One day I asked my brother seriously, why do you think I can't get married? My brother looked at my face and answered me more seriously. Don't you know that you are ugly? I said I don't know. He said that many things in this world are related to looks. For example, was Cinderella chosen by the prince because she was poor? That's because she is good-looking. But is ugly hopeless?
The first typical female Twitter reposts wonderful quotations on Weibo every day. For example, I will be unreasonable, nagging, crying and arguing with you. I'm like Monroe, but a man doesn't deserve my best if he can't handle my worst. I just want to see if you still care about me. Every time I see such words, I feel it's great to say them. That's the feeling. Have to comment on forwarding. You can dump such a girl.
The second kind is a pseudo-female man. Whenever a woman is rude, she thinks she is a woman. In fact, everyone really misunderstood. The three words "female man" stand for gentleness, while "Han" stands for skill. Every time you gently remind them, the other party will take out the domineering tricks, blow you up, and then call you hypocritical, severely question you, and say that you dare to be yourself. I want to ask them if I can be yourself.
Relatives and friends often tell you that you can't find a boyfriend because your standards are too high. Don't trust them. What they mean is that you simply don't deserve the standard man you like. An ugly orange will try to be sweeter because of its ugliness. Do we still have the face not to work hard? The standard man you like always tries to sweet talk because he is ugly. Are we still ashamed not to try?
Finally, I'll give you four words: Sometimes you have to have something in life and you have to stick to it all the time. If you want to find someone who is not afraid of ugliness, you will have a boyfriend if you work hard.
Face an unsuccessful life
Li Yuanyuan: How to face an unsuccessful life? First of all, what is an unsuccessful life? I think, I, including everyone at the scene, no one can say that your life is an unsuccessful life, because your life is not over at all. As long as we are not dead, we just have a failure in life. No one can say that your life is an unsuccessful life.
Ma Weiwei: Yuanyuan tells us that as long as people are not dead, we can't judge success or failure. Popular chicken soup for the soul often tells us a truth: as long as you persist and work hard, you will succeed. If you don't succeed, everyone has different standards for success. As long as you have spiritual satisfaction, you are successful. I don't know what the self-deception ability of all of you here is, but I will always find that in this play of life, I am not the protagonist, but a walk-on.
Li Yuanyuan: I am a walk-on in your life and all of you, but I am the protagonist of my own life, so when I fail, when I am booed by the audience, I can and must sing alone. Yes, I'm from Peking University, but in high school, no one thinks I'm a poor student, the kind who didn't do his homework and passed the 180 exam in the whole grade. Then one day, the poor student suddenly wanted to be admitted to Peking University, and then worked hard like a psychopath. Of course, I still didn't pass the college entrance examination. Some people say that you have failed. Did I fail? How easy it is to admit defeat, much easier than that kind of persistence and patience day after day! But I don't believe it! Four years later, I returned to Peking University for postgraduate study. Therefore, a person will never try anything, he will never take risks, he will never fail, and he is not qualified to fail! But you are different. You dreamed, you were crazy, you cried, laughed, struggled, you loved, hated and regretted. Therefore, as an ordinary person among all living beings, you have tried your best. Who is qualified to say that your life is unsuccessful?
Ma Weiwei: Once great achievements are made, there are countless denominators in a molecule. In fact, the success rate is extremely low. After all, monkeys know that it is the instinct of every animal to climb trees with more bananas, weigh the gains and losses, and seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. But do you know that the pursuit of this almost hopeless success is what distinguishes us from other animals? Because you are almost doomed to fail, every day you expect success is full of a kind of happiness called anxiety. When you try your best to fail, you will know that your life has never been wasted, because it is wasted on ideals.
Li Yuanyuan: Every ideal is worth your life. Life is so short, so I choose to be a blind and enthusiastic fool, always young, always in tears, always believing in the meaning of dreams and efforts. I believe that regret is more terrible than failure, because an unsuccessful life is only imperfect, but it is complete.
Ma Weiwei: Tagore said, "Birds fly through the sky without leaving any trace." But my friend, you have to know, you have to understand that you have flown in this sky yourself.
What can young people do for the world?
I am a student of law school. My professor in every class has said this in his class. They often say: the law stipulates this, but in real life. Real life is a magical life. In real life, honest people who respect the rules are often unknown all their lives. On the contrary, people who cheat will gain fame and fortune. So young people like me often have experienced seniors come and pat you on the shoulder and tell you, young people, you still don't understand. What I want to ask is what we young people can do for the world.
One day, the post-90s generation will be the bank president, the post-90s generation will be the entrepreneur or even the president. But when the whole society is occupied by the post-90s generation, I want to ask you what do you want to make this society look like? I know that not everyone can be a person who stands at the forefront and masters the destiny of the country. You and I are just ordinary people, a small screw in this huge social machine.
