Touma friends must know the famous saying "I see something in you" by the 2014 International Speech Contest Champion Dananjaya Hettiarachchi. Original! Come! These are the exact words that former Global Chairman Balraj Arunasalam, DTM (2017-2018) said to him when he met Dananjaya in Sri Lanka in 2003 to promote the Touma Club. “I see something in you…but I don’t know what it is”.

In a world that pursues speed, "having faith in someone is a rare act, but it can be life-changing. Inside each of us is? a unique quality, a hidden talent.? I see something in you, I feel something for you, and I know what it is! It is your true potential! Cultivate it, and let it shine. ”

Next time you meet someone familiar or unfamiliar , will you see him with new eyes? Maybe you will see? something? in them!

Another respected Global Chairman - Robert “Bob” Barnhill, DTM, AS (1996-1997). He holds a J.D. from Texas Tech University where he teaches. He joined the Tou Ma Club in 1983 and received great help in teaching and mentoring during his participation in the Tou Ma Club. Even when he was ill, he never missed a chance to win, and he even drove from Texas to Vancouver to attend an international summit with his wife Jana, who is also a DTM.

Let’s take a look at the wonderful content he shared:

※ ?Each of us has a special? gift? to share with the world; however, most people fail to let their song be heard.

※? in our quest to make? leadership? development as much a part of Toastmasters as communication training is today.

When interviewing Robert in 2013, he said that he most wanted to be remembered as "a teacher of hope". "...gave me the ability to believe that tomorrow can be a better day, and not to quit, not to give up...and because of that, I have a? light."

1. Want to be funny?

→ How do you learn “funny”? Comedy skills, like any other skill, can be practiced and improved. In fact, there are many points that can be explored in the most ordinary and daily life experiences. Be a thoughtful person, think more, ponder more, and associate more. It’s time to get a small notebook to record every detail. (Does anyone remember the wonderful Mrs. Maisel in the American TV series?)

→ Study the sources. Study other people’s humorous speeches, comedy performances, etc. Jot down their punchlines and think about them over and over again, studying their structure. Clever use of humor can help you see opportunities to shake expectations and create surprise!

→ Learn the laughter triggers. What can trigger laughter in people's psychology? Use surprise, embarrassment, audience superiority, recognition, dissonance, release. Due to space issues, only one will be explained here, incongruity. Dissonance refers to the imposition of characteristics of one category onto another category. For example, let the animals talk~For the rest, please read page 13 of the magazine~

→ Make them laugh and remember. Remember that the main goal of a speech is to deliver a memorable message clearly and effectively. And the role of humor is to find that Have a happy moment and spread your message.

2.Ten tips for introducing your speech globally

If one day you are not in Xi'an but in other corners of the world, the audience will no longer be your compatriots, but have different As foreigners with different cultural customs, what should we pay attention to before giving a speech? People in different places may have different views on successful speeches~ Listen to Dean Foster’s summary of more than 30 years of speech experience in more than 100 countries around the world: how can you get started on the right (cultural) foot?

10) Great beginnings depend on?what you?want to achieve.

Is your speech inspirational, instructive, entertaining or providing cutting-edge information? Different purposes mean using different methods of delivery. For example When giving a technical speech in Germany, it is not advisable to use too many fun facts, because Germans are always serious in professional fields.

9) Show who you are from the start.?

Whether you are introducing yourself in a country that prefers a more casual or formal setting, it's important to review who you are with? humility. Be humble, even to establish authority, but also to show that you are serving your audience better.

8) Demonstrate your admiration of their culture. Endear yourself as an admirer of the country's achievements.

7) Consider the language trap.

Don't think otherwise Listeners from all countries have very good English proficiency. It’s better to omit polysyllabic words and abbreviations when speaking. If the audience does not understand the language, the message of the speech cannot be conveyed.

6) Meet with your translator. If you need translation, communicate with the translator in advance. Simultaneous translation is best.

5)?Watch your nonverbal message.

