support you and never hurt your child's enthusiasm for learning.