When I was studying, I was told by my parents every day that whatever you do, don't delay my study; When I graduated, I sent my resume everywhere, waiting for a company to admit me; Being forced to get married on holidays, getting married and buying a house will take me the best 20 years of my youth to repay the loan, so that every young person is busy with life, has no dreams, has no time to care about politics, the environment, the fate of the country and has no energy to do anything for this society.
But later, I found that there is one more thing that you and I can do, and that is: our generation must not become bad on the way to old age. Don't be the kind of adult you hated most when you were a child. In the future, if you go to the roadside to set up a stall, you can't sell gutter oil snacks. When you start a factory as a boss in the future, don't cut corners to produce some inferior products.
It is very, very serious for every ordinary person to be a good person in his post, because each of us was born to change the world. I am a law student. If I am a fair and strict judge in the future, then the society will be better because of having a good judge.
I hope everyone will remember that even if you are given 100,000 reasons to do evil, you should keep your integrity and bottom line for one reason: you are not an animal! You are lonely. I hope that all of us born after 90 can become that kind of valuable young people, and you will hate evil all your life. You will never go with the flow, you will never go with the flow, you will never bow your head, you will never give up your principles, and you will never be disappointed in human nature.
Therefore, my dear post-90s generation, if someone tells you again not to dislike young people and adapt to this society, then you should face him like a real warrior and tell him, "I'm not like you, I'm not here to adapt to society, I'm here to change society."
Please don't fall in love for the purpose of marriage.
It is said that everyone once had a crush on others. Do you remember the person you secretly loved when you were seventeen or eighteen? Is she the kind of Shen Jiayi who studies hard and looks handsome, or the kind of Rukawa Kaede who loves playing basketball and is particularly cool? Think of him now, smile or silence? Or do you think what you wanted in the past is just that now?
I found that when we are most willing to love someone, it is just the time of unrequited love.
I have had a crush on a boy since my sophomore year. This is an exciting thing. Every time I see him talking to him, I try to smile. I'm afraid he knows, I'm afraid he doesn't know, and I'm even more afraid he knows but pretends not to know. Secret love is also a lonely thing. I think his name is only safe in my mouth.
Do you think there is pure friendship between boys and girls? (No) Yes, as long as one of them is killed and doesn't say anything, the other one will play the fool to the end.
From beginning to end, I played the role of his most loyal buddy. Every time he needed help, I was the first to rush in. He said, I know him best. Why don't I understand? No one knows him better than I do. I know he likes petite girls. I started to lose weight from a fat man weighing 120 kilograms, and lost 10 kilograms. He often praises others that I am the kind of sensible girl. Yes, because I don't know what else to do besides being sensible. I want to give him everything I have, but I have nothing; I want to give up everything for him, and I have nothing to give up.
What about you? Do you still remember the feeling that you like to die alone? One day, when you fall in love with someone, it suddenly seems that you have a soft spot, as if you have armor. Perhaps after several periods of injury and unforgettable love, they become smarter, more rational and more skilled. But I want to ask you, do you really not believe in love? Then why do you cry when you watch Titanic and Love Story in Beijing? Do you really prefer cleverness and sophistication to impulsiveness? Whether you are wet behind the ears or you have already been scarred by love, you are eager to have such a love in your heart. It is sincere, exclusive and lasting.
If a person is hurt in love because of the truth of love and because he loves others deeply, does he look stupid? Is it sad? No, those who consider all kinds of conditions to get married, only to find that they have no memory of love when they get married. Love never seems to have happened. I think those people are pathetic. So I hope we can try to love someone again, not for the purpose of getting married, like a girl of seventeen or eighteen.
I love him so much in my heart, he can't hear me, I love him so much, he can't see me, but I love him like a lonely Sivir, so embarrassed and so brave, and I want to remember it until the day I die. I think it's precious. I think it's beautiful. I won't regret it.
If someone tells me that I love you to get married, or that I love you to get married, then he looks down on me, and he also looks down on my love, because for an idealistic girl who is 23 years old and can't be grounded, it's terrible not to get married all her life, but what's even more terrible is that some people have been married all their lives, but they have never been loved.
You can't live without doing it.
20 13, one of the top ten online buzzwords. Without left, there is no death. Have you all heard of it? If you don't do it, you won't die But what I want you to remember today is not that there is no left, no death, but no left, no death, no life.
What is "Left"? Doing is just being content with the status quo. I like writing very much. My brother came to the Super Speaker program and scolded me countless times. He said you were just fooling around. You're not studying acting or hosting. What's the use for your future if you study law alone and participate in TV programs? Maybe I just love making. Suddenly I felt that the life I repeated every day was boring, so I came. I made it myself, and I can bear hardships myself.
Every time I write a manuscript, I have to stay up until one or two. Every time I stand on the stage and wait for everyone to vote, I will clench my fist nervously, but I have no regrets at all. I will always remember these moments.
There are people on this stage who can "work" better than me. You will see him later. He is my new idol, Lin Yijie. His mother's expectation for her is to go to college well, to be a doctor and a teacher in the future, but he chose sports, a road with high risks and low success rate. He likes running to take risks. His legs span the North Pole, the South Pole and the Sahara Desert, the largest tropical desert in the world. I am feeling in my heart that this person's life is a life of "doing" death. This kind of death doesn't mean that you fell down on the road of life and lost a companion, so you will really die! But I also feel that his life is particularly wonderful. If he goes to college according to his parents' wishes, he may succeed in the future, but in his life, he sees not only successes again and again, but miracles again and again.
Dear friends, since childhood, we are all listening to other people's voices and drawing squares for our lives. The line on the left is academic success, and the line on the right is a stable and good job. The top line is to get married before the age of 30, and the bottom line is to get married and have children. It seems that only in this grid can you be safe and be considered happy by others. Once you want to jump out of this box, someone will say that you are "doing". But I know that when everyone is young, there will be a little impulse to "do" in their hearts. Obviously, you should take an examination of economics, law and civil engineering. You said you wanted to learn acting, and you wanted to act in movies. You want to marry the right person, you are still waiting, you say you want true love. In fact, most young people don't know what they want. Do you know what kind of life you want to live in the future? Come to think of it, I don't know. I don't know what kind of life I want to live in the future, which city I want to go to and what kind of work I want to do. I know what I don't want: I don't want the routine, stable and plain life, and I don't want the life where I can see death at a glance.
You may say that life is dull, so what are you doing? Every time I hear a young man in his twenties and thirties say such things, I think he is not wrong. I just feel it's a pity that the world is so big and wonderful, but you are willing to stay in a grid and live a disciplined and self-disciplined life without seeing anything. There is no risk in such a life, and it will not be laughed at by others, but I always think that the one who has not tasted all the wine is him. A person who has been silent all his life and dare not "work" has never lived a wonderful and rich life.
After all, without Left, there would be no death and no life!
Poor son
Before the speech begins, I want to ask you a question: Who among you thinks that you come from an ordinary family, even a poor family, and you can only get ahead on your own in the future? (Almost everyone raises their hands) Who among you thinks that you are a child of a rich family and can get at least a little help from your parents when you are struggling? (Nobody raises their hands)
A few days ago, there was a senior HR (human resources manager) who worked in a bank for ten years. He posted a post on the Internet called "It is difficult for poor children to be born again", which means that it is more difficult for poor children in our society to get ahead and succeed than our parents' generation. This post caused a particularly extensive discussion. Do you think this sentence makes sense?
Let me start with myself. Our family was born in poverty. Our family is not poor. There is no door in our house. Now that I think about it, I don't even know how my parents, an ordinary rural couple, gave up their three children, and my two brothers and I went to college from the countryside to study. I always feel lucky. My father and mother don't read much. My mother didn't even go to the first grade of primary school. She really thinks reading is very important. No matter how hard she suffers, she will send our three children to college. I will never compare myself with those rich children and say that there is any difference or inequality between us, but we must admit that there are some inequalities in this world. We don't have many advantages and shortcuts, but we can't complain.
Everyone's life is different. Some people are born with a golden key, while others are born without parents-life is not as good as life, and how we live depends entirely on our feelings. You have been complaining all your life, then your life is a life of complaining; You have been feeling touched all your life, then your life is a touched life; You are determined to change this society with your life, then your life is the life of a fighter.
There is a documentary in Britain called Seven Years of Life. 12 seven-year-old children from different classes were interviewed in the film and revisited every seven years. The film finally finds that the children of the rich are still rich, and the children of the poor are still poor. But there is a poor child named Nick in it. He finally became a university professor through his own struggle. It can be seen that there are fish escaping from the net in the palm of fate. And in real life, there are countless examples of children from poor families attacking back.
So when we encounter failure, we can't attribute all the reasons to birth, let alone complain why our parents are not as good as others' parents. Because of poor family circumstances, all the possibilities of a person's success have not been cut off. When I encounter great difficulties in my life, I will walk up and down the streets of Beijing and watch people come and go. I thought, "Li Yuanyuan, you are really helpless in this city. You only have yourself, you have nothing. What you can do now is to fight your way out in this society alone. "
This speech is now the last one. In fact, I found out when I asked: most of us are not from rich families, and we have to rely on ourselves! So you have to believe that fate gives you a lower starting point than others to tell you that you can use your life to fight a story of Jedi counterattack. This story is about independence, dreams, courage and perseverance. It is not a natural fairy tale, and there is no human suffering. The story is that where there is a will, there is a way, and fire burns us. The story is that hard work will eventually pay off, and 3,000 armor can swallow Wu!