Everyone has already judged the speaker in the first 10 seconds on stage. Gestures, smiles, facial expressions, and stance all reflect whether a speaker on stage will be accepted by the audience.

4)?Your introduction also indicates the way you think.

Some cultures prefer speeches with clear logic and sufficient facts; some cultures prefer conclusions first and stories second. The final structure. Learn more about these differences before giving your speech.

3) Master the technology.

Pictures, presentations and other technical props must be prepared. In addition, what is presented should also take into account the ways in which the audience is more accustomed to their culture. For example, East Asians prefer words rather than letters to demonstrate a concept.

Also keep all the images culturally neutral, or at least culturally sensitive.

2) Have a game plan for cultural “damage control”.

In case you say some culturally offensive stuff, admit it You made a mistake out of ignorance and thank the audience for letting you know more.

1) Be humble.

Last and most important is humility and gratitude. The audience is not only judging you, but also your country and everything you stand for - from you From the moment you step on stage.

3. Create Culture of Candor-communication skills

Everyone is happy to hear compliments, but advice is hard to hear and hard to practice. What if an IE confesses your shortcomings? How to encourage and accept candid individual feedback gracefully? The author of this article, Kelth Ferrazzl, is the winner of the Golden Gavel Award in 2018.

☆?Give clear permission? Make sure your IE feels safe being candid with you?

☆?Watch your emotions If you hear unexpected feedback, try not to be defensive or upset

☆ Be generous and strive for greater connectedness Tell IE why you value his candid views.

☆?Say “thank you”. No matter what kind of feedback it is, don’t forget to say thank you. Next time, you can tell them how you used their feedback effectively.

☆?Make it a habit. It is a skill that few have the courage to practice, but it's a crucial practice to master if you hope to?take ?advantage of valuable mentors in your life. Ture collaboration is impossible when people don't trust one another to speak with candor. It takes work to create a candid environment supported by respectful, honest relationships, but it's a challenge every leader should embrace.

1. Decluttering homes and lives

When I saw the word declutter, I changed it to WeChat signature for a while. It was so appropriate. It means decluttering! Clear away clutter. A professional walks into a customer's home and can determine what the person's problems are based on the space she sees.

A clear space acts as a powerful launch pad for every area of ??our lives. “First you need to gain? clarity? of what is in the space, then you can reflect on how these items? align with your vision? for the space and your daily life. "How to become the master of your own time and space? The author Missy

Sheehan gave the "Ten Steps" and "Four Stages". If you are interested, please find it in the original text. I hope our speeches and lives will become well-organized.

2. How to disagree diplomatically?

Encounter different opinions at work? How to express disagreement effectively and elegantly? Check it out.

□? depersonalize Treat the problem and the person separately. When you have a disagreement at work, understand that the person with whom you disagree is not an opponent, but a colleague. Depersonalizing a decision can enable you to? remove the “win”? from the equation and? enjoy the exchange? of ideas.

□ acknowledge and add. Words: Say “I hadn’t thought of that . What I was thinking was...", avoid saying "yes, but..."

□? Use "I agree" cautiously. If you say "I agree" at the beginning, the other party will not listen at all. But haha. Put "I agree" in the middle. For example: “On the point you just made, I’m in complete agreement. On this point my perspective is…”. Your opinions are best delivered in a way that make people? feel constructive, not judgmental.

Moving member stories, exciting member achievements, enlightening speaking skills. Opening the book is helpful, and you are welcome to share your insights.

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"READ and SHARE Toastmaster Magazine" is the D88 region in 19-20 One of the LEAD (Leadership Experience for Advanced Development) projects. This activity aims to learn more about the international development of Tou Ma, get to know outstanding Tou Ma partners around the world, learn speech and leadership, achieve better personal growth and publicize the benefits of Tou Ma by reading and sharing the contents of Tou Ma magazine.

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Karen QUAN, IP2

VPE of Xi'an Hi-Tech TMC (19.7-20.